How to bring happiness in a marriage

Let me show you how to bring happiness in a marriage fast.

If your marriage has lost all its happiness, then this post is for you. In this post, you will learn how to bring happiness back into your marriage.

There are so many things that can deplete happiness from any relationship, like cheating, constant fighting, lies, keeping secrets, etc.

You must keep all these in check if you want to have a successful relationship. But if your relationship has lost its spark, then follow these steps below to restore your joy back.

Ways To Bring Happiness In A Marriage Faster

1) Start Early

To have a successful marriage starts from the very first moment you made up your mind to get married.

You must start by deciding on the type of person you want to get married to in the first place.

What complexion, attitude, height, academic qualification, and religious belief

What exactly are the reasons why you want to get married:

  • Is it because your friends are getting married?
  • What is your reason for choosing that very person?

Probably you think he or she is nice looking.


Write Them Down.

The first thing to do to bring happiness in a marriage is to pen it down. I suggest you write down 5 reasons why they want to marry, and how you want your marriage to be.

Those things you wrote down will always stare you on the face and when you want to engage in those decisions that are not right for your marriage.

They will make you think twice during the challenging moments in your marriage.

2) Are You Compatible?

Another important thing you must do to bring happiness to a marriage is to know if you are compatible with the very person you want to get married to. Do not move into that marriage because you thought things will change in the future, or you probably think you can change your spouse in the future. There is no need to get married to someone you already know you could not live with.

Below few ways to know if you are compatible with each other.

  1. You feel relaxed and secure when you are with each other.
  2. Serious issues are not left to linger.
  3. You know how to fight better.
  4. You want to make yourselves better.
  5. When you imagine your future together.
  6. You share common interests.
  7. No doubt about the love you share.
  8. Physical attraction.
  9. Complete openness.
  10. Spending quality time together.
  11. Freedom to be yourself.

3) Quit When You Have To

Always remember that enjoying happiness in a marriage doesn’t just happen, you have to work it out it must be worked out with your spouse.

When you are sure the person in question is the right person for you, then make plans to work with your spouse to build the marriage. Remember that the success or failure of your marriage depends on the two of you. No one can come from outside to build your marriage for you except the two of you.

So try everything you can to make your relationship the best. Mingle with those couples you wish to be like and copy good things they do. Attend a seminars visit marriage counselors.

Also, practice all you learn from this blog and other blogs. You’ll see the effects in your marriage coming gradually.

Meanwhile, get ready to quit the marriage if things become worse and refuse to change.

4) Personal Commitment Matters

The next step to take in bringing happiness in a marriage is to decide on yourself about your commitment to building your marriage to the level you want it to go.

Individual commitment is very important when it comes to being happy in marriage. You have this consciousness that you alone could build your marriage. You know you can do this because you want happiness in your marriage.

It is almost every couple’s dream to have happiness in their marriage, but most of them are not ready to do the primary work; that is why their marriage breaks in the first 2 to 3 years of their marriage.

5) Just Do The Necessary.

Be ready to do everything you can to keep your marriage happy. Ask for forgiveness when you are wrong. Say sorry when you make mistakes, say sweet things to your spouse always, never bear any grudge, be quick to forgive and be slow to anger, listen to your spouse whenever there are things to say.

And the greatest of them all is to love your spouse even when there is no more reason to love again.

Learning to observe these will help you to build a stronger, better, sweeter, healthier and happier marriage.

6) Get To Know Each Other Once More:

It is possible that you have forgotten each other. At the early stages of your relationship, you spent good time getting to know each other.

Nowadays, you think think you still know yourselves but your tastes have changed over time and most of your favorites has become your worst now.

Marriage is a continual process of discovering each other as a couple. Spending time just to know more about your significant other will relive your relationship of boredom.

The truth is that you can easily lose interest in someone you think you know best if you are not careful. However, when you put more effort into knowing more about them, then you’ll always be fascinated by them.

According to the study conducted by the Guttman institutes, knowing each other is the main key to a happy relationship. So take note of that and keep learning about each other.

7) Be On The Positive Side Always.

When you are passing through turbulent times in your relationship, it is always possible to let yourself be swept off by the trials and be drawn into negativity where you are completely blinded see any good about your relationship.

During these times, it is important you intentionally keep yourself positive and keep a sense of gratitude.

Also, learn to take responsibility for your part during those unfavorable situations and good times as well. Create a consistent attitude of having positive Interactions with your partner.

Appreciate them for everything they do for you and take time to tell them how good you feel about their helps and deeds.

Being grateful always will Keep you from being negative when things are not working well in your relationship.

No matter what, remind yourself that you will always be above and not below.


8) Keep Holding On.

Whatever you are going through in your relationship now will eventually be over.

Love evolves and relationships are also changing but when you hold fast to each other as you go through the storm, you will succeed.

When you win that race together, you are closer than you are now and the bond will be stronger too.

In Conclusion:

There are so many ways you can bring back happiness in a marriage. I have described some of them in this post. Learn them and use them in your marriage and experience positive changes.

Your In-House Counselor,


Aik: AIK UCHEGBU is a writer and an authority in anything that matters about marriage and how to build it successfully. His followers have been greatly enhanced by his findings. You will not be disappointed by coming to this site.