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invest in your marriage when you are single

July 19, 2018

How to invest in your marriage when single.

invest in your marriage when you are single

If you are hoping to get married someday, then there’s a need to learn how to invest in your marriage now you are still single.

Why Did I Say So?

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You see, there’s nothing worse than having a bad marriage/ relationship; it can only be compared to a furnace of fire.

According to research conducted at the University of Nevada many years ago using three hundred and seventy-three (373) “heterosexual couples” for investigation, it shows that marital conflicts have a great negative impact on the health of both couples.

The number one cause of that is a lack of preparations before getting in.

Simply put, many people never bother to Invest in their marriage, even when they are married, let alone when they are single.

Many people rushed into a relationship without properly investing in it, probably they thought that things could become much better when they are in.

But how can you get better results without good preparation?

Jackson Brown Jr. Said in his quote said that “the best results you will get tomorrow is doing your best today.

So what do you want?

It is obvious that investing in your relationship early will not make you the perfect spouse, but you could be a lot better than not doing anything at all.

Investing in as a single will definitely yield great results in the future, and I am here to show you how to do just that in this post.

How to Invest in your marriage while still single

1) Start with a prayer:-The first thing to do is to rely on God for a good partner and it starts with a prayer.

Tell God about your choice of spouse, the type of home you want to have as well as the children you want to raise,

Remember the word of God in the book of proverbs 3 verse 5-6 says we should trust in the Lord with all our hearts and lean not on our own understanding, and that we should acknowledge all our ways to Him and He will direct our parts.

In that case, if you tell him everything you want to have in your relationship, He will surely make you successful at last.

2) Work on becoming your best: – The success and the failure of your marriage depend on you.

That simply means that if you want your relationship to become successful, then you have to do your best individually and the truth is that you can give what you don’t have.

Start adding values to yourself, by learning, reading, attend seminars, and browse the internet for how to be your best.

3) Surround yourself with good people: – Evil company corrupts good manners; that is a slogan that can’t be neglected.

The people you identify yourself with are the once that will influence you.
If your friends are good and know-how to value the opposite sex, then you are bound to learn those when you move with them.

However, if your friends are flirts, divorced or irresistible, that means you may learn those from them also.

Since you are planning to get married someday, have good people surrounding you.

4) Be prepared mentally: – There is a great difference between single and married, it’s a different world altogether.

What works for you while you were still single may not work when you are married.

This is the reason you should prepare mentally to adapt to the new life that is coming.

Understand that marriage brings someone that’s totally different from you or your background to be together forever and so you should expect a lot of things coming up when you are married.

5) Be health-conscious:- Many couples are having a difficult time now in their marriage because they were so negligent about their health in your youthful days.

Some are unable to have children now because they didn’t take care of their reproductive organs early.

To make sure it didn’t happen to you, go for a laboratory test and check if all things are functioning properly, if they are not okay, start treating yourself as you wait for your spouse to be. That will save you a lot of stress and time in the future.

6 Equip yourselves domestically:- Start learning things you don’t know before about how to keep the house.

If you don’t know how to sweep, wash dishes, cut the vegetables, then learn it.

And most importantly, learn how to cook.
The best way to get your spouse’s love is through his stomach, so learn to prepare all the good foods and make him love you forever.

Conclusion

Finally: – if you want a successful marriage, start investing in it now that you are still single. What you do no, will go a long way to help you when you get married.

Marriage

June 23, 2018

by Aik

7 Sure Ways of getting ready for marriage.

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It amazes me so much how couples put all their efforts and time into preparing for their wedding and spend little or no time at all getting ready for marriage itself.

It is supposed that the couple should take a good time to consider things like how to take care of finances, how to take care of the children, the number of children you want to have as well as who will take charge of whatever, before getting married.

These things are supposed to be a priority, but they are not even thought about until after the wedding and that’s why there are so many broken marriages today.

If you are about to wed in no distant time from now and have never thought about the life that comes after the wedding, then this post is for you and I will show you some things you’ll need to do as you are getting ready for marriage.

If you are ready, then let’s get going now.

1) Get your finances right:-

One of the challenges that rear up its head a few years after the wedding is the issue of money

A survey by Sun trust Bank shows that 35% of arguments in marriage comes from the issues of money and that if it takes couple-few years for couples to recover from other challenges, that many couples never recovers from that caused by money.

