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9 Lovely characteristics of a loving husband

Characteristics of a loving husband, how to love your wife, love your family,


If I ask you to make a list of the characteristics of a loving husband, what will your list look like?

Your first in the list could be

1, handsome.

2, tall.

3, working man.


Really all these matters, but, there are so many things that make up the characteristics of a loving husband.


So if you are getting married soon and you want to finally settle down with a loving husband, or you are hoping to make your husband one, then you should read this post carefully, because I will show you what the perfect characteristics are.


This post will help you streamline your search, as well as reduce your length search for a good husband.


If this is what you want to know, then let’s dive in now.


Who is a loving husband?

A loving husband can be described as that man you feel so relaxed and secured to be with because he really gave you the reason to love and cherish him.

He may not be handsome-looking, but he has the characteristics of the man who loves his wife dearly.

In the book of Jeremiah 5:1, God described a good man as a man who is careful in his dealings with others.

Is that the type of man you want as a husband, or the man you want your husband to become?

If so, then here is how to know a loving husband.


9 Characteristics of a loving Husband.


1) Gentleness:-

Gentleness simply means “strength under control”. That shows that the lovely husbands know how to control their strengths, anger when their pets misbehave, the piano is not working properly and when the partner made a mistake.

Being gentle with your spouse means more than physical things.

It will greatly be noticed from the ways you handle things.

Your gentleness also shows when you are responding or interacting with your spouse. The loving husband is very good at managing their strength in other not to hurt the partner.


2) He knows how to “prioritize the positives”:-

In their book ” Happy together using the science of positive psychology to build a love that lasts”, Suzann and her husband James pawlesky, who is the director of education at the University of Pennsylvania positive psychology center said that ” positive do not happen without efforts”.


Don’t Let It Die.

According to them, many people allow those positive emotions of excitement, passion, and joy that existed naturally at the beginning of the relationship to die before trying to restore it back.

What they are saying is that those happy couples who are able to sustain their relationships for a long time are those who actively nurture and prioritize the positives than allow it to die.

Loving husbands always make sure to put actions in place to avoid love from dying.


3) They are Good Leaders:-

They are always reliable, have good initiative, and understand the proper ways to lead their families to the best parts of life. You’ll feel secured and relaxed to be around him.

Leadership is all about influence, that means you have to lead by influencing both the wife and the children positively without being dominative.

Leading your family forcefully like a dictator brings negative influences to your family,

You will fail as a dictator.

The dictatorship leadership skills never get good results, because it makes everyone becomes insecure all of a sudden.

Loving husbands provide good models of leadership, that’s why they achieve great results.


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4) Self-controlled:-

According to the webster dictionary, self-control means self-restraint, or to exercise power over one’s emotions or desires.

That describes the loving husbands better because they know how to control their actions as well as regulate their behaviors to reach their goals.

The Bible said that a man without self-control is like a city broken and without walls.


The result of a conducted survey.

From the survey conducted in 2011 by the American psychological association, it was noticed twenty-five % of people who possess no will power were not able to reach their goals.

Those who have self-control are happier and healthier.

As a loving husband, you will achieve your goals, because you possess the qualities.


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5) Matured Emotionally:-

You must be emotionally matured and be ready to control your impulses to be a good husband.

You will also have the capacity to deal with the disappointments, changes, and the general conflicts of life, marriage included.

A good husband should know how to balance all these constructively without affecting the relationship.


Remain resilient.

You should be ready to solve your marital issues instead of reacting impulsively to them.


6) He is trustworthy:-

One important key foundation of a good relationship is trust. It is also important to be aware that being trustworthy requires efforts and great and corresponding actions too.

If your partner can’t trust or rely on anything you say or do, then you are not a trustworthy husband.

Most men have destroyed trustworthiness with their constant lies and unfulfilled promises. However, When you are consistent with the emotional qualities, then your partner can depend on you always.


7) They prioritize their relationship:-

The daily necessities and routine of life will always be out to sniff your relationship with your family out.

To avoid this from happening, you should create more positive shared experiences and nice memories in order to keep things going.

The lovely husband always knows that relationships need constant efforts, investment, and commitment to keep it going, so they keep to that.

Keep working and never let anything take over your family time.


8) A good listener:-

A good listener is a good communicator also and they impact their homes with great wisdom.

Many men don’t pay attention when their spouse is conversing with them. It’s either they are pressing their phone or checking their emails. But the good husbands are always interested to hear what /heir partners want to say.

9) He is appreciative:-

Appreciation is another great tool when creating a happy relationship. Obviously, you and I know how it feels to be appreciated and we feel bad when we are not appreciated at all.

The good men appreciates their wives for every little thing, and they are ready to overlook the flaws.



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What type of husband/Father are you?

What type of husband/Father are you?


Every woman’s dream is to get married someday. However, their wish is not to get married to any type of men, but to get to a good man. Question is, what type of husband/Father are you?


