How To Enjoy Your Marriage With A Narcissist

 

So many articles have been written on how to have a happy marriage, but not on how to enjoy your marriage with a narcissist.

 

Today, I am going to give you a clear and easy steps on how you could do just that.

 

If you are reading this article now, that means you a probably married a narcissist, your friend or someone you know married one, you are planning to marry and don’t want to marry someone like that. This write up will solve your problem.

 

However, if you are not sure of who a narcissist is, and then let me tell you a little about it.

 

Who is a Narcissist? –

A narcissist is someone who is always very full of himself (self-importance) they love to dominate in thing like prestige, vanity and power. One thing about them is the inability to understand the damages they are inflicting to others around them or even themselves.

 

I am sure you now have a little knowledge of who a narcissist is. Does that describe the character of your man? Then you have nothing to fear. The step by step tips will guide you into having a successful and happy marriage your narcissist spouse.

 

   Steps to have a happy marriage with your narcissist spouse

 

Write down your reasons:-

It is not an easy job to live with a narcissist, but if you have made of your mind not to leave that narcissist you love, then you must take a note pad and a pen and write down 3 reasons why you love and not want to lose him or her.

 

These are the lists you will continually look at when the going becomes though and then get refreshed in the things you have planned to have in the near future time..

 

Your list may look something like this

  1. I have made up my mind to stay with my spouse through good and bad times.
  2. I know that my spouse is a wonderful person and will be superb in near future.
  3. As I remember the love that brought us together in the beginning, I promise to stand firm in my marriage.

 

Tell God About it:

You must know that only God has the power to change situation. Prayer is the only weapon we have to talk to God so why not tell God about your spouse’s challenge and believe things will change. It will definitely change.

 

Know what to negotiate with your spouse and the best negotiating style to adopt:

One thing the narcissist believes is that they know everything, and never go wrong. There may be some behaviors that will repel you, what is best for you to do is to overlook it, just allow it to slide.

 

Whenever you want to talk about anything, you must know the best time to do so and the best strategy to use. Always start your negotiations with the key convincing words. You have few minutes to get his/her attention. Never argue.

 

Tell your spouse how your marriage is slowly going down because of his/her lifestyle.

 

Don’t be surprised to see your spouse responding slowly to what you said.

 

Upgrade your self-esteem:-

It is obvious your self-esteem is challenged because your narcissist spouse is constantly wanted to have his ways every moment and not yours. Never mind, just bring out your “Note” and you will remember that you are bent on having a happy marriage with narcissist.

 

Choose to say nice things to yourself at all time. That will help to re-affirm your faith in your spouse.

 

Rapping up

You must always understand that the change may not be imminent, but you are sure the change must come since you are committed in doing the things you are supposed to do to stay happily married with the narcissist you love so much.

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Make A Good Foundation for Your Marriage

Making a better and good foundation for everything is very important because that is always the pillar that holds firm the other structures. And in this post, you will learn how to make a good foundation for your marriage.

 

This is also the case with marriage.
Marriage is meant to be enjoyed by couples. The reasons most husbands and wife are not getting what they desired in their own family is the foundation they built on.

 

Marriage can be built in either a good foundation or a wrong foundation.
Let us look at the few wrong foundations.

 

Lies

Starting your marriage with lies could cause a big disaster to your home in the future because anything that is hidden in this life must one day be revealed.

 

One day, I went to visit a friend of mine. I met him quarreling with the wife. The main reasons for the uproar were that all the lines were let loose. Many things the man said in order to win the wife were all lies.

 

It was by God’s grace that the marriage still stands today.

 

Remember. it always takes a lie to cover another lie. It is, therefore, better to start your marriage on a platform of truth than lies.

 

Money:

Money is important in everything and in marriage especially. However, using money as the foundation for your marriage can be destroyed at a later time.

 

You must understand that money can come and go at anything. Never base your choice of marriage on money, and never try to win any woman by brandishing money to her.

 

Beauty

Beauty they said is good in the eyes of the beholder. Yes, I believe; but let it not be the criteria for your marital choice, instead, go for the moral beauty. Marry him /her because she is good on the inside.

 

How To Make A Good Foundation for Marriage

 

The Good Foundation For a Happy marriage.

God.

Make God the foundation of your marriage and see the thing moving just smoothly. Start by acknowledging him. Let Him take the pre-eminence. Never take any step without him. Remember you can not do it alone.

 

Be yourself

Never try to become a superman or a superwoman, because you thought that is the type of woman or man people prefer. Be who you are. Let your spouse know that you are the same person he married.

 

Love yourself

The best way to move forward in life as a happily married man or woman is to love yourself first. Refuse to see yourself the way you think you are.

 

Maybe you think you have a big head, big eyes or chicken legs. Remember God created you like that.

 

You must love yourself first before any other person can. Be the best you can be for your husband; after all, he saw you the way you are before he married you.

 

Love your spouse.

No matter what happens, love is always the greatest. The Bible said that ‘love covers a multitude of sins. Marry someone that loves you for what you are and not for who you are. The opposite will break your heart into pieces.

 

Bed undefiled

One of the things the couple enjoys is sex. Therefore do not start enjoying the sex until you are married. Sex when started before marriage usually starts declining after some years in marriage. Let that be the very first discovery with your spouse.