The fact is that couples don’t just have issues about money, they hide their transactions from each other.

However, this issue of money would have been sorted out before the wedding, but who really wants to talk about that when everyone is so excited about the wedding itself.

To avoid it from happening in your marriage, you have to start early and think of how to go about things like – whether you will have a joint account or not, how to pay the bills and other important things.

2) Set goals for your marriage:-

The same way you set goals for your works or business to make you increase your productivity, you should also set goals for your relationship if you want it successful.

Setting goals helps you strengthen your marriage because it gives you the strength to work as a team to achieve a common goal.

Setting goals also helps you and your better half understand each other and also help you achieve a great fulfillment in other aspects of your marriage.

It’s a very good idea for both of you to talk about your future dreams.

How would you like your relationship to be in the next 3,5_7 or more years be?

It all starts with what you do today.

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3) Talk about your expectations:-

Communication still stands the number one bedrock of every successful relationship and you start from your time of dating to get it right since both of you are planning to be a team.

It’s also pertinent that both of you should be open as you talk about anything that matters as you discuss your future marriage.

As a couple to be, there is a need to discuss household, intimacy, roles, finance, and other important things.

4) Give up your bad habits:-

Many marriages are strained today because many couples are unable to break their individual habits.
You see= }} habits are very common to everyone whether it’s good or bad, but while the good ones help to build your relationship, the other will definitely interfere negatively in your marriage.

And so the best thing to do is to take absolute care about those habits you know that can be detrimental to your relationship. It may be drinking habit, gambling or drug; whatever it is, the way forward is giving them up completely before getting into marriage so that your personal problem doesn’t become your marriage problem.

5) Clear your debts:-

The best way to begin a relationship is to start “fresh”

Getting into any relationship with a shipload of debts will overwhelm your relationship because the time both of you will use to focus on your future finance will be devoted to how to settle your old debts and the greatest tension and stress will start when your debtors will start knocking on your door.

To avoid that from happening, make sure you settle your debts before getting married.

6) Have a relationship with God:-

With God all things are possible and without Him, nothing can work.
If you really want to have a good and successful marriage, then you must let Christ pilot the boat of the touring relationship.

Firstly, you have to get your relationship with God right before your personal relationship will work out after that, then ask Him to lead and then go ahead a follow Him, for He will never disappoint you.

7) Learn good communication skills-

If actually communication is important in marriage and 45% of marriages are destroyed by lack of good communication, then there’s a need to get your communication skills right.

The fact is that the closer we become with someone, the easier we tend to hurt then or they hurt us, and so you must be careful with your choice of words because it not always what we say that matters but his we said it.

If you find it hard to communicate properly with your spouse, maybe you find yourselves quarreling anytime you want to discuss as husband and wife, then you must work on your communication skills.

One way to improve your skills is to be a good listener, I mean listening most often with undivided attention than talking.

Finally

Here this. Don’t plan your wedding without being ready for the marriage itself. My step process of getting ready for marriage is enough to guide you on all there is to know about marriage and how to be ready for it.

See you at the top.

I am still your Friend

murphyaik.

Marriage

March 12, 2018

by Aik

Powerful signs you are ready for marriage

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If your wish is to get married any moment from now, then it is important to be sure you are really ready for marriage: never bow to peer pressure or rush into any relationship simply because your friends are getting paired daily.

it’s impertinent you get yourself pretty ready for marriage before taking that giant strides because marriage requires more than mere love to succeed.

There are principles for a successful relationship and if you are ignorant of those principles, then you’ll not go far in your marriage.

Here are a few reasons why you shouldn’t rush into marriage now.

1) Marriage is sweet, but it is not always rosy:-

You’ve seen most of your friends married and most times you see them walking in the street holding hands and laughing and you are wondering when your time will come.

Well, your time will definitely come and very soon too: but don’t think those couple laughs like that always.

They also have their fair share of fights and quarrel too, they only know how to sacrifice to make their relationship great after the fight.

2) Marriage is for a lifetime:-

At the marriage ceremony, People made a vow to be married to their spouses -in good health and in sickness till death.

I have heard people say they are ready to divorce and divorce again when the marriage isn’t doing well.

However, if you understand that marriage is for a lifetime, then you should know that it takes daily nurturing to make any marriage work.

3) Love is not enough to make a marriage successful:–

If you think love is enough to make a marriage successful, then think again.

