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11 Signs a nigerian man wants to marry you

Signs a nigerian man wants to marry you

 

Are you planning to get married soon? Are you patiently looking for those signs a Nigerian man wants to marry you?

If you answered yes to those two questions then this post is exclusively for you.

Getting married is not a big problem; nurturing your marriage to make it better daily is where the problems are.

If you mistakenly get married to the wrong spouse, then you have made the greatest mistakes.

Therefore, it requires great carefulness and prayer before you set out to find Mr. Right.

One of your prayers should be that God opens your eyes to see the signs a Nigerian man wants to marry you before you start your search.

If you don’t know what those signs are, then I got your back. In this post, I will show those signs you should be on the lookout for when you want to get married to a Nigerian man.

Some of the signs may be p Mksubtle, and some you have seen many times and still, you could not put two and two together.

You will understand them as you read this post.

If you are ready, then let’s dive in.

 

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10 Signs a Nigerian Man Wants To Marry You.

 

If a Nigerian man is really interested in getting married to you, he will –

 

1) Out Of His Ways Just For You:

If a Nigerian man wants to marry you he will go out of his ways for you. He is ready to do anything, go anywhere just to please you.

 

No matter what it is you need, all you need to do os to put a call across to him and he will come running.

If you need a ride, help, advice, or just a shoulder to lean on when you are in distress, he will find a way to make them available.

When a man does all those things for you, then it’s a good sign he loves and wants to marry you.

 

2) Chase You:

The truth is that if a Nigerian man is interested in you wants to marry you, he’ll do everything he can to win you over.

Don’t deceive yourself that he is shy and that’s why is not talking, if he is holding back, he is not interested.

No man can resist from going out for what he needs, so if he is not chasing you, forget it he will never marry you.

 

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3) Can’t-Wait To Show You Off:

When a man gets a new car, builds a beautiful house, or achieve something spectacular, they can never resist to show it off.

In that case, when a Nigerian man starts showing you off to his friends, it is a clear sign of taking your relationship further.

 

4) Sticks To His Promises:

A ready Nigerian man will always man plans to fulfill his promises to you if he wants to marry you. But if he only does what suites only suit him, then is not your husband.

He will fulfill his promises on time or tell you outright if it will be delayed or not. Again, he never forgets those important days in your life and he tries everything to make it special.

 

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5) Is Not Afraid To Commit:

If you need a long term relationship with a Nigerian man, you’ll need to be patient to find the one that has the same goal with you. This may sound ludicrous but some women will invest their energy and time chasing a man who made it obvious that he is not ready to marry.

Once a Nigerian man tells you that he is not ready to commit, just believe him and move forward. Don’t stick around maybe he can change his mind.

 

6) Will Not See Sex As A Priority:

 

Most Nigerian men believe that sex before marriage makes the relationship stronger, but sex is never a guarantee that you will get a commitment from him.

If you want to be sure he wants to marry go, refuse all his sex advances, and promise him more sex after marriage.

Any man that cares for marriage will stick around to the end.

 

 

7)  He Takes You To Every Occasion:

You will be his most cherished companion to all his special occasions, family holidays, and meetings. If he doesn’t feel anything for you he will only take you to a club and party and none of his friends will know how special you are.

But, the man who loves you will introduce you to his family and make you feel relaxed and at home with his family and close relatives.

 

8) He Plans His Future With You:

If a Nigerian man wants to have you in his life, he will not hesitate to make you part of it.

In order words, he will let you know everything about him. You will know everything he has been up to, things that bother him as well as his plans.

He will never go through life as a single bachelor because you are included in all his plans. Although he will not always spend every second of his day with you, he will make know that you and an important part of his life.

 

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9) All His Friends Respects You:

If a man loves you, he will respect you in everything and he will make his friends respect you too. Although this is not an excellent sign that a man loves because he can plan with his friend if he wants to deceive you.

But when you observe his friends carefully, you will be able to see the clear signs from the ways to relate with you even when your man is not there.

