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How to ask a girl out without being rejected 0

How to ask a girl out without being rejected

How to ask a girl out


It’s interesting when you meet a girl you cherish so much and she willingly gives you her number, but your greatest challenge is knowing how to ask a girl out.


Don’t worry, in this article, I will show you how to do that in so many ways.

– I will show you how to ask a girl out over a text.

– How to ask a girl out in person

– what to say to ask a girl out.

– And how to ask a girl out at the group

In the end, you will completely understand how to ask a girl out on a date.


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It’s normal when you feel nervous talking to a girl to go out with you; but you can do it, following these steps I will show you here.


How To Ask A Girl Out:

1) Gauge If She Likes You:

It’s imperative you know her interests for you. Passing glances at you, smiling, and talking with you is not a clear sign that she’ll want to go out with you.


If she didn’t do those things I mentioned above, it doesn’t mean she hates you either. Sometimes they may be too shy to do much too.


If you want to know her interest in you, you have to try touching her when you have a chance for that. A casual touch can do wonders and it can remove fear from your eyes too.


If you don’t know what will cause you to touch her, try cracking a joke and gradually touch her finger as you laugh. If she is relaxed at the touch, then look her straight in the eyes and ask her for a day out. She will not decline it.


Check her Enthusiasm:

You can tell if a woman likes you by her level of enthusiasm. You can see her sense of enthusiasm from how relaxed she is when you are with her.


2)   Choose the Right Place And Time To Ask Her Out:

You have found out that she likes you and you are ready to ask her out. I suggest you look for the best place and time to do that.


Asking a girl out when she is having something bothering her at that moment will not work out.


Again, when she is in the midst of her friends when she is hanging out with them, it may not be a good place either.


If she is the shy type, she will not be comfortable to give you a good answer in certain places, especially when she feels people will tease her.


If she seems bothered about anything, then forget asking her out as well. “It is never a good idea to ask a woman out in places where they don’t expect to be approached.”

Going on a romantic dates

3) Know What You Want ( Don’t send wrong signals):

Before you make your first move, you’ve got to figure out what you want first.


Are you looking for someone to settle down with or just a friend?

Don’t approach a girl if you are not sure what you want.


Knowing your intentions gives you the boldness you need.


Be sure of what you need. If all you need is a casual relationship, it wouldn’t be a problem, but if you want something serious, you need to add pressure to your skills and also try pushing the right way so you can get a worthwhile answer.

4) Practice And Memorize What To Say:

Benjamin Franklin says that ” If you fail to plan, then you have planned to fail.” No matter how smart you are, there is a need to plan how to go about it.


Plan what to wear and what to say. Planning will help you to avoid her form misunderstanding you.


Your best date should be the kind where can you talk properly and exchange details about yourselves and have fun too.



That’s why you should plan pretty well on how you should talk so she feels at home to tell you the best time and the best place to go in other to avoid distractions.


Planning will make you feel comfortable when asking her out. Even though you should not repeat your script word for word, but you know what to say, because you planned it.


5) Be Confident Of Yourself:

If you choose to approach a girl for an outing,  you’ve got to be confident in yourself first.


Most men fail or get a rejection because they guaranteed that.


Looking at them, you will know how confident they are. You have to be composed and put off fear. The worst that could happen is to get a rejection. But you won’t get that when the girl didn’t see fears in your eyes.


Be bold, chest out, heads-up, don’t look on the ground, shoulders up, and look her straight in the eyes as you talk.


She will be intimidated by your courage. However, when she sees fear in you, she may want to pose a little tougher, and then you feel rejected and quit.


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6) Are You Compatible with Her?

Check if you have common interests with the girl. Are of the same age? Be sure she is someone you’ll always want to spend time with because that will guarantee your happiness with her.


7) Give Her Reasons To Say Yes:

Every girl wants to go out with someone thy fee) relaxed and secured with. You will need to make her believe you will give her a nice time when she goes out with you.

Here’s How

How did you ask?

This is very important when you are asking her out face to face.  For example, If I just come to you and ask ” would you go to a restaurant with me? That sounds weird and you will never say yes even if you want to.

But if I  ask you ” would you want to have an amazing lunch with me today?” She will likely accept.


