100% Sure Ways to Make your Marriage successful

What is the statue of your marriage now? Happy or unhappy? Have you ever considered giving 100% self to make your marriage successful?

This is a question only you can answer. It took me time to understand that 50:50 is not a good score when it comes to making a marriage work properly.

There was a time in my marriage when I thought everything was going to be over between my wife and I. We loved each other so much, but we still have lots of differences.

It doesn’t mean I wasn’t trying all I could to make everything work out good, but one thing was clear and that is the fact that I didn’t do what I was supposed to do.

 

But we love each other

We were so much in love with each other, we share time together, we share the domestic chore, we have special romantic dates, we do many other things we know that can make a marriage successful, yet we quarrel and fight more often.

Then I asked myself this question “what are we not doing right”?

 

Is this your story?

Just like I, I know you have asked questions like these. After doing all you could do to make your marriage happy, and yet everything seems to be crushing down.

Don’t worry; )

In this post, I am going to share with you one thing you have not tried before; and that is the same thing that changed the statues of my marriage.

The secret I want to let you in that will help make your marriage successful in a short time. t is to try to offer 100% self and not 50% to save your marriage.

Let me explain

You and I knows too well that one of the best ways to receive anything in life is to give, and what you give also determines exactly what you’ll receive in the end.

Simply put, when you give love, you are sure to receive love, when you give life,you’ll receive life also.

The most important of all is that the amount you give also determines how much you will receive too.

The Bible made this clear in Mathew 7:2 (Parallel Version) ”For the same way you judge others you will be judged and the measure you use, it will be measured to you”

All though relationships should not base on what you give is what you get, but if you really want to get the best from your marriage, you should first of all consider giving your best, even when your partner is not giving half of it.

 

Dr Phils quote on this

“Relationships are not 50/50 (but 100:100. This is because you are responsible for what you bring to your (relationship) what you elicit from your partner, what you maintain or allow with your partner. You need to look at you”

Obviously, it may be easy for you to consider the 50:50 games, but always remember that when you stop at the middle, your partner will definitely meet you there.

However, mind you that the center (50:50) is where keeping scores and giving conditions are located.

It’s a place where you think relationship is a transaction, where you give half and expect half back.

But, a good relationship is all about giving everything freely without expecting getting the same amount in return.

Giving 100% self means choosing the way of complete commitment to your marriage and your mate, not regarding how good or bad your relationship is.

It also means getting up from your bed in the morning and the first thing that comes to your mind is ‘what one thing can I do today to make my marriage stronger than it was yesterday,even when your partner is not doing the same?”

Ephesians 5:25 says

Husband love your wife, just as Christ loved the church and gave Himself up for her”

In this chapter of the Bible, we men were commanded to give all (100%) to our wives and also to die daily for her.

Until I realized this, I was still struggling to keep a balance in my marriage.

If you are really interested in saving your marriage as I did, then here are 5 things you must consider doing starting now.

  • Give more of your Time: Trust me; I know too well that you have your business to attend to, your job, the house chores and so many other things that are yawning for your time, but you must make out time for your marriage and your spouse.

One major reason why there are so many break ups in our society today is because couples rarely have time to share together.

You see! Most couples find it hard to give each other enough time each day, each week and month.

It is actually not lack of time that brings separation, but just that without spending time together, it is impossible to meet those needs that are responsible for marriage growth.

There is a personal attention needed to sustain love in a marriage that only comes through spending time together.

Here is some importance of spending time together

  • It will make your relationship stronger
  • You can understand what has been on your spouse’s mind all the while.
  • You feel happier because you are with the love of your life.
  • You have time to discuss on the way forward.

Having all these benefits in mind, I think you should try to make time available.

2 Give more attention:if you are really interested in making your marriage grow which I know you do, then you have to keep paying attention to your spouse. I said this because I know a lot of things like, work, children, church activities are all there and if we are not careful, it will steal all our attention that we will forget our spouse.

Paying attention to our spouse means love. One of the ways you can show some one you love him/her is by paying attention.

It simply shows them that you value, care and love them.

When you give attention to your spouse, you are simply saying to him/her ”I value you” and you matter to me more than anything and you also worth listening to.

Giving attention also means giving up your whole time and our time is our life.

