It takes time to establish a good relationship and it also takes carefulness to understand if two people are actually compatible with each other, and that’s why dating/courtship is important when you are ready to settle down.
But there are so many dating advice out there,- on the internet, books, CD’s, seminars, all about the roles of a man and a woman during dating.
While some of them works perfectly well, most of them no longer fit the move of how things works in the world today, and have left both men and women in the middle of the sea, when it comes to finding love.
Question is which report will you accept? Which courtship/dating advice should you adopt now?
In this article, I will show you some dating advice’s that sounds smart, which you should totally disregard.
Here are few reasons you will read this post carefully
- you will learn what work and what doesn’t work when it comes to dating
- It will help you streamline your search for that near perfect spouse.
If you are ready for that, then let’s go.
8 smart dating advice you should disregard.
1 Every dating must lead to marriage:- Although this sounds so sweet and true, but it is not true. Every dating doesn’t result to marriage.
It is important to have the full purpose of courtship which is marriage in mind when you are dating, but that doesn’t mean it will result in marriage.
Dating is surely a time to mingle with someone; and a time people know if two of you is fit for each other.
But, if you find out that you are not compatible with each other, your next step is to quit and go your separate ways.
If all things are good, then you are free to go ahead and marry.
You must always be ready to let go of any relationship that didn’t work out.
Don’t see it as a failure, but as a learning process.
2 The good guys are all taken:- That’s also a lie. There are lots of nice guys out there, and believe me when I told you that your man is there waiting for you to show up.
Men are like buses, when you miss one, another man will surely appear.
Like I always say, be willing to let go of any that didn’t work out well; keep searching and praying, the man God reserved for you will come to you.
3 Date more than one man:- You have heard that it is good to date more than one man before you chose the right from the crowd.
But, I implore you to ignore that advice. It is counter intuitive to your plans of focusing, and anxiety about whom to chose, and you’ll always be worried about hurting someone else.
My question is this, what would you do, if they find out? You may end losing all.
Just stick to one man and see if it will work out for both of you.
4 You must offer sex to make him marry you:- One thing I know is that sex can’t keep a man who does not wish to be kept.
Sex is not a criterion for marriage.
The point is that any guy that wants a committed relationship with you, may not pressure to have sex as you are dating, especially when he is considering a long time relationship.
Again sex was designed as ‘ a response to love and not a foundation “. It should be used as a seal and cement that holds an already established relationship.
The fact is that the same guy you want to sleep with in other to get married could also be ready to lay another woman out there just to taste the water.
That’s the reason I said sex is not a criteria for marriage.
5 You’ll get to know more about your partner during dating:- It is possible you can know few things about your would be partner during dating, but not all.
Study conducted in 1997 shows that only couples who have stayed longer could know each other well.
The length of courtship is usually not enough to know him/her that well.
Just seek to know as much as you can, and if you eventually commit to each other, then everything will be clear to you.
6 Disregard last minute date invites: – You got a massage from your date on Monday morning asking for a date in the evening.
With excitement you told your friends in the office about it, and your were bombard with different advises.
Some said it’s good to honor it, and other asked you to play hard to get.
Now, you want to make your date understand that you are the busy type, and that you are mindful of your hubbies and that you prefer to socialize with your friends than any other thing.
Did you know you could be missing out a lot doing that?
Unplanned dates are always unforgettable.
7 Allow him pay for the first date:-Although this was practiced by our parents, but it doesn’t work in our time.
Expecting a Man to Pay on your first date look sounds good, but in our world today it looks presumptuous.
Although most men like to pay on the first date but there is nothing wrong if you can ask him to let you pay: but if he insists, then let him do that, but offer to pay the next time.
8 Let the guys make the first move: – This sounds so romantic but it is old fashioned.
Though courting is not dead, but it’s good to see dating with a fresh mind and with open heart.
You have the power to ask that person you’ve been chatting and speaking with online for a date or may be ask your date for a second rendezvous.
Remember, if you don’t ask, you will not receive. So go ahead and make the first move.
I have done my part by showing you 10 dating advice you should completely disregard.
They sound so sweet, so romantic, and yet they are not worth given a second thought to.
Besides, I always implore my readers to look inside them for a good guidance in everything.
Always remember that the best advice that works perfectly well is the one you give yourself.
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