Don’t just ask her out; warm her up first. The same way you blow you hot coffee cold before  sipping or have foreplay before sex, supercharger her to say yes,


If she is not tuned to what you want to say, you will likely get a no. So start with little pleasantries to wet the atmosphere, and then ask.


Love a girl, text her

How to ask a girl out over a text:

If you are not seeing her face to face, then the alternative is to ask her over a text and you should be careful when doing that.


Proven ways to text a girl


May I tell you that asking over a text is not that simple too. It’s a bit more complicated than you think, but I will guide you through that also.


It’s however much easier to ask over a text that in person if you a nervous when it comes to talking to a girl.


– Give complements:

This is one of the huge parts of texting a girl; first know-how to complement her in a more polite way and the best way to do it is to stay confident, interesting, and funny.


Be playfully light. Just get her smiling and laughing all the way. Remind her of some interesting moments during your first date. The secret is to try things that will soften her mood before asking her for a date.


– Ask her about the things she enjoys.

– Check her texting styles, if she uses acronyms, consider using it too.

– Just make her smile, you can send her funny texts too.

It’s improper to just send her to go out with you immediately, make the ground soft first before asking.

– Send her sweet things:

If you want to start a relationship with her, then tell her sweet things. Start building a friendly relationship with her.


Don’t ask immediately but send casual text messages for at least 3- 5 times.


Send morning greeting, afternoon, and evening greetings to her.


If she told you about anything that matters to her, then send texts asking about it.


Don’t rush the invitation, things will gradually fall in place for you.


Ask a girl out over text

How To Ask A Girl Out From Group.

First, you shouldn’t approach this with fear, or else you will fail. Don’t approach directly, pretend as if you are not confronting anyone in particular.


Try winning over the friends before hitting your target.


Ask general questions, so everyone can give her opinion. Be part of her group first and gradually look for loopholes ( gradual opening).


Start A Side Conversation:

Now you are part of the group, you can gradually transition into relating with your chief target, use eye contact to communicate your feelings. Make comments without letting other people hear. Make your conversation interesting to distract her from her friends in the group.


The group may gradually leave the two of you, but if they didn’t, and you feel things are not working your way, disengage yourself and focus on using eye contact. If she likes you she will show you through her eye contacts too.


Just wait for the meet her alone next time.


In conclusion :

I wish I was able to show you how to ask a girl out in this post.

You really have to summon the courage and ask. No one will jail you for asking her out, you can only get a no.

If you choose to ask her out over a text or from a group, just do it, don’t procrastinate. It is either you get the date you want or not. However, always be ready to let go if things didn’t work out.

You can always get another girl that more beautiful, interesting, and lovable.


Question is:

Which of these steps would you try first? Share with us in the comment section.


See you at the Top.

I am still your friend murphyaik.



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9 Lovely characteristics of a loving husband

Characteristics of a loving husband, how to love your wife, love your family,


If I ask you to make a list of the characteristics of a loving husband, what will your list look like?

Your first in the list could be

1, handsome.

2, tall.

3, working man.


Really all these matters, but, there are so many things that make up the characteristics of a loving husband.


So if you are getting married soon and you want to finally settle down with a loving husband, or you are hoping to make your husband one, then you should read this post carefully, because I will show you what the perfect characteristics are.


This post will help you streamline your search, as well as reduce your length search for a good husband.


If this is what you want to know, then let’s dive in now.


Who is a loving husband?

A loving husband can be described as that man you feel so relaxed and secured to be with because he really gave you the reason to love and cherish him.

He may not be handsome-looking, but he has the characteristics of the man who loves his wife dearly.

In the book of Jeremiah 5:1, God described a good man as a man who is careful in his dealings with others.

Is that the type of man you want as a husband, or the man you want your husband to become?

If so, then here is how to know a loving husband.


9 Characteristics of a loving Husband.


1) Gentleness:-

Gentleness simply means “strength under control”. That shows that the lovely husbands know how to control their strengths, anger when their pets misbehave, the piano is not working properly and when the partner made a mistake.

Being gentle with your spouse means more than physical things.

It will greatly be noticed from the ways you handle things.

