Many people are not aware that the relationship between a husband and wife is so complicated, because of that, a lot of couple have passed through marital challenges and even falling apart in their relationship.For couples to experience a great success in their marriage, they must understand the dynamics in...
When you look at the rate at which marriages are breaking up, you’ll begin to wonder if marriage is not worth going into at all.
Is there anything about this marriage that makes even the most respected men and women turn and become worst off?
And why does it look as if marriages are not working out again even when some couples vowed to give their best to see the they have a successful relationship?
Sometimes you could bet the break was due to one of the couples fallen victim to infidelity, but sometimes also the reason for the breakup isn’t as obvious as that.
Bellow are 7 marriage murdering mistakes men makes that can cause trouble to couples.
7 marriage murdering mistakes men makes.
1) Not careful with the opposite sex:- We live in a society where everyone is free to associate with anyone he/ she likes. While you were single, you you had friend, both male and female.
You can even prove that most of your friends were of the opposite sex and no one had the right to question you. I understand!
Now you are married and you think it’s business as usual: that’s a killer mistake to make.
You may be just friends, with no strings attached, but that’s if your partner believes that. My advice is to know your boundaries when you relate with the opposite sex now you are married else your partner may misinterpreted the ordinary relationship to be cheating and you know what that means.
2) You are not showing enough love to your partner:- We believe so much that buying gifts for our wife or dropping fat cheques is the ultimate way to show love, well I bet you it’s good , but it is not the best way to show love.
The truth is that women feels more loved from your actions and not from your money, they want to see from your eyes that you are glad to have them as a partner and that you are doing all just for them.
If you have not been doing so, just purse for a moment and think of what you should do to make her feel loved today. You can send some romantic texts to her now you are at the office, and try getting the things she cherishes as you go home in the evening and just look at how happy she will be.
I have tried it and it works.
3) Being a boss and not a husband:- “My husband always want to show that he is the man of the house” that’s one thing I hate about my”.
That was a message sent to me by one of my readers.
The question now is, what type of husband are you? A boss or a husband.
A good husband shows love to the wife and family, most times he has to compromise during certain issues just to make sure peace rein.
However, the boss husband roars and everyone takes to his heels, there’s nothing like compromise in his dictionary. All he wants is for his order to be carried to the last.
Every woman detest that and it will hurt your marriage if you do so.
4) Sexual Selfishness or sex:- When it comes to sex, both men and women have different needs. Men because of their sex drive are always ready to have sex any minute.
But, the women are not the same during sex. Firstly, they want to feel more connected and it takes more time to get them turned on.
Always take sometime to understand your wives need during sex, it could be a little touch in certain hot spots, a little time together or finding a way to ease her stress.
If you are not sure of what she wants, then ask her. Make her understand you want to satisfy her.
5) Distance:-It doesn’t matter if the space between you is emotional or spiritual, there’s no way you can have meaningful relationship with someone that’s not there at all. If for whatever reason you find yourself physically apart from your spouse, it doesn’t mean both of you have to be emotionally apart too.
Technology has made things easier now, so take advantage of it. Call her, chat her, video call her. With the help of technology, you should always be connected even when you are miles apart.
6) No clear boundaries with family members :- If you always want to involve your family members whenever there’s little issues in your relationship, then you are making a terrible mistake that can cause more trouble in your marriage.
7) letting only women do children rearing :-
Husbands tend to think that raising children is for the women only, so they sit at a distance and watch the women do the work, then they always want to blame the women when anything goes wrong. That’s very wrong.
If you are the type of man that rush off to work, and never have time to relate with the children even when you came back, then you maybe causing serious problem for your relationship.
Child’s rearing should not be left to the mothers alone because men have big influence over the children than the wives, that’s why you see children bragging proudly about the dad than the mum.
Another instance is that children always wish to grow up and be like the father and not the mother.
And that’s the reason you should not watch your wife do the rearing alone. Jump into the bandwagon and so your best too. So you don’t regret it at the end of it all.
Finally: We all know what add value to our marriage and what devalues it. If what you are doing is not helping matters then it’s destroying it.
This post is just to show you some of the marriage killing mistakes, taking action depends on you.