Marriage Session

November 10, 2018

Your Spouse Happiness Affects Your Health

Spouse happiness

It has been investigated and proven that your spouse happiness can effect your health positively. Simply put, if your spouse is not happy, then try whatever you should to make him /her happy,: that’s if you are interested in having a good health, and I know you do.

Why am I saying all these?

From the earlier studies, it was discovered that feeling happy, satisfied, and general well being are all linked to successful physical health.

However, quoting from the article published in American health psychology after taking a survey using one hundred and eighty one (181) heterosexual couples and also from questioning older American whose happiness were ascertained through periodic assessment since 1992, it was also clearly seen that a happy spouse can affect you positively.

Obviously, you will agree with me that when you have a happy spouse, you’ll get special encouragement and supports from him/her, and they can advise you to get good exercises too. All these helps in improving your health.

Bonus: How to make your marriage strong and happy

Again, when you surround yourself with happy people, you’ll also be infested with happiness.

Question is how you make your spouse happy so your health?

Here’s how :-}}

Your Spouse Happiness Can Improve Your Health

1) Make yourself happy first:- Happiness is contagious, and like attract like.

If you want a happy spouse, you’ve got to make yourself happy first.
What you should do is to take enough time in making yourself happy.
It may entail finding some enjoyable things and engage yourself in it.

If you are not happy with your job, then quit from it and if your friends are making you unhappy or are unhappy themselves, then find happy friends: just do anything possible to be the happiest person you can.

If your partner is not happy because of her past relationship or lifestyles, or anything outside your marriage, then encourage him or her to work on him/herself too, and if there’s need to see the therapist that helps people recover from their past trauma, also encourage him or her to go.

2) Support and always encourage your spouse:- Supporting your partner means so many things.

According to the studies done by the university of Iowa, it could be physical, emotional, it could also means listening and showing some empathy, it could also means holding your partners hands, hugging as well as helping helping him or her take serious decisions.

The greatest complaint we get from our clients is about getting little or no supports from the partner, and so if your spouse isn’t happy, then she may be lacking supports from you as well.

You may need to ask to know what she/her needs from you, and you also need to let your partner know that you need support: never, imagine him/ her to be a mind reader.

Give encouraging words, it will restore security in him/her as well as happiness and remember a happy spouse makes a happy and healthy spouse too.

3) Remind him/her you appreciate them:-

After a long time in relationship, those feelings of passion start dwindling, complacency starts setting in, and that could be pretty dangerous to your relationship, so do everything you can to get it back.

Study shows that it is not big thing that makes a marriage work, but the little things we do daily.

Appreciation, gift, touches and hugging are the little things that makes marriage great.

Always let your partner know that you feel good for any little thing and not only when they do something great.

4) Fix your stress:-

If you have a stressful life, there’s tendency that you will always nag, shout or be angry at your partner often, and such will cause fights between the two of you.

You have to get your stress under control first before you succeed in making your spouse happy.

5) Respond to your partners needs:-

Marriages succeeds when each partners needs are not toyed with, but taken care of.

Although you cannot change from who you are just to meet your spouses needs, however, you should try and make some sacrifices in other to accommodate your spouse.

The truth is that everyone of us have a core need and we can’t be relaxed until they are met.

Understand what your partners needs are and always respond fast to them, that will make them happy and always ready to join hand in making your relationship better.

Finally.

If you are ready to improve your health, then your partners happiness must be your priorities, remember your marriage is not about you, but about your spouse.

Once you succeed in bringing joy and happiness to your marriage again, then be ready to get supports and more encouragement from your partner.

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Toxic behaviors that destroys a relationship

Love, disconnect in marriage, Toxic behaviors

If your once a happy marriage starts going sour all of a sudden, don’t blame it on the witches or anybody. If you take your time to look inside, you may be convinced that the fault is all from you. It could be because of those toxic behaviors from you.

Some times we do things that hurt our relationships without even knowing. There are 5 toxic behaviors that are capable of causing a disconnect between you and your better-half.

In this post, I will show you what those toxic behaviors are, so you can avoid them in your relationship.

A time came in my marriage that I asked my wife to list some of my behavior that repels her, and I was shocked to see an endless list.

You can do the same too. However, if these 5 behaviors still exist in you, then don’t be surprised when you see your spouse avoiding you.

1) You are a nag:-

If you are such that likes to murmur, criticize, shout, yell, condemn, etc, then you are a nagging husband/wife and your partner will never want to get close to you at any time and that brings a disconnect both physically and emotionally.
I bet this is not what you want in your Marriage.

The fact is that sometimes we don’t know we are nagging, but when you find yourself desiring people to do things the same way you want it, then you are in the game.

The truth is you are trying to make things work out the way you want it, but to the other partner, it’s a command (nagging) and no one wants to be commanded.

Most times its poor communication that leads to that, and constantly nagging your spouse means you don’t trust her /him, and you don’t think about his/her feelings too.

Here is a checklist of 6 (toxic behaviors) ways nagging destroys a relationship

It brings quarrel:- The reason that you always want things to be done your way will always bring quarrel and that brings avoidance and a disconnect.
Resentments:
Poor or no communication
Both of you become the enemy.

How to stop nagging:-

One way to stop nagging is to always see the good side of him/her.

2) Comparison:-

My wife is not the outgoing type, wow! how I wish my marriage is as happy as Mr. Williams, my husband can never help me keep the house clean like Mrs. Johnson’s husband, my wife is fond of keeping her hair loose, she should learn how to pack it sideways like that woman next door.

If you find yourself talking like that, then you are full of comparison and it can hurt your spouse and kill your relationship.

From science research, a comparison was found to be the source for jealousy, envy, depression and can as well destroy your ability to trust.

If the comparison can breed all these, then why do you still indulge in it?

Everyone is unique and every marriage is unique too. what works for others may not work for you: Just be contented with who or what you have and move forward.

3) Coming home with your business:-

You leave early to work every day and come back late also: so why do you still come home with your work?

It’s possible there’s a need to do one or two checks on your business at home, but that should not be at the expense of the time you spend together as a spouse.

Couples time is important because that’s when you discuss how to move the family forward.

So forget about business when at home and have a nice time together if you want your marriage successful.

4) You are married to your gadgets:-

Technology has brought joy to the world, but it has also brought division in relationships.

In almost every marriage now, you see each partner holding his/her Android phone laptop, iPad, iPod or other devices. All these though they are good, they bring distractions to our relationships.

It hinders communication and that brings a disconnect also.

So if you have the habit of pressing your laptop, phone or iPad, you are only causing damage to your relationship. Learn to off it sometimes and pay attention to what your spouse wants to say.

5) Pride and Ego:-

You are too full of yourself. No one is equal to you, both your spouse.

Frankly, Ego and pride have destroyed so many marriages, because it prevents good communication and closeness.

However, the relationship thrives well where there are compromise and understanding.

Too much pride and Ego can only destroy your relationship because it will make you less compassionate and keep people away from you.

So to avoid your spouse preferring to stay alone instead of coming close to you, put off your garment of ego.

Conclusion:-

A great attitude they say is like a perfect cup of tea so if your attitude is not good enough, then you are missing that perfect coffee.

Remember toxic behaviors can hurt your relationship, but a good attitude will help to make your relationship successful.

See you at the Top.

From your friend Murphyaik.