Your gentleness also shows when you are responding or interacting with your spouse. The loving husband is very good at managing their strength in other not to hurt the partner.


2) He knows how to “prioritize the positives”:-

In their book ” Happy together using the science of positive psychology to build a love that lasts”, Suzann and her husband James pawlesky, who is the director of education at the University of Pennsylvania positive psychology center said that ” positive do not happen without efforts”.


Don’t Let It Die.

According to them, many people allow those positive emotions of excitement, passion, and joy that existed naturally at the beginning of the relationship to die before trying to restore it back.

What they are saying is that those happy couples who are able to sustain their relationships for a long time are those who actively nurture and prioritize the positives than allow it to die.

Loving husbands always make sure to put actions in place to avoid love from dying.


3) They are Good Leaders:-

They are always reliable, have good initiative, and understand the proper ways to lead their families to the best parts of life. You’ll feel secured and relaxed to be around him.

Leadership is all about influence, that means you have to lead by influencing both the wife and the children positively without being dominative.

Leading your family forcefully like a dictator brings negative influences to your family,

You will fail as a dictator.

The dictatorship leadership skills never get good results, because it makes everyone becomes insecure all of a sudden.

Loving husbands provide good models of leadership, that’s why they achieve great results.


Loving your wife, be a good husband

4) Self-controlled:-

According to the webster dictionary, self-control means self-restraint, or to exercise power over one’s emotions or desires.

That describes the loving husbands better because they know how to control their actions as well as regulate their behaviors to reach their goals.

The Bible said that a man without self-control is like a city broken and without walls.


The result of a conducted survey.

From the survey conducted in 2011 by the American psychological association, it was noticed twenty-five % of people who possess no will power were not able to reach their goals.

Those who have self-control are happier and healthier.

As a loving husband, you will achieve your goals, because you possess the qualities.


The nice guy, love your wife, the characteristics of a loving husband

5) Matured Emotionally:-

You must be emotionally matured and be ready to control your impulses to be a good husband.

You will also have the capacity to deal with the disappointments, changes, and the general conflicts of life, marriage included.

A good husband should know how to balance all these constructively without affecting the relationship.


Remain resilient.

You should be ready to solve your marital issues instead of reacting impulsively to them.


6) He is trustworthy:-

One important key foundation of a good relationship is trust. It is also important to be aware that being trustworthy requires efforts and great and corresponding actions too.

If your partner can’t trust or rely on anything you say or do, then you are not a trustworthy husband.

Most men have destroyed trustworthiness with their constant lies and unfulfilled promises. However, When you are consistent with the emotional qualities, then your partner can depend on you always.


7) They prioritize their relationship:-

The daily necessities and routine of life will always be out to sniff your relationship with your family out.

To avoid this from happening, you should create more positive shared experiences and nice memories in order to keep things going.

The lovely husband always knows that relationships need constant efforts, investment, and commitment to keep it going, so they keep to that.

Keep working and never let anything take over your family time.


8) A good listener:-

A good listener is a good communicator also and they impact their homes with great wisdom.

Many men don’t pay attention when their spouse is conversing with them. It’s either they are pressing their phone or checking their emails. But the good husbands are always interested to hear what /heir partners want to say.

9) He is appreciative:-

Appreciation is another great tool when creating a happy relationship. Obviously, you and I know how it feels to be appreciated and we feel bad when we are not appreciated at all.

The good men appreciates their wives for every little thing, and they are ready to overlook the flaws.



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5 Interesting ways to love in marriage

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If your marriage is not what you expected it to be at this moment, then understand that all hope is not lost, because in this post I will show you few interesting ways to love in marriage.


You have seen so many couples that are very happy in their marriage, and you wonder how they made it so.

There is no other secret to their success, neither can it be seen as chance or luck it can only be attributed to that little effort from both partners and their great will to be together.


Hopefully, there are tons of things you can start doing after reading this article that helps to sustain lasting love in marriage.


So whether your marriage is going well, or failing before your very eyes, there is a great need to work and nurture it daily in other to keep the romance alive.


Joel Osteen in his book “Become a better you” said you don’t have to let your marriage just survive, you should always have new vision daily.

I have also written so many posts about how to improve love in marriage. See them below.

