It is not always good to divulge all about you on your first date and so I have compiles some interesting first date conversation topics to guide you.
Divulging all about yourself to your date is the last thing you should do: and that brings the hardest part of the dating.
And of course, this is your first date and you are kinda nervous about what to say.
The good news is that even if you are not telling all about yourself at once on your first date, there are still many other things you can talk about. And I will show you in this article.
As for what to wear on your first date, I suggest you wear whatever you feel convenient in.
If your greatest fear is about what to say while you are on your first date, this post is for you.
This is the best first date ideas you’ve been waiting for and in the end, you should be able to learn the best first date conversation topic, as well as the first date conversation topics to avoid completely.
If you are ready, then let’s get started.
First date: first date conversation topics:
Talk About Yourself, But Don’t Say All in One Day:
This is your first date, and one of the first things your date will want to know is about you, and you should be able to tell about yourself. However, I always advise my ready to be careful not to tell everything about them at once, at least give your partner the opportunity to gradually discover you.
The question now is:
What will be your response when your date asks you to tell about yourself?
Yes! That’s always their first question, isn’t it? And that’s also a valid question to ask, so how do you reply? Don’t worry, I am here to guide you.
This is how to go about that:
The truth remains that your answer must be honest, and yet you shouldn’t give out all. You shouldn’t let out the secret details of yourself.
If you check the question properly, you will understand that is always ” to tell something about yourself.” Not to tell all about yourself.
To answer that question, you have to start with the basics.
Like- your family
Your origin, city, or location.
Your job, work, etc.
Don’t tell about how bad your last relationship was, how you still love your ex, or how fast you want to marry.
There is still time for that and not on your first date.
Don’t Talk About Politics:
A study conducted by the standard University in 2013, politics was found to have a 3% effect on matchmaking (source elite.com). According to them, politics has been associated with arguments, backstabbing, cheating, and heated arguments; while dating is all about fresh and new opportunities, therefore the two can not go together.
I am not saying you shouldn’t bother to know where new date stands on politics or other things but sometimes talking about this on your first date may get you excited and sometimes you become over judgemental which can harm your first date.
It is advisable to you wait for other dates to talk about that.
Should you Talk About Your Ex?
There had been soo many questions about how necessary it is to talk about your ex on your first date or not. If you ask that question too, here’s my take to that; yes! However, you should allow the subject to come out naturally, and if your date didn’t probe you about further clarification, you should not bother to tell about your ex flaws or amazing qualities. Just limit it on about having a date before.
If you pretend you never had, your new date may feel there is something fishy
Here is how Susan describe it
Susan the writer of Breaking up Triage: The cure for Heartache says ” Letting someone know you have an ex shows that you are human with human experiences.” But there’s always a better way to let your new date know than rushing into it before your new date asks you. Don’t dwell on the topic for so long, be brief.
Here’s a Checklist to guide you:
1 Do not call names- just refer them as ex.
2 Quit being positive about it- they may feel threatened.
3 Avoid being negative either- describe than just as you do your former boss.
4 Don’t ask how many they have dated before.
The main reason your new date ask about you= ex could be just to how long you have been in the relationship and probably to know if you are still interested, so don’t say much, just go straight to the answer and move on with other conversation.
Talk About Job And Not Your Salary:
Talking about your job on your first date is good and simple, but it’s not proper to talk about your salary.
It is imperative to avoid money trouble on your first date; a new survey shows that ” money is always the argument couples have and you may plant that first seed in your first date by talking about your salary.
Don’t tell what you earn. Let the topic be personal. Talking about salary is not such a good thing to talk about. There will be other times to do so in the future.
Fargo Propel case study shows that “the best time to tell your partner about your salary is the first six months or your relationship” (source, bustle.com).
Be ready to ask questions, if possible prepare those questions before going for the date.
Don’t let questions be one-sided, it should flow back and forth. When you answer more questions that you ask, you look uninteresting and self-absorbed.
When the conversation is balanced they covey good engagement.
Below are the first date conversation starter questions for you.
Ask About Their Favorite:
Ask your date to share about their favorites -like hobbies, sports, color, football team, and food. Register them in your mind, because you may need the information again during their birthday or another special occasion.
Can You Cook?
If you are a food lover like me, be ready to ask your date about their cooking experiences. If both of you love cooking, that maybe your second-day date idea.
Ask About The Family:
Asking about the family makes the conversation smooth and light. That proves you want to feel connected yo their family too: and it also helps you know how he/she related to the family too.
What Do Your Best Friends Look Like? Do You Have Any?
According to Shanks, ” if your dates best friends sound like rowdy crowds your date likely falls into that category as well. If your dates best friends spend most of their time gaming, it’s likely your date falls into that category too. (Source, bustle.com).
When you ask questions about the friends they keep, you will understand what your new date is like.
What Exactly Are You Looking For?
Be careful when asking this question so it doesn’t sound like an interrogation. You may ask them how kind of relationship they want or what brought them to a dating site.
From their answers, you should know if the relationship worths it or not.
You should know this from their expression if it makes them uncomfortable.
With these first date conversation topics written down for you in this article, you are assured of what to talk about during your first date.
I wish you the best on your first date.,
No, tell me: Out of all these points, which of them would you try first?
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