Not happy in marriage?: 15 things to do now.

At some point, most married couples go through a period where one or both are not happy in marriage.

The signs may be subtle or strong, but in any event, recognizing that you are not happy in marriage is the first step towards solving this problem.

Unfortunately, many divorces could have been avoided if the one who is unhappy in marriage takes some action that will lead to overcoming their unhappiness than just getting out of the marriage.

Understandably, feelings of unhappiness can drive someone to make such a change, but the truth is that most marriages grow stronger if they can find a way to deal with their feelings rather than leave.

In this post, I will show you a few things you can do if you are not in marriage.

Let’s jump in.

15 Things to do When You are Not Happy in Marriage.

Here are five steps you can take which will help you overcome your unhappiness and stay in the marriage. Each of these steps will take a bit of courage on your part, but the result is certainly well worth the effort.

1) Identify the Problem:

The first thing to do when you are not happy in marriage is to identify the reason you are not happy. What exactly is it that is making your marriage unhappy? You cannot communicate with your spouse unless you have a very strong idea of what it is.

So take some time to self-examination yourself or your marriage, to reveal just what is causing your feelings.

You will be amazed that the problems aren’t much to make you sad.

2) Communicate Your Feelings from Your Point of View:

Don’t assume that when you are not unhappy in marriage, that your spouse should know about it. Most spouses do know that something is wrong, but perhaps they didn’t want to verbalize it.

By communicating how you feel, it puts both of you on the same page. However, what you say should be from your point of view and not accusatory or inflaming such as, “I get angry when you do X.” when it should be, “I feel sad when I see you do X.” That tone allows your partner to engage and respond, not be pushed away.

While you cannot force your partner to change, you can focus on what could be done to help rectify the situation.

You can start with something as small as “I’m going to hug you before I leave for work each day.”

Such small gestures can add up over time to bring more happiness to the marriage.

3) Cut Down on Distractions:

It is during these stressful times that we tend to get distracted because we are tired of feeling this way.

While such thoughts are understandable, they will pull you away from working on the problem itself. Instead, you should be placing your relationship first and ditching the things that are pulling you away.

The point is to look for those distractions and discard them from your life, so you can concentrate on solving the problems.