Do you want to create a happier relationship? Do you want to have a lasting and passionate relationship?
If you answer yes to these questions, then you are in for a big threat, because in this post, I will reveal to you easy steps to create a happier relationship, just like you’ve ever wanted.
Research shows that over 50% of marriages/relationships are resulting to divorce monthly, simply because many couples overlooked the importance of nurturing their marriage on a daily bases.
However, if you wish to improve your marriage/relationships, if you desire to have more love in your life, then get yourself a cup of tea or coffee to relax your nerves as I reveal these 4 easy steps that will. help you create a happier relationship.
If you are ready, then let’s get started.
How To Create A Happier Relationship.
1) Quit The Wrong Relationship Earlier::-
Although this may sound terrible to hear, the truth still remains that there are some relationships that can’t be fixed no matter how hard you try, and since you want to create a happier relationship, your first step should be to extricate yourself from such.
Sometimes we see ourselves in a relationship where we seem more miserable instead of being happy, the type of relationship where you know in your heart from the onset that it’s not going to work out, yet you continue to stick around hoping that one day there’ll be a change.
Here’s my sincere advice
The more you waste time waiting for the wrong person to change, the less time you’ll have left to find the right person – simply put, leave the wrong relationship once you realize you are not compatible.
And you must have in mind that no relationship or rather nobody is indispensable.
You will still be opportune to get into a better relationship when you give up the unproductive one.
One of the greatest problems we have is the inability to grasp when the person we trust so much stops adding values to us, but here are few signs to know when to really quit.
When You Lose All Your Trust:–
Trust is one of the ingredients of a successful relationship and so when is compromised, everything ceases to be the same again.
You can take years to establish trust, but second to destroy it, therefore it is imperative you build your life around those you find trustworthy, genuine, reliable and those that are concerned about your happiness.
When you feel you can’t rely on your partner again from the beginning of your relationship, then quit.
- You Feel Sad When You See Them:– If you feel unsettled when they come around you and they no longer bring joy to you like before, then it may be a red flag.
- Addiction:- Whether its drugs, gambling, alcoholic, addiction remains bad especially if it’s affecting your health. Be quick to understand when it’s not conducive for you anymore and runs.
- When You Grow Apart From Each Other:- This is a normal occurrence in every relationship, however, when it happens at the beginning of the relationship, that may be a clear sign to run.
I really know that it is not that easy to quit a relationship, but you will.feel.sorry for your letter if you fail to little listen to those early signs.
So here’s how to overcome it earlier.
Just reassure yourself that everything happens for a reason, period.
Discover Your Hidden Love Languages:-
It’s never possible for you and your partner to have the same love language. That’s always the main issue in any relationship.
There are 5 love languages and you. must know which explains you in other to strike balance in your relationship.
What exactly is a love language and how does it affect your relationship?
Love Languages can be described as different ways couples express their love for Each other, as well as how they can nurture and heal their relationship.
Like I said earlier, there are five different love languages according to the marriage experts and I will take time to explain them one after the other.
Gary Chapman in his book called the five love languages explained that people usually experience the love language in different ways and that it can ultimately cause confusion an conflicts among them.
Let’s take a look at the five love, so we can understand how it helps us create a happier relationship.
Words of affirmation:–
From Chapman’s explanations, those in this type of love language want to always hear those romantic words like “I love you“, you are the best thing that happens to me, etc from their partner.
They will also feel loved when you.
send romantic notes or voice messages explaining the reasons you cherished them.
Dr. Tina B.Reasons also said that saying things like “I appreciate what you did”, or thank you also make. them feel loved.
They simply want to hear it from your mouth and they’ll be happy you. said it.
- Quality Time:- To the people in this love language, nothing says it to them better like living all to give undivided attention to them.
f you can. sacrifice your time to be with them with the TV set, your phone off at those moments, you’ve made them feel extremely special and loved.
To them, any form of distractions, inability to listen can hurt them seriously. However, whether it’s engaging in activities together, or showing undivided attention to them, you are creating a deep bond between the two of you.
- Physical Touch Couples who speak the love language of physical touch prefer any form of physical touch, like holding hands, pat on the back, hugs to any other types of love expressions.
According to B. Tessina, physical touch remains the most direct way to express love. “ Especially when it’s done in a loving atmosphere and not oppressive”. “physical touch is preferably the most effective love languages, because It reassures, and also heals, says” Tessina.
– Acts Of Service:- So many people ask if helping out in domestic work can also be classified as a love language.
The answer is Yes!
The reason is that whatever you do to lift the burden off your spouse counts as an expression of love.
