7 things you will know are true only if you are married to an egoistic husband

egoistic husband, proud husbandIf you are married to an egoistic man, you and only you will understand what I am about talk about in this post.

It can really be infuriating when you are married to an egoistic husband, things can never be right, it will only get worse.

Am not saying they are bad people, I only know them as fault people,

You can never do anything in this life that will be right to them; they are the only Mr right in the whole world.

To my entire client that are looking for Mr right, these are not the type you are looking for.

These ones are so full of themselves and their lives are only centered on their “perfect image”, and trust me you will never win any argument with him no matter how you try.

The only slogan they know well is “me myself and I”.
If you are married or dealing with such a person, you know what am talking about here.

Here are five other only you know about an egoistic husband.

1) They are not easy to relate with:- You will agree with me that it’s a big task to relate with an egoist, because there’s never anything you can do to please, him.

They always see themselves as more important than anyone else and also see it as a big sin to acknowledge other people’s feelings or needs, so what’s the need of trying, why you know it’s very hard to try to relate.

 

2) They know how to seek revenge: – If you for any reasons mistakenly do something wrong to an egoist, know that there’s nothing like forgiveness with him.

He will revenge to the last and because they always see themselves as most important, any I’ll word you speak about him becomes a big sin and he will not let go very easily and can make him very aggressive.

 

3) They can insult anyone any time:-They don’t care a thing about anyone’s feelings and so they don’t care whether you feel hurt from the way they talk to you or not.

They also don’t mind disgracing you in public, because they see themselves as the only right person and they never feel sorry for any of their actions, instead they find a way to justify it.

 

4) Always very adamant: – They always want everything they said to be carried out to the last, and they are ready to shout, nag, scold, and scream.

They can stand if you do not follow their order and can disturb the whole world if you don’t.

 

5) Their choice of words: – Their choice of words is always different from an ordinary person.

You’ll always hear such words like “I see things differently, I am not your type, I am too good for that, I have my different way of doing things.

Everything he will do or say is to satisfy his ego only.

 

6) They want to be different: – Because he feels more important, more superior to anybody, he always wants to be differentiated from everybody.

Here are few ways they want to differentiate themselves

– They try to dress differently.

– Use superior gadgets than everyone.

Like to be identify with people he think are equal to him.

– Won’t mind buying costly car just to show he belongs.

 

7) Always want to be in control:- Because they feel superior, they also believe they know how best things could be, and they want to be in control of everything.

When things don’t go the way they want, they become so angry and ready to do anything to protect their ego.

 

Finally:- Egoistic husbands are wonderful people also if you understand how to deal with them.

If you are not married to a egoist yet, my advice to for you is to avoid him totally, but if you are already married, then understand that the only way to live happily with them is to accept him and accept everything he says or do to avoid trouble.

 

Getting Married: How to invest in your marriage while you are still single.

invest in your marriage when you are singleIf you are hoping to get married someday, then there’s need to start investing in your future relationship now you are still single.

Also Read how to make your marriage strong

Nothing is worst than having a bad marriage/ relationship; it can only be compared to a furnace of fire.

A research conducted at the university of Nevada many years ago using three hundred and seventy three (373) “heterosexual couples” for investigation shows that marital conflicts has a great negative impact on the health of both couples.

 

The number one cause of that is lack of preparations before getting in.

 

Many people rushed into a relationship without properly investing into it, probably they thought that things could become much better when they are in.

 

But how can you get better results without good preparation?

 

  1. Jackson Brown Jr. Said in his quote that “the best results you will get tomorrow is doing your best today.
    So what do you want?

 

It is obvious that investing in your relationship early will not make you the perfect spouse, but you could be a lot better than not doing anything at all.

Investing in as a single will definitely yield great result in the future, and I am here to show you how to do just that in this post.

 

                                         Investing in your marriage while still single  

 

– Start with a prayer:-The first thing to do is to rely on God for a good partner and it starts with a prayer.

 

Tell God about your choice of spouse, the type of home you want to have as well as the children you want to raise, remember the word of God in the book of proverbs 3 verse 5-6 says we should trust in the Lord with all our hearts and lean not on our own understanding, and that we should acknowledge all our ways to Him and he will direct our parts.

In that case, if you tell him about everything you want to have in your relationship, He will surely make you successful at last.

 

– Work on becoming your best: – The success and the failure of your marriage depend on you.

That simply means that if you want your relationship to become successful, then you have to do your best individually and the truth is that you can give what you don’t have.
Start adding values to yourself, by learning, reading, attend seminars, and browse the internet for how to be your best.

 

– Surround yourself with good people: – Evil company corrupt good manners; that are a slogan that can’t be neglected.

The people you identify yourself with are the once that will influence you.
If your friends are good, and knows how to value the opposite sex, then you are bound to learn those when you move with them.

 

However, if your friends are flirts, divorced or irresistible, that means you may learn those from them also.

Since you are planning to get married someday, have good people surrounding you.

 

– Be prepared mentally: – There is great difference between single and married, it’s a different world all together.

What works for you while you were still single may not work when you are married.

 

This is the reason you should prepare mentally to adapt to the new life that is coming.

Understand that marriage brings someone that’s totally different from you or your background to be together forever and so you should expect a lot of things coming up when you are married.

 

 

– Be health conscious:- Many couples are having a difficult time now in their marriage because they were so negligent about their health in your youthful days.

 

Some are unable to have children now because they didn’t take care of their reproductive organs early.

To make sure it didn’t happen to you, go for laboratory test and check if all things are functioning properly, if they are not okay, start treating yourself as you wait for your spouse to be.  That will save you a lot of stresses and time in future.

