If you are having trouble in marriage, that doesn’t mean the end of the road for your relationship.
If you are of double opinions about whether to throw in the towel or stay put, I have good news for you. In this post, I will show you how to survive in an unhappy marriage.
Here is why this post is important to you.
Making a what while decision, whether to leave an unhappy marriage or to stay and keep your sanity, could be a lot of soul-searching especially if there are lots of things that can make you want to stay,
This post will help you know what to do next, at least how to survive in an unhappy marriage, if you choose to stay.
If that is what you want, then read further. However, you should understand that these tips may not be too helpful if your relationship is an abusive relationship.
Read my article on ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIP HERE TO LEARN WHAT TO DO.
If yours is simply how to survive in an unhappy marriage, then check out the following steps.
How to survive in an unhappy marriage.
1) Detach from your partner:
If you really want to stay in marriage despite unhappiness, your best option to survive your unhappy marriage is to try detaching from your partner.
By detaching, I don’t mean you start doing your thing and stop caring. Also, it’s not about separating yourself in a way that is dishonoring to your partner. It means you have to overlook your partner’s unhealthy choices and completely disagreeing with anything that’s not consistent with your personal opinions.
A good detachment from your partner will give you good independence from some troubles and also give you freedom from their disturbances and controls.
The kicker is:
When you don’t have much to share in common together with your partner, their dominative practices will not be of any effect on you anymore.
Although it may not be easy for you, that could be a life-changer for you. Just close your eyes to your guilts and give your partner spaces to be whoever he/ she wants to be, which may help him to consider their actions.
These are things to do exactly:
– Don’t socialize with them.
– Disregard their behavior.
– Be a kind stranger to them.
– Don’t ask them for help and don’t give one too.
2) Live Your Life Again:
You have to decide to live your life again at this point. Since your relationship or your partner is not making you happy, then you have to redefine your life.
Your first step should be to remove your mind from the problems and concentrate on how to solve it.
Keeping track of the problems every time will always make things worse for you.
A paradigm shift could be a great help to you because a solution mindset reduces anxieties and hopelessness from you and will increase hope.
The real truth is that your happiness doesn’t depend on anyone but you, and no matter what your desires are, you can get someone else to help you than your partner.
So start on time to rebuild your social forcefield, those will help you to be happier to yourself.
3) Be Grateful:
You may be asking questions about why you should be grateful when your relationship is falling apart, nevertheless, remember that everything works together for your good.
But frankly, being grateful can keep you abreast of your failing relationship. You will be surprised at how happy you can become all of a sudden when you remain grateful and happy.
Here are Few Things you Can Do:
The word of God said ” in everything, give glory to God. And we are asked to count our blessings and name them one by one and I must see reasons to thank God for.
Just get a jotter and write everything you can remember about God’s goodness in your life: you will be amazed at what you’ll see.
4) Stay Committed To Your Hobbies:-
There are things that give you joy any time you indulge in them. Get back to doing those things now that your marriage is not giving you the joy you need.
Look for those things that interest you. I don’t mean having an affair outside. If you don’t know what your hobbies are, try developing any. It may be reading, going to the library, or visiting the recreational center.
Just keep yourself busy with whatever will bring the utmost joy, If your mind is engaged you will not worry too much.
5) Deal with Your Issues One At A Time:
There are so many troubles faced in marriage, it ranges from taking care of your children, household chores, taking care of your partner, finances, etc.
Trying to tackle the problems at a time will overwhelm and stress you greatly.
It is therefore advisable to try approaching them gradually, and one at a time. You can start from the hardest to the simple ones.
Again, don’t let the problems come before trying to deal with them, but prevent them from coming at all.
Don’t avoid them,
If eventually, they come to you, start with the urgent problems when you are dealing with it.
Also, try carrying your partner along with if possible.
Most of the problems will go if you face them squarely and with an open mind.
6) Seek Happiness From Inside:
According to John 7:38, ” Whoever believes in me, as scripture re has said, rivers of living waters will flow from within them.
That means that everything you desire is inside you. You can bring them out and relax on it.
You can do so by taking care of yourself in a special way. Stop setting unrealistic goals for yourself or trying to change your partner to your taste; it will not work that way and you will feel bad when things are not working your way.
Stop the fight on what you can’t change and focus on the possibilities even if the relationship eventually fails.
7) Consider Seeing A Counselor:-
Seeing a counselor could be the best decision when you want to survive in a failing marriage. They could advise you properly on which decision or steps to take.
If you chose to go and see a counselor, consider reading my article on how to locate the best to work with.
A good marriage counselor can help fix the relationship and make it work again, they are well trained to handle cases like those.
The post will show you how to know which counselor will be better to work with.
You don’t want a counselor that will break your marriage instead of helping you save it.
In this post, I have been able to show you a few steps to help you survive in an unhappy marriage. You should think properly after reading this to know which steps to implore in your relationship.
These tips provided actionable and easy steps, but it may not work for you if you don’t try them out and it may not also work for you the way it worked for others.
However, it works. Just try them out and tell me what you think in the comment box.
Here is my final question:
Out of all that I have written for you, which one will you try first?
Please, let us know in the comment box also.
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