Now you have found your Mr right, preparing to be a wife is the next thing in your mind now.
But what does it mean to be a wife? How can you start getting ready to take on your responsibilities as a wife and a mother?
It is simple. Being a wife is not an easy task. There are many tasks you’ll have as a mother. One of them is taking care of your whole family.
You have to be prepared for this task, otherwise, you will not find it funny at all.
In this article, we will look at ways you can get yourself ready to be a wife and a mother.
Let’s dive in.
10 proven steps of preparing to be a wife.
1) Understand That Marriage Takes Works.
If you are planning to be a wife soonest, then may I tell you now that marriage is not an easy task. I am not trying to scare you, but the reality is that marriage takes work and commitment to work effectively.
Love alone can not make you succeed in your marriage, though love is the starting point. Commitment and continuous nurturing are what you need to succeed.
During the first years of a relationship, things are sweet and normal. Nobody feels bad about each other. As the marriage begins to mature, many obstacles and challenges will emerge; love starts fading at this point, and complacency sets in.
The only ingredients you’ll need to sustain your relationship this time are your commitment, devotion, and energy.
Those three things are what will keep you calling the obstacles of your relationship.
So if anybody told you that you are completely immune from problems when you married, that’s a lie.
You must be ever ready to do whatever you will to make your marriage an example to other couples.
2) Don’t Stop Praying About It:
This is the time to commit your journey to the most high God. You have to pray fervently that God makes you the type of wife that your husband will cherish.
Virtues wives are the pride of your husband and the families as a whole and you can’t make yourself that without God’s help.
Proverb 3 vs 5 says “trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your understanding. in all your ways, acknowledge Him and He shall direct your path.
You need to let God guide on you how to be the best wife and mother because you cannot do it yourself.
3) Learn To Honor And Not Love Your Husband.
One of the ways of preparing to be a wife is to learn what works and does not work in a relationship. One of those things that work in a relationship is to know the proper ways of relating with a man you will get married to in the future.
You should know the difference between loving and honoring your husband. Women make the mistakes of trying to love their husband.
Many times, I have heard women complaining that their husbands don’t reciprocate their love to them, but the fact is that the man is not seeing the love from her wife, and that’s right.
All men don’t expect love from their, wives they expect to be honored and respected. If you love your husband, but don’t respect him or honor him, then you are making a grave mistake.
Men understand respect as love. So when you respect him, you are expressing your love to him, and he will love you in return. Don’t make the mistake like others. Let your spirit direct you.
4) Discard Selfishness Before The Time.
Marriage is for two and it works when the two people are in harmony. To be in harmony you must remove selfishness from your life. As a single, you do your things, buy things you like.
your life should start changing now. Start thinking for two now, knowing that sooner or later it will happen. Think of how to carry your family along when the time comes.
Change your sentences from “l” to We. Start thinking of how to give your resource and time for your family’s happiness. Work on becoming selfless, because that’s is the only way to be a better wife In the future.
5) Start Organizing Your Finances:
This is important If you are also hoping to get a financially stable man. Like, attract like. Smart financial men like to marry someone with like-minded people
They don’t like to marry extravagant women, so if you are not saving and making good financial decisions, I implore you to start planning now. Save more and have a daily budget if possible.
Start cutting on your spending, because soonest you will start building your family.
6) Get Rid Of Pride.
You are a good girl, you respect everyone and you know that you are down to earth. That’s good! There is this type of pride am talking about. That is the type of pride that exists between couples.
Most couples don’t see that as pride and it has destroyed so many marriages. I am talking about the pride of saying sorry when you err or make mistakes. It will not cost you anything to say “I am sorry.”
So if you want to be a good wife, start training yourself so this pride will not be associated with you. Remember that “pride goes before fall.”
7) Be Able To Take Care Of Yourself And Your Family.
You must pray for the ability to take care of your family. The truth is that family is not easy, because there are many things to take care of – the children, the household chores, and the entire household.
Things will be better if you ask God for thee. The grace of God will make things easy; it will make you not see the works as a task, but a privilege.
Start grooming yourself for the future. Learn anything that will be beneficial to your families like cooking, and parenting skills. Learn how to communicate effectively. The best thing is that you can learn these things from the comfort of your house. It’s important.
8) Be Ready To Adjust To Your Partner:
This is another important point to not. You will have to adjust yourself to your partner, and your new life.
Single life is different from married life. Soon you will be married to someone you will live with for the rest of your life. Your best bet is to learn how to start adjusting to your partner and your hubby.
The quicker you adjust, the better and the more positive answers you’ll get
9) Make Friends With More Married Ladies Than Singles.
Another important way of preparing to be a wife is to surround yourself with people with who you can learn what marriage is all about. The single may have another definition for marriage, they may be seeing marriage differently. I bet you that married women can describe what marriage is to you better than singles.
Any married woman has tasted marriage and she can advise you about what is working for her and what is not. She can give you secrets that can work for you all through your married life. The singles can’t give what they don’t have.
Therefore start connecting with your role model and be careful when you are connecting to avoid making a wrong choice.
Also, weigh their advice and choose the best to apply in your marriage when the time comes.
10) You Can See A Marriage Counselor.
Deciding to see a pre-marriage counselor will be another best choice to take at this point. These people are trained in everything about marriage and how to make it successful.
Going for pre-marriage counseling will help you discover some things you may or may not try in your marriage. Below are a few things the marriage therapist teach you.
- Communication skills.
- Finances and how to manage them effectively.
- Beliefs and attitudes.
- Family relationships.
- Sex and affections.
- Decision making.
- Plans and desires to have children.
- How to deal with anger effectively.
- Ways to know each other well.
When you get yourself acquainted with all these fact, then you are unstoppable.
11) Are Identify Your Booundaries.
When you have attended the pre-marriage counseling, heard from your friend, it is time to boundaries. You may be making a mistake if you don know what your boundaries are before marriage.
Boundaries are all about knowing where your power ends and where your partner power begins.
As you are gathering information about how to be a good wife you’ll be able to know what you will accept or refuse in your marriage. Then be ready to exert them when you finally get hooked up.
Now that you know how to be a good wife, I pray that God will help you achieve your goals of being a mother and wife.
I also wish to tell you that you can only be the best you can, don’t force yourself to be what you can’t be. Don’t set unrealistic goals for yourself. Most especially, ask God to take preeminence in all you want to achieve as a married woman.
Remember to invite me when the time comes.