When you consider how you fell in love in the first place, you’ll realize that it all started from paying attention to someone and the other person paying attention to you too.

Remember those days, when you will call him/her time and time again, because you want to know how she is doing, you will buy flowers, talk for hours, write love notes and spend hours together.

Then ask yourself if those things are still in place in your relationship now. If they are not, then try to get them back.

3 Communicate Effectively:- You can never talk about successful marriage/relationship without talking about effective communication. Simply put, Communication is vital to marriage, just as blood is to human beings

Now, it is not just mere communication, but to do it effectively, the way it will empower your marriage/relationship.

There are couples who find it difficult to have chit a chat for just 1 minute; the minute the settle down to talk, you see them raising up their voices.

The reason is that they have not discovered or learnt how to communicate effectively.

Probably, every one of them wants to talk without listening to the other.

If you fit my description, then all hope is not lost, what you should do is learn the skills in communication, it will help you in your marriage.

Here is an article that will help you in your communication.

Rounding up:-

From this article, you should be able to see the three important ways make your marriage successful.

Just put them to practice and see what will become of your marriage from this moment

Cheers!

This is still your friend Murphyaik

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Sex Questions: Tips To Boost Sex In Your Marriage

 

In this post, I will show you some amazing sex questions to ask your partner before sex.

 

If you get good answers for these sex questions from your partner, then you are sure that you understand exactly what your partner is expecting from you during sex.

 

If there is one thing every couple must hold firm in their marriage that is their sex life.

 

Sex is an important aspect of every marriage that when you nurture it properly, you know you have a cheating proof relationship. But when you neglect sex in your marriage, then it will not take time before your marriage fails.

 

There is no marriage today that doesn’t have a problem, and sex is found to be among the number one issue in marriage.

 

This will boost your sex

However, if you really desire to have a more passionate and romantic relationship with your spouse, then you must have to understand your partners likes and dislikes about sex,

 

Take time to go through these questions I have written down for you.

 

It’s all about helping you achieve more amazing sex with your spouse. These questions are important for every couple, both the newlywed, long-married as well as the older couples.

You will learn new  things about sex

One important aim for asking these questions is to help the two of you discover new things about each other’s sexual life

 

Now the most important thing to note as you read this to ask your most pressing questions about sex, and also be honest when you are answering the questions too.

 

So get a jotter and pen, so you can write down the answers provided by your spouse, so you can refer to them any time.

 

Again you must make sure to honor your spouse’s opinion as regards what he or she wants.

 

Put force out of it all, nobody wants to be forced and remembers the best way your relationship can grow is to put your spouse’s most important emotional needs in front of everything else.

 

Sex Questions: Tips To Boost Sex In Your Marriage.

 

  • Can you rate our sex life
  • How do we connect in the day time to put us in the mood for sex?
  • Tell me what I should do to make you desire me more?
  • What position of love-making do you enjoy best?
  • Where do I touch you during sex that will help you reach orgasm?
  • How many times would you want to have sex in a week?
  • How best can we express our sexual satisfaction?
  • What is your sex drive? High or low?
  • How would you want me to hold you before and after sex?
  • Which two other places would you want us to make life outside our bedroom?
  • How long would you want me to last during the foul play?
  • What are the things you will prefer me to do during the foul play?
  • How would you want me to dress that will help you get in the mood?
  • Are there things you would want me to do during sex that I’ve not done?
  • What is your best part of our sex life?
  • What is your worst part?
  • Would you want the use of sex toys like-

Vibrator,

Dildo,

Penis ring,

Others

 

  • Tell me one thing about oral sex that makes you feel great.
  • What belief do you have about sex?
  • Do you have any fear concerning sex? If yes then what is it?
  • When was the last time you reached orgasm during our sex?
  • Is your sexuality still the same or has it change over time?
  • What are your most memorable experiences during our sex?
  • What’s your greatest hardcore “fantasies”.
  • What is the sensitive part of your body you want me to touch?

 

I am sure this will help you increase your sex with your spouse. Just be sure to listen properly to what he or she has to say.

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7 Secret Strategies To Make Your Marriage Stronger

Are you looking for ways to make your marriage stronger ? Then you are in the right place.

