Getting married is everybody’s dream. But no one desires to get married to an alcoholic. What if you already have a functional alcoholic spouse? and you are for how to help alcoholic spouse, then I have good news for you.
My answer is yes! and in this post, I am going to reveal to you step by step, with no step skipped on how you can contain and live happily with an alcoholic spouse.
It won’t be easy though.
One thing you must understand is that it is not easy when you have an alcoholic as a spouse. It is not also very easy when you could no longer hide the shame you feel due to the pains pain and frustration he is inflicting on your children and everyone even to himself.
However, if you are determined to get yourself committed, then you can find more joy in your marriage and family at last.
How To Help Alcoholic Spouse. Step One
Learn how to communicate with your alcoholic spouse:-
Communication is very vital in every relationship, but communication with an alcoholic addict is not that very easy.
There is a proper way to communicate with an alcoholic, if not you will find it hard to live happily with them.
It may not be easy for you when you talk harshly to him/ her.
Bellow are two steps to follow if you want to communicate effectively with this alcoholic.
Keep your words simple:-
Here is what I mean, If he is that type who will come home drunk and late too and starts an argument on how lousy and not supportive you are: and that hurts you so much. Don’t talk back at that moment. Give them time to rest.
Then the next day, he may wake up with a hangover, which is not also the best time to talk about anything.
The best you could do is wait until he or she feels sober and ready to listen.
Then you may choose some words like“Honey you came home drunk last night and started yelling at me”. The reaction here maybe silence or in a defensive mood, never mind.
Tell him or her how worried you are and how your marriage is been affected by the actions. Let them know your plans to leave the marriage if that continues.
This may course a change in his or her attitude.
One thing I know about alcoholics is that they are “sensitive needy people” who find it hard to stand heartache and loneliness, so when you say you may leave the marriage, it will make him change.
Remember the change will be gradual.
Say the truth:-
You must not hide your feelings. Tell everything as you see it. But avoid listing similar incidents. Let all your approaches be simple and apt.
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