  1. 15 minutes a day just to breathe new life into your marriage
  2. How to recharge your marriage
  3. 5 simple but overlooked ways to make your marriage the best


What he is telling us is, to do anything at our disposal that could help our marriage or relationship grow better.


Question now is

What are those things you can do to improve love in marriage?

Here are they




1) Build lasting friendships:-

A lasting friendship is an important issue when you want to sustain Romance in your relationship because it creates a deeper bond between the two of you which always goes beyond being just being romantic.


How you relate with your spouse matters greatly in building a family.

It is that point in your relationship where you and your spouse don’t just love yourselves, but you like and cherish everything thing about each other.


Friendship also helps to build great intimacy where you and your partner are not afraid to share your deepest feelings and thoughts


When good friendship exists in your marriage, all your interests and activities become so enriched, because you are dealing with your best friend who wants to share it with you.


Dear, if the friendship has been lacking in your relationship, then it’s time to start building it.

  • Here are a few ways to go about it.
    a) Always be gentle
    b) Be considerate.
    c) Be trustworthy
    d) Be loyal
    e) Have time for your partner.
    f) Share deeper interests
    g) Laugh together.


To start building it, you must sit down and identify those things that are not working as it should and start working on it.


(2) Cuddle:

Cuddling is another way to make your marriage stronger.

Actually, nothing can be compared with cuddling that person you love dearly especially when you hold him through the night, it shows that the person is always on your mind when you are asleep and also he/ she is the first thing you set your eyes on as you wake up in the morning.


Research has proven that cuddling makes us
a) Happier:- We feel healthier and happier when you are physically close to someone and your body releases Oxycontin, a chemical that helps in maintaining a strong and healthy relationship.


b) Touching helps to reduce a good level of cortisol, which attacks our immune system. It also makes us less anxious.
When someone touches your hands and holds it for a while it makes us feel a little better.

Did you see why cuddling is important?


3) Be trustworthy:-

Trust is inevitable in any relationship.

When trust exists in a relationship, there is that freedom that results in love and intimacy.

That simply means that without trust, there is insecurity, fear, and all these limits the full potentials of intimacy.


Question is!

Can your partner trust you? can he/ she be free enough to share her heart with you?

However, the same way you earn respect, you can also earn trust and it starts with doing what you say and remaining faithful to your spouse.


Sometimes, we are so ignorant to know that those little lie, those little failed promises we made to our spouse, is helping to diminish our trustworthiness in the eyes of our partners.
Remember, if you make so much withdrawal from your emotional bank account of trust, then the trust will vanish.


My advice for you is to make building trust a priority in your relationship.

No trust simply means your marriage is heading to a crash

Henry cloud said that “Intimacy comes from knowing the other person at a deeper level ”

If the interest of your marriage is paramount to you, then start now to develop trust again.


4) Teamwork:-

When you look at those successful couples, you will find out that they function well as a team and depend on one another for strength.


If the woman knows better about finances, she is left to be responsible for that, while the man is left to do the planning, if that is the area of his specialty.


He decides the day for the family vacation and outings as well as family devotion.

Just like in football, no player can play it all, all of the players depend on each other to win.

Such is marriage. There must be teamwork to succeed as a couple.


It is always easy for husband and wife to get out of sync and work against one another.


But always have in your mind that marriage is the same as a 3 legged race, if you try to push ahead without your spouse’s cooperation you will fail, but when you work as a team, then you will succeed.


Couples that work together wither cover each other’s weaknesses and build each other’s strengths as well as help lift each other up when one stumbles.


5) Be Clear:-

Always be clear when you are communicating, say your mind but not provocatively. It is important you monitor your voice during the communication.


Listen when necessary and never interrupt him or her during the conversation.


Share your burden thoughtfully, your partner is not a mind reader to know what your needs are, so let him/ her know it.


Talk about what is not going well in the relationship, your sex life, your family budget, and other important issues, two heads are far too better than one when it comes to working things out.


Final thought:

There is no scientific way of sustaining lasting love in marriage than nurturing it daily.

If you start working on your relationship from this moment, you will make it successful in the near future.

Just look at where you need to start and start working immediately, you will surely succeed.

I am still your friend



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