One thing every couple want so much is to have a successful relationship with their spouse

However, sometimes the opposite is always what they get; instead of seeing joy, love and peace reining in their relationship, they have quarrels, hate, fight and sometimes separation happening.

If your marriage looks like what I have described so far, here is one thing I want you to know. It is not the end of the road.

Thankfully, there are things you can do to make your marriage stronger again, and I am going to let them out to you in this article.

You may also want to read this: Things to make your marriage happy

My only wish is that you will not take this as one of the usual articles you have read before. If you are ready for this then let’s go

                        

      7 secrets to make your Marriage stronger

 

1 Constantly updates your marriage Virus Scanner: –

Viruses are the things that affects the host, and if not properly checked can harm the host.

In life there are things that can harm and even destroy your relationship if you are not observant of them.

They usually look insignificant, which is why we overlook them. But they will continue to eat the foundation of your marriage, until it becomes so weak to sustain you and too impossible for you to handle.

The proper way to check the harmful attack of those marriage and relationship viruses is to scan your marriage always. That will help you identify them immediately and also get rid of them.

I am talking about things like lies, jealousy, hate, blame, pointing fingers and so many other things

If these things are properly checked in our marriages, there will never be room for abuse or divorce.

 

2 Don’t ignore problems:-

One step to solving any problem is to identify what the problems are really are.

Some partners, pretends they are living happily in their marriage, but they always have different opinion and disagree in almost everything.

While some couples deal with their differences immediately, some do it calmly, although both method of dealing with problems works well, however, it is risky where you ignore the problems completely.

There are challenges that cannot be ignored so it is better to find a way to settle every problem. That will help you move on in your relationship.

 

3 Learn to talk about your happy, angry and hurting feelings:-

Everyone has a moment of joy and sorrow. Those times of happiness fills our heart with joy and you feel happier when you share your joy to someone closer.

In the same way, it is equally good to share your hurting feelings with your spouse.

When you keep your negative feelings for so long in your heart without sharing, suddenly, you will find out it is effecting your actions, and sometimes it is expressed through words.

When you share your feelings with each other the hope of sharing utmost feelings instead of focusing on your spouse’s ill actions, then the whole issues will be addressed in a safer and effective way.

4 Apologize when necessary:-

Saying sorry “when you screw up things sound simple, but that is always the hardest thing to do.

We find it very easy to say, especially when there is a “trivial matter” such as when you mistakenly splash water on someone or give the wrong change to your customer.

But, when it comes to important issues and saying it to those that matters to us, it becomes a very hard word to utter.

However, your inability to say those five letter words can harm your marriage.

So if you are interested to know how to make your marriage stronger, them say sorry and genuinely say it.

Saying sorry will not destroy you; it will never suck up the blood in your body. Rather, it eases tension, and reduces stress in relationship.

 

5 Avoid resentments:-

Notwithstanding the beautiful and lovely updated of happy home pictures we get from Facebook and other social media daily, may I tell you out right here that not all that glitters is gold.

I said that because I know that even the healthiest relationships are not 100% free of fights.

One way or the other we wrong or are wronged by our partner. However, the fight is not the issue.

A licensed marriage and family counselor Bob Navarra (PSYD) said that the feelings are not the reason marriage breaks, but how the issues are handled.

The best approach is to talk about it outright and settle it once and for all.

But when emotions are taken likely, a toxic negativity starts and before you know it every part of your marriage is affected. Resentments reside in us and feed from our negative feelings.

 

 

7 Keep dating each other:-

Date! Date!! And date: Yes, you heard that right. Don’t think you are married now, so no time for dates again.

 

Read: How to date your wife here

 

The same way dating is important for the singles, it is also important to the married.

From a survey conducted by the National Marriage project at University in Virginia, shows that couples who date frequently are not easily divorced and are stronger in their relationship.

Dating provides room where you and your partner communicate effectively and create a secured environment for trust and happiness.

If you have stopped dating or your dating has become a routine, then you need to revive it. It will not only make your marriage beautiful, but your life will be greatly affected also.

 

Finally:– Things will be easier for you and your spouse if you will make constant check of your marriage from time to time.

Remember, getting married is not the main thing but keeping your marriage happy is where to concentrate.

I am still your friend murphyaik.

Keep keeping on until you get to the top.

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