 

10) Always Around In Good Times And Bad Times:

There’ll always be challenges in relationships. It’s unavoidable. The man who loves you and wants to hook up with you won’t leave you to go through your pains alone.

He will be around and working with you to see your challenges over. That’s a good sign to look out for.

 

11) You Head It From Him:

There’s no better way to know if a Nigerian man wants to marry you better than hearing it from him. Most time men don’t know how to explain his emotions, but you can read it clearly from his actions.

 

Finally:

You don’t have to be a rocket scientist to read the signs a Nigerian man wants to marry you. All you need is to look out for these signs and you are good to go.

 

You may not see all the signs at the same time, but 50% of it is enough to show you all you wish to know.

Which signs have worked for you before? Feel free to share it with us. Use the comment box to share.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Why you should take a break in our relationship

Take a break in your relationship

If you are on the crossroad of making a decision whether you should stay in the relationship or not, deciding to a break in your relationship might help. But please keep in mind, this decision work for both possibility, whether it could save your relationship or destroy it.

 

 

For me, it depends on how you respond to this action. If you both take this opportunity to reflect on yourself, free your mind, find your strength, and focus on the positive side to improve your relationship, then it should be okay. Otherwise, you might just forget about your partner and move on.

 

 

Because when you take a break from your relationship, you both basically go through some personal difficult tests. In other words, you will see what your life is going to be without your partner and your relationship.

 

So, it totally depends on what you really want.

 

If you realize the relationship is not worth saving, then break up is the right answer. But if you’re not sure, I suggest you check my other article, Should I break up with my boyfriend. That article will give you more insights about what are normal signs when a relationship is over, and how to react to it.

 

The Reasons For Taking A Break In A Relationship.

 

“Neither with you nor without you” is the motto of many couples who can’t stand or live apart and who adopt the intermittent relationship model, just like Elizabeth Taylor and Richard Burton.

 

At the opposite extreme are those who are addicted to falling in love, strong feelings, and disposable commitments.

 

Although when things start to fail or create problems, the vast majority of us try to channel them before discarding them. Taking a break in the relationship is one of those arrangements that many of us put into practice.

 

 

It happens when every day looks like the plot of the movie ‘Who’s afraid of Virginia Wolf?’ (1962). Constant quarrels, hurtful phrases, and the unwillingness to communicate and understand remove the colors of life. In this post, we’ll explore the reasons for taking a break in our relationships.

 

 

Taking time-off in the relationship would be equivalent to hospitalization. A more thorough treatment or even an operation may be performed if required. So that there will be always the possibility that you’ll recover.

 

When Should You Take A Break?

When an argument continues over and over again, then it might be a good idea to take a break. Because, when you repeat the unfavorable situation, it can cause unbearable tension that can harm your emotional health.

 

 

Meanwhile, going straight to an official break up after a big argument also not a very good way to end things. A decision that you make when you are emotionally unstable usually not something that you really wish. So, taking a break from each other will give you space and time to rebalance your perspective toward your relationship.

 

 

Take this opportunity to walk away and figure out what you really want in your life. Spend some time to think about your partner’s strength and your good day together. This might help you figure out how important is your partner to you.

 

 

Apart from that, this short break will help you clear your mind and give you a strength that you need if you decide to break up with your partner.

 

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How Does It Work For Men And Women?

 

Interestingly, men have always been much more reluctant to this type of remedy than women. “It’s quite usual,” says Iván Rotella. (Sexologist, couple therapist, director of Astursex, sexology center in Aviles, and member of the State Association of Professionals of Sexology).

 

What happens, men tend to think that this pause is nothing but a prelude to the breakup and they don’t see much utility in it. Women, however, are accustomed since childhood to talk about their feelings and affections. So, if this situation occurs, they will mobilize their social support network.

 

They will begin to turn the problem around and try to find solutions.

 

Men, especially if they are middle-aged may talk to their friends, but they will never open up completely or be vulnerable. It usually prevents them from getting to the bottom of the matter.

 

Anyway, if the situation is serious, the help of a professional is recommended because it is easy to have a partial and personal view of the problem.

