We spend time to learn and master our jobs, our studies and other things, but we have never thought of learning about marriage/ relationship.
The only little knowledge we get sometimes are earned through the hard ways.
The little things we learn about marriage are just the one we got from relatives and most times they are not enough to guide us throughout our days in marriage,
To understand what marriage is really all about and how you can make your marriage successful, then you should read this post
Trouble is that those things we learned from them are either wrong or non-beneficial or may be half baked for our relationship and they are the “myths of marriage”.
They can only be compare to those stories we usually tell to ourselves that are also partially wrong or at best wrong also.
In this post I will show you the most common Myths of marriage, and after reading this, you should be able to know what stories you tell to yourself, because the stories you tell yourself sincerely determines how you think and act.
This may be the little tool you require to be successful in your relationship/ relationship.
Most common myths of marriage demystified.
Myth 1); Marriage shouldn’t be this hard, and if it’s this hard, maybe we shouldn’t be together.
That’s exactly one of the most interesting stories of marriage. People think happy marriage just happens.
I sometimes hear people say they only want to get married so they become happy forever.
To them, marriage will give them all the joy they crave for in life, they never think about the struggles of marriage.
But there’s no short ways to a successful marriage, you really need to work to make your relationship what you want it to be.
Don’t be afraid to face the struggles of marriage, most of them are not to destroy your relationship, but to strengthen it, and short cut is an insured road to future troubles.
Struggling together as couple will help you build muscles and skills to face the future struggles.
Your goal shouldn’t be to have a struggle free marriage, but to discover how to allow the struggles give you a thick skin for other challenges and not to pole you apart.
Myth 2); Happy couples don’t argue :- You will agree with me that everyone of us enters into marriage having different dreams, expectations, needs experiences as well as fears from our past relationships or families. Because of all these, lots of misconceptions is bound to occur.
The fact is that “lack of fights or arguing shows lack of emotional intimacy and truthfulness in marriage says” O’Neal.
When couples don’t fight, they are susceptible to different kinds of mistakes and emotional “compromises”: Beginning from how they communicate to how they extend time with the extended families” says she (O’ Neal).
In fact, said O’Neal, “a lack of arguing indicates a lack of truthfulness and emotional intimacy.” When couples don’t argue, they make all kinds of emotional compromises — everything from how they communicate to how they approach time with their extended families, she said.
All these kill trusts brings argument and contempt amount couples.
Happy couple do argue also the difference is they don’t explode like others or use argument as a weapon of power in the relationship, rather, they find ways to easily forgive, settle the differences and move on.