Every woman wants a loving, caring and understanding man as a husband.


They need someone who can be perfect for her, someone who can usher her into that magical dream “world” that is full of love.


It is true that no one is extremely perfect, but one can at least try to have some qualities that every good man possesses.


Today, I am putting out this question to you:


What type of husband/Father are you?


What type of husband/Father are you?

1) Are you the type of husband/father that loves the wife and the children? Or hate the wife and love the children?:-


Ephesians 5: 25, God instructs husbands to love their wives.


But some men have not listened to that command from God; they have thrown away the love they had for their wives and put all the love only on the children.


A man I know too well told me some time ago that he doesn’t love the wife anymore, but the children.


Did you remember that your wife was there before the children came? Did you remember that without your wife your children will not be?.


Your children will grow up someday and leave your house, they are not destined to live with you (in marriage.


When they leave, it will be just you and your wife for the “woven of years”.


Therefore love your wife and take care of your children, so that you will fulfill the word of God.


2) Are you supportive or against your wife:-


A good man makes her wife stand tall in everything. They are always there to support the wife in everything in all their good endeavors.


When she wants to take a piano lesson, or take a stroll with her friends, you are there for her.


A man’s support makes her wife feel secure and give her the energy to take “calculative risks”.


When a woman is not supported by the husband, she feels inferior whenever she sees other women that get support from their husband,


Also remember that she will never be happy to know that she stands alone in everything and when mama is not happy, no one else is happy.

What type of husband/Father are you?


3) The type of husband that help the wife in the domestic chores:-


I wrote an article some time ago, asking men to help out in the domestic chore; but I got some negative reactions.


All the men are saying that their wives will use them as a maid if they do so.


But it is really good to help your wife do some chores especially when you see that she is busy with other things.


Remember, she is also a human being and gets tired like every other person.


5) The type of husband/father that empowers or criticize the wife:-


When you criticize your wife constructively, it will not hurt her, but if you are the type that goes beyond the constructive type of criticism, then you should be classified as a bad hubby.


criticism destroys someone’s life. You may think you are helping her when you do so, but something else is happening inside her,


It can make your wife hide things from you, seek for validations outside and even start resenting secretly.


But when you encourage your wife, she becomes open to you and she will always seek a way to make you and your marriage happier.


2) Are you supportive or against your wife:-


6) The type of man that is devoted to his family:-

A devote husband is the one that shares his deepest thought with his wife, love to spent time with her, pays attention to those little things that matter, and gives emotional supports to the wife.


The man that is not devoted to abuses and destroys the peace and joy the marriage.

So choose to be the devoted type.


7) The husband/ father that takes care of his wife and family needs:-


It is the duty of a husband to see that the needs of his wife and the children are met, although women can support too if they work also.


But when a man refuses to see that the responsibilities of his family rest on his shoulders, then he is not a good husband.


8) The husband/father that keeps his wife and marriage first above everything or neglect the family:-


God commanded the men to love their wives as Christ loves the church.


There is no other higher calling that.


Marriage is different from any other “roll” we fill and also different from the type of jobs we do.


God elevated marriage higher, more than every other thing. Simply put, let all you think to be how you can please God and fulfill his commandments concerning your marriage, and it starts from making your marriage a priority.

9) The type of husband that thinks marriage is a contract and not a commitment:-

Some men think that marriage is a contract where they get exactly what they invested inside.


Did you think that you must get the same amount of love, the same amount of care, the same amount of support before you do your best for your marriage? Then you are making a very big mistake.


For a marriage to be successful, you must think of how to get committed to making it work. You must make some special personal sacrifices because all you want is to have the best marriage and be the best husband.


10) The type of spouse that doesn’t plan things with the wife:-


The couples that make their marriage successful are the once that work as a team.


They understand the affirmation that “two heads are better than one” some couple has gone out of sync and now works against one another.


But understand that the couples that work as steam accomplish so many things in life.


You may think you can accomplish that task without telling your wife, but things can be a little much better if you had planned with her.


Allow her to share her opinion concerning that task and choose the best from her advice.


11) The type of spouse that abuse the wife and provoke the children:-


Do you abuse your wife physically, emotionally or verbally?

In any way you do that, just know that you are an abusive husband and you are overly killing your wife and your marriage.


It is important that you quite the lifestyle so things will start working well again in your relationship.



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12) The man/husband that is not careful how he deals with the opposite sex:-


One of the things women detest is to see that they have rivals and your wife feels the same too.


How do you relate with that your neighbor, that co-worker that is not the same-sex with you?


You may take her just like your friend, but your wife may feel she is your lover and you know what that means,


So if you have been too close to that lady in your office, or your neighbor, you may be killing your marriage without knowing it.


Rounding up:-

It is important you read this post very well to know so you can answer the question “What type of husband/Father are you”?


But, the most important is to make amend and become the best you can be; that is the only criteria to make your marriage a happy one.


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