I have given many pieces of advice on how to have a successful marriage. Today, I want to talk about the steps to build a happy Christian marriage and the things you may want to know about it. Simply put this very article is all about marriage from the Christian point of view.
In this article, I want to uncover the most important aspect of marriage that every Christian must know and the benefits of playing by these rules, which will, in turn, promote a highly successful and happy marriage.
There have been the usual teachings about the duties of the husband and the activities of a wife in promoting and building a happy marriage; it is all over the internet.
So many prominent marriage counselors have written several books on marriages yet I realize that they have not actually helped in curbing the problems in marriages. It is very much an opposite to the known steps to building a happy Christian marriage.
In this very article, I want to share from the experiences I had in my own marriage, this includes the ups and downs that I experienced in my ten years of marriage.
It all started in 2005 when I decided to get a helpmate. I thought I had grown very well to fit into the institution called marriage, I thought I knew everything there is to know about marriage before I rushed into it,
I thought it was all about seeing a beautiful woman and getting married to her. No, it very much more than that, there are proper steps to building a happy Christian marriage every couple must take
Let me tell the truth: no one can achieve any success in anything in life alone without the help of God, and marriage is not an exception. My ignorance of the fundamental concepts of marriage made me face so many challenges.
There were times when I think my marriage will collapse. Things were so rough, It was quarreling every day. But that was not my initial plan. At my early age, I use to see some married couples moving to hold their hands, talking and laughing, and I told myself that one day I will have such a wonderful marriage too.
Yes, of course, It started like that and it is still like that. But marriage is more than holding hands and walking in the street. There are other things that happen inside the house that I did not see. Those are the things everybody should know before going into marriage.
When the challenges became too much for me, there was nothing again left for me to do, Then I had to get down on my, kneels asking God for the next line of action. I thank God for promptly answering my prayers.
As God started showing me the ways I should go about it, I realized that those usual teachings in the church are very inadequate in helping couples build a happy Christian marriage. Christian marriage is completely more than that. You must have the full knowledge of what building your marriage in a Christian way is all about.
What is Christian Marriage?
This is simply the coming together of a man and woman who believes in God and who knows Jesus as their personal Lord and savior into a union called marriage. A Christian marriage begins when these people believe in what God says about marriage.
The main purpose of Christian marriage is to make the man and woman holy, and this holy relationship will then begets a happy and successful. Christian marriage.
God the head of our homes
When a man truly believes and surrenders his life to God, then his priority must be to have his marriage be instituted in the very will of God.
Any marriage that is based on the knowledge and the will of God is likely to stand the taste of time.
In the bible, the subject of marriage expands into something that is very much broader. The husband and wives’ relationship is made to signify the relationship between Jesus and the church. The husbands are asked to lay down their lives for their spouses.
God’s specially designed marriage to be an instrument that will make us more like Christ.
I learned the hard way
It took me time to know and understand these. But thank God that I did on anyway, and those are the secret that changed my marriage.
One of the things I want to tell you is to go ahead and search the scriptures yourself. You could see that God has a lot of plans for every marriage.
Do well to plan
It pays greatly if you will make God the architect of your marriage. A famous marriage counselor in his statistical analysis about marriage said that “Every marriage starting today has more than 41-43 chance of resulting in divorce” He went on to say that Christian marriage has only 35% of chance for divorce and that is much lower than the secular marriage.
I think the only thing left for you at this time is to plan on the steps you must use to make your marriage a happy Christian marriage.
My next article will be on the steps to have a Christian marriage. Be on the lookout for it.
Thanks for reading.