Love only helps you to kick-start the relationship, but it can’t keep you there for a long time.

Of course, you’ve fallen in love with him/ her and you are feeling the butterfly in your stomach. That’s interesting. But what if the two of you love each other so much and there is no compatibility, don’t you think all will not work out well.

4) Marriage will not make you complete:-

You are rushing into that marriage because you believe that you will be happy.

In 2012, research was conducted, and it was found that couples who were married were not as happy as the couples who live together and yet not married.

Also, the research conducted by Bureau of economic researchers in 2014 show that the only thing that matters is the quality of relationship you have with your partner. “if you consider the person you married as your best friend, then happiness comes.; in that case, friendship comes first than happiness in every relationship.

For all these reasons I mentioned above, don’t you think there’s every need to get yourself ready first before rushing into that relationship?

In this post I will show you how to know if you are ready for marriage, to avoid divorce at the last moment.

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Ways to know if you are really ready for marriage.

-Ask yourself if you are ready:-

The first thing to do to know if you are really ready to walk down the aisle is to ask yourself questions about how ready you are.

Ask yourself what you know about being married. Although there are no such things as a perfect way to make a marriage successful, there are things that help in achieving success when it comes to it.

How many of it do you know? A story was told about a little boy who told his father that he wants to get married, but the father bought a pig for him and told him to rear it first as that will show his readiness for marriage.

I am not liking women to be pigs, but here is the rest of the story.

One day, the boy became so angry and kill the pig because she returned to the mud after bathing her.

The father then told him that killing the pig signifies that he’s not ready to have a woman.

The simple fact is that there’s so much to know before going into relationships.
If you are not acquainted with the rudiments, then forget about it for now.

– Have you forgotten about yesterdays relationships:-

Before any new thing can happen to your life, you should be able to forget the old.

If you are still holding on to your old and failed relationships, then you are not ready for the new.

Although It is not that easy to do though, there’s a need to move forward.

Holding on to the past will affect the way you think, your decisions as well as your actions.

Try and clear the bad baggage from your subconscious.

Of course, there are still good people out there that can make a good husband /wife so let go and move forward.

A good and successful relationship is that in which the partners are not afraid to share their mind with each other.

If you are such that believes your better-half should read your mind, then you are not ready yet.

In successful relationships, everyone speaks their mind no matter how fearful they are.

if you have not done that before, then I implore you to learn how to keep your fears away and say what you want in your relationship.

-Do you know how to cook:-

An adage says ” A good food is a way to the man’s heart” Many men love to eat, and so they are happy when they marry a woman that knows how to cook too.

Most men who their wives don’t know how to cook are usually angry about that, but somehow they may choose to keep quiet instead of quarreling with the spouse, but many times they prefer to go out and eat good food.

Question is:

Would you prefer your spouse to eat outside than learning how to cook before getting married?

Although most men look beyond cooking when they want to marry these days, if you know how to cook, you are on your way to winning his heart.

– Can you clean a toilet:-

Cleanliness they say is next to godliness. If you have not learned t how to wash and keep things clean, then this the best time to do so.

Every man wants to come home to a neat home.
But, most women are so lazy when it comes to keeping a house.

Learn how to keep things in order always so if your spouse comes home all of a sudden with friends, he will not feel disgraced.

– Are you ready to take care of your family?.:

– It is the right of every man to take care of his wife and the children.

It is true that nowadays every hand is on deck, husbands, and wives now engaged in work just to bring food on the table.

However, men should not forget that it is their duty to fend for the family.

If you are planning to marry now, then ask if you are ready financially to fend for every member. if not, then you are not ready for it.

– If you are still a mama’s boy?:-

If you can’t do anything with your wife until you get permission from your mother, then you are a mama’s boy and it can harm your marriage.

I am not advising you to disrespect or hate your mother, but your marriage will be more successful if you concentrate more on your marriage and still give your mother her do respect.

Become the man who is ready to take care of his family rather than that man who can’t make a worthwhile decision unless the mother does for him.

Conclusion:- Getting married is a thing of joy, however, it is important to enter into it very prepared.

Remember, marriage is not for a day, but till death do you apart and that’s the reason to learn whatever is there to know about it, to avoid early divorce.

In this post, I have written some points down to help you check if you are ready.

See you at the Top.
I am still your friend Uchegbu Ikenna ( Murphy’s)