 

And every time, it’s not easy to see the perspective of the other. Of course, in that case, couple therapy is required. As the name implies, it refers to two people receiving consultation from an expert.

 

The List Of Recommended Action

One of the secrets of the harmonious coexistence as a couple is never to forget that we are independent beings. In order to get along with the other, you must be generous with yourself.

 

Award yourself with some quality solitary time and do not plan everything together.

 

Do things alone or with other groups. Going on a vacation week with friends, looking for different activities that are not shared with the partner may help a lot.

 

That will prevent the overdose and the impasse of the other leading us to the urgent need for maintaining a remarkable distance.
However, if you’ve already saturated and agree to separate for a while, there are some points that should be considered.

 

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1# Change The Frequency Of Communication.

It is of no use if you physically walk away but spend the day talking on the phone. You need to modify the pattern of communication and become more sporadic. For example, talk two or three times a week.

 

Remember, the actual reason for you to take a break is to find a space for each other. So there’s no point in taking a break if you both are not actually separate from each other. It could be better if you can cut off all types of communication with your partner for a while.

 

2# Set Some Rule With Your Partner

Make this process as clear as possible. When you discuss with your partner about getting a short break, you both need to set some ground rules. As an example, can you stay in touch with each other (refer to point above), can you go date with someone else, what you can and can’t do while being single, and more.

 

These rules will be mandatory is you both is living together. Because, if you do not pay attention to this little thing, all your effort will mean nothing. Basically, you are taking a break but not truly ‘taking a break’.

 

A relationship and dating coach, Chris Armstrong once said, “You need to remove the co-dependencies you have on each other to the greatest extent you can for the duration that you’re on your break”.

 

3# Detect The Real Problem.

Do we get bored mortally with our better half? Do we crave sexual intercourse but a strange cosmic force prevents us from having it? Does our partner seem to speak in Aramaic suddenly but before we had almost telepathic communication?

 

The formula of taking time is intended to reflect and detect the true pitfalls of the relationship. Ask yourself, why you need to take a break in the first place? What are the real reasons, is it because of your partner or from your own self?

 

Take this opportunity to understand your needs better. Maybe you just need a space to clear up your mind, not a breakup. That why it important for you to understand the problem in order to get your life back on track.

 

Final thoughts.

Taking a break in a relationship doesn’t mean that your relationship is over. It is actually a process to help you and your partner to have some space to reflect your thought and emotion.

The downside of this process is, it might not be an answer to every relationship. Taking a break in a relationship is a risky step, it can ruin your relationship and lead to a breakup. However, if you manage to make use of this process, it can be a powerful tool to make your relationship stronger, healthier, and happier.

 

About The Article.

This article was written by a friend of mine Harry.

 

Harry is an author who loves to share his thought and experiences through blogging. His aim is to encourage people to live with the purpose, significance, fulfillment, and satisfaction in life.
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15 Things to consider when dating to marry

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In this post, I will show you the most important things to consider when dating to marry, so you will understand exactly what to do or not do whenever you start dating.

 

Here’s why you should know that!

 

Dating is a serious business, therefore you have to plan well in other to achieve your goal, which is marriage.

 

If after dating you didn’t get married, then you’ve not achieved your goal. To keep you abreast of all the future problems, here are things to consider when you are dating to Marry.

 

15 Things To Consider When Dating To Marry.

 

1) Dating is Not Marriage:-

Always have in your consciousness that dating is different from marriage. When you are dating, there’s always enough time to study the one you dating, to know if you are compatible with married.

 

If you discover the differences and reasons why you will take your relationship to another level, or quit, then nothing stops you.

 

In that case, you shouldn’t treat dating as a marriage. This will help you to keep the rules of dating as well as that of marriage.

 

Therefore take time to learn who you are dating, to know more about him/her, it will help you in the future.

 

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2) Be Your Complete Self:- 

I will not stop you from reading self-improvement books, that will be a good help to improve your self-esteem.

 

But when you are dating to Marry, it is important to keep yourself from the temperature of portraying to be who or what you are not.