Things, like preparing a meal, trashing the bin, washing the dishes, changing the baby’s diaper, keeping the car clean, are all the examples of acts of service.
most time they even feel loved just to hear words like “I will help you do that”.
When you create more works for them or leave him or her so all the works alone, make them feel as if their feelings are neglected.
- Receiving Gifts:- You can talk of love without mentioning “giving” as one of the bases of love.
When you look at the other four languages of love I have mentioned earlier, you’ll definitely see that all of them are pointing towards giving to your partner.
However, to some, receiving gifts means excess love for them.
When you give gifts to your partner, they feel very happy just to know you think about them, because you can’t give to someone without thinking about him/her.
The thought alone speaks volumes to them talk less of the gift itself.
“Gifts are simply heartfelt symbols to you of someone else’s love and affection for you”.
Finally, understand that everyone has a different of expressing love and so it’s imperative to be aware of the love language your partner speaks, for that only will help you build a happier relationship.
Get More Committed:-
Before showing you some ways you can get committed to making your relationship succeed, let quickly see what commitments really are.
What is the commitment?
Commitment according to the Cambridge dictionary is “willingness to give your time and energy to something that you believe in or promise, or firm decision to do something”.
If you relate that definition to marriage, then it will mean; willingness to give time and energy to your relationship because you believe so much in it and want it to succeed.
The fact is that if you want to have success in your marriage, a significant level of commitment is needed.
It simply means a dedication to do whatever is required to make a relationship work and that also means that you have to sacrifice so many of your desires to have your way in many things including arguments and still be happy that it goes like that.
What a sweet world it would be if both couples and not just one will pledge complete commitment to their relationship without looking back; divorce and separation will be greatly minimized.
According to Bradbury and co, ” Any marriage in which both people are willing to make sacrifices for the same of their marriage are more likely to have a happy and lasting relationship”.
Also according to a study conducted in 2013, also proves that “one-third of people will feel more optimistic about life if their partner shows more commitment
Here are a few ways you can be committed.
a) Be Open To Love:–
According to George Sand, a French Novelist, the only happiness in life is to love and be loved in return. Send also says that “it’s really a blessing to be open to love.
Question is, who doesn’t want love?
I know you’ll answer ” nobody”, but believe me when I told you that not everyone is open to love.
Here’s why I said so;
you’ll agree with me that there are lots of people whose both nonverbal messages and actions will show you their lack of interest to give or receive love and yet they claim to want love. But obviously, being open to love is simply all about what you have inside,
The fact that it’s difficult to expect love from other people when you can’t first love yourself.
If what I said above describes you, and you really want to put more effort to change it, then below are things you can do to always be open to love.
Here are a few checklists.
– Love yourself first: you can’t give or receive love if you don’t first love yourself.
– Do Things You Love So Much:- Engage in anything that gives you the utmost joy.
– Give Love To Someone Else.
– Stop Judging Others.
– Let Go All Your Grudges.
b) Put Both Legs In:-
There are so many things that cause stress in every relationship and no marriage is completely free from stress no matter how happy it is.
There are ways to behave when that stress comes, for example, it will be a disaster to start nursing negative thoughts instead of standing your ground to make things work again.
You may be destroying your relationship more if you are in a relationship and you are either “fantasizing about other people outside”, having wrong or ( judging thoughts about your partner) or even keeping plans to “escape” in mind.
Those thoughts will hinder you from thinking about what to do to get the relationship stronger.
The best thing to do is to keep both feet in and get committed.
Don’t keep waiting or your spouse to give you reasons to put your legs in, because It may not happen that way, but when you pledge your commitment, your partner will definitely follow suit.
Step Four) Spice Things Up:-
There’s a need to nurture your relationship daily if you want it to succeed.
The same way a farmer tends to his farm to get the best harvest, every couple is expected to spice their relationship up daily else weeds will grow on it.
You may not need to work so hard to spice up your relationship when it is still new.
Research proves that from one and a half to two years (1 1/2 or 2 years, the couple still feel happy and loved, but after that, things start fading away.
It doesn’t mean there’s no more love between the couples, but the relationship has entered a “new phase of relationship”.
At this stage, if you don’t do anything fast, it will keep deteriorating until things become irreversible.
The only way out is to keep the fire burning, by taking some actions.
I Have written extensively about how husband and wife can spice up their marriage, so I may not need to go in detail here how to do it here.
You can read the Definitive Guide on How To. Spice Up Your Marriage As Couples: here.
You must do whatever is necessary to make your marriage successful. If you fail to take action, your relationship will either die or remain unhappy forever.
But if you want to create a happier relationship, then follow the four easy step process I outlined in this post.
You’ll definitely get results.