 

– Equip yourselves domestically:- Start learning things you don’t know before about how to keep the house.

If you don’t know how to sweep, wash dishes, cut the vegetables, then learn it.

And most importantly, learn how to cook.
The best way to get your spouse’s love is through his stomach, so learn to prepare all the good foods and make him love you forever.

 

Finally: – if you want a successful marriage, start investing on it now that you are still single. What you do no, will go a long way to help you when you get married.

 

 

7 Highly neglected things that make your Marriage deteriorate fast.

       marriage killer, marriage deterioration, divorce, Is your marriage deteriorating faster and you don’t understand why?

 

You are sure you are doing your best to make your marriage better and yet things are still going opposite of what you expected it to be.

You are not alone. So many couples are as confused as you are.

 

There are so many things that couples neglect and yet they constitute the biggest issues that affect the once a happy relationship they use to have.

 

The irony is that “if you don’t know where rain started beating you, then you won’t also know where it stops”.

 

In this post, I want to help you i identify those insignificant but yet a great relationship killer that can harm your marriage in a flash, if you don’t tackle it on time.

 

                           

 

                                     7 Highly neglected things that can make a marriage deteriorate fast.

 

1) Telling lies: – For instance, when you are going out in the morning, you told your partner you were going straight to the office, but rather you are going to see a movie with friends somewhere else that’s not even close to office.

Have you considered about how your partner will feel when he/she finds out?

You may actually go free with that by telling another lies to cover up.

But let me tell you that you are making a great withdrawal from your emotional bank account of trust.

 

Continuous lying brings suspension and uncertainties that vehemently overwhelms the mind of your spouse.

 

At a time, anything you utter from your mouth will sound like a lie to your partner and it eventually create a distance between you two.

 

2) Comparisons: – If you find yourself saying things like – I wish we have a marriage that’s just like Mr. A, oh! My husband/ wife never dress like Mr. B, then you are into the comparison game and it can draw life out of your marriage.

 

If your marriage or your partner is different from the other couples/ or marriages, it doesn’t mean it is bad, it simply means your marriage or partner is unique.

The uniqueness simply shows that every marriage or persons can never be the same no matter what.

 

Most times when we find ourselves comparing each other, it signifies that you are only selecting certain qualities to focus on, but do you know that the other person you are comparing your spouse with has his/her own unique package?

Your partner may not be the outgoing type like your other neighbor, and your neighbor may not be a good communicator as your partner.

So always remember you married your partner with his/her unique qualities and stop comparing.

 

3) Invalidation: – If you don’t know what invalidation means, then let me tell you, so you know if you are an invalidator.

 

What is validation: – This is when someone’s feelings, thought are judged, rejected or ignored.

 

If you are the type that derives joy by pulling down the character, feelings and thoughts of your significant other, then you are an invalidator.

 

The fact is that there is no marriage without invalidation, and it is one of the greatest relationship destroyers.

It sometimes looks like remark and sometimes involves argument where a partner may just be ignoring or neglecting the others actions, just to show him/her that their feelings are not that important at all.

 

4) Misinterpretation: – While there are so many reasons why marriage fails, negative interpretation contributes greatly to it.

Negative interpretation is when one spouse keeps assuming something different from the partner’s actions.

 

Take for instance you call your partners phone number and maybe it rang for a long time without picking, immediately your mind tells you he/she is doing something wrong, that’s why he is avoiding the calls.

 

Negative interpretation can be very bad especially when a partner consistently assumes that the partners motives are very much opposite than what they really are and has the capacity to make even the smallest disagreements between couples become a hard nut to crack.

In other words a little fight becomes bigger than they are when you become a self-made mind reader.

Mind reading brings hopelessness and despair in relationships and after few threats, the accused partner become de motivated and then seeks to leave the marriage.

I know you wouldn’t like that happen in yours.

 

5) Cheating emotionally: – If you find yourself investing more energy, time, sharing your hopes and dreams with someone that’s not your partner, you may be guilty of this: and it can be detrimental to the success of your relationship.

 

The fact is that it usually starts like and child’s play,  and so many people believes is not that harmful,  but marriage Experts sees it as cheating also though without physical sex.

Their views is that if it persists for a long time, it usually leads to a full blown affair  and the consequences of that is that your partner feels deceived and betrayed and then he/ she may decide to leave the relationship if the habit persists.

 

6) Disrespect: – Respect is an important key in every loving relationship.

Likewise disrespect however is a termite that destroys any relationship.

Respecting your partner means you are placing a big value to your partner, and you also show a big honour by treating him/ her as a priceless jewelry.

 

Disrespect creates holes that look tiny at first, which becomes wide, open as day goes by.

Everyone deserves respect and when you give one, you also receives one, so start giving it now.

 

7) Complacency:- This is another subtle marriage killer.

This is a time in a relationship where coupes believe they have arrived in their relationship that they stopped caring, and nurturing each other as well as their marriage.

 

Everyone focus more on what brings joy and satisfaction to himself without caring about the partner.

 

When this continues, one partner may start feeling forgotten and not receiving enough attention.

You and I know too well that un-fulfillment of your partner greatest emotional need is a blank check to marriage failures.

The only thing that can save your marriage from crash landing is to start nurturing your relationship again, that’s when you will see things becoming normal again with time.

Rounding Up:- Ignorance kills, I have taken my time to divulge 7 highly neglected thing that can deteriorate fast to you. It is now up to you to make sure your marriage stays afloat.

 

 

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