 

Be everything you are created by God to be, do not add or subtract, don’t hide your feelings, or keep from sharing your mind because you are afraid of being rejected.

 

It’s better to find out everything now than later, maybe when you are finally married.

It may be disastrous then.

 

3) Take your time:-

You should know that marriage is different from dating, so you should take your time to plan and be prepared for the new level of life else you plan to marry and divorce soon.

 

However, if you want to last in your marriage, then take your time to date before getting hooked up.

 

The duration of the dating doesn’t matter so much, what matters is how well you understand who you are planning to Marry.

 

That also determines the quality of the relationship you will have.

 

Take your time, examine, read, sturdy finally understand him/her properly.

 

4)  premature marriage conversations are not important when you are dating to marry: 

 

Now you are in a relationship, it is imperative to avoid the premature marriage conversation like God said you must marry me, I will die if you leave me, etc.

 

Those words are not needed now. Concentrate on knowing how compatible you are and how good and caring you would be is.

 

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5) Space is also Needed:-

When you are dating, it’s imperative to know that you should give your date some space to be alone.

 

Have your time alone and let your partner have theirs too.

 

That will make him/her respect and desire you more. I t ‘s far better that way than spending 24 hours of your time together every day

 

6) Don’t Be Carried Away BY The Gifts:-

It’s good you give and receive gifts when dating so that person is thinking about you always. But understand that what matters most is if he/ she loves you too.

 

If you become carried away by the gifts, you can mistakes them with real love and care. Not all that glitters is gold.

 

Be wise, receive the gifts still be wise for the irregularities.

 

7) Lookout For The Red flags:-

It’s requesting to be positive always and it’s also good to be vigilant too.

 

The truth is that during dating, so many things will be hidden. If you are not careful, you’ll believe that all is well.

 

But, nothing can be hidden for so long. That’s why you should be on. The lookout for the red flags before you make the final decision to get married.

 

That will save you from future stress.

 

9) Good Advisers Will Help:- 

Although it’s always good to involve people in everything you do, it is really important to relate with the trusted people if you read to involve people.

 

Good advisers could give you helpful advice that will save you from future mistakes.

 

Give ears to whatever advice you get from them, they could show you some red flags you are not seeing and also tell you why you should make up your mind quickly about the marriage.

 

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10) Be ready to quit any time:-

Always consider leaving the relationship whenever you see reasons to.

 

Don’t marry when you know you are not made for each other. Never assume your spouse will change when you are married. If he/she will not change now.

 

It doesn’t matter how deep you’ve gone into a relationship, it’s better than getting a heartbreak later.

 

11) Don’t date someone you won’t marry.

It doesn’t matter who or what brought you together in the first instance  If he/she is not good to be with, then consider letting them go.

 

12) Don’t Share So much About You Too Soon:- 

Consider not sharing everything about you when dating, it is not good to reveal all about you almost immediately, no matter how fast he/she is getting close.

 

Just take your time and do it gradually. Let your date look forward to knowing you more as you date. If possible, let him/ her be the one doing the discovery.

 

 

13) Dating and Marriage will bring you happiness forever:-

That’s not real. In as much as some health benefits of being in a good relationship, but many others are happy even without been in any relationship too.

 

So despite the pressure from family members  and friends to get married, you mustn’t rush into any of them

 

There’s a big difference between being lonely and being alone, but none can be compared with being in an unhealthy relationship.

 

14) First Impressions Matters:-

It’s important to make a lasting impact during your day. Always do something positive so your date will always remember you for that.

 

 Again do not be moved by how your date presents himself. However, if you are not relaxed by their attitudes, run. 

 

15) Consider the d of partner you need:-

This is important when you are dating to marry, and it will make you know what to look for as you date.

 

Truth is that when you know where you are going, then you know how to get there faster.

Be specific about how you want your future family to be and start working to have it from this initial relationship you are having now.

 

Finally

In conclusion, be careful now you are dating to know if the relationship is what you read.

 

If you watch your steps now, you’ll surely not stumble in your future relationship. in other words give all your strength to your outing and learn all you can about your prospective wife/ husband.