If you are married to an egoistic husband, do not fret or panic, it is not a death sentence because there are ways to handle a husband who is egoistic, and I will show you how in this post.
Who is an egoistic husband?
An egoistic husband is he who sees himself as more important than anyone else.
They are those husbands who always desire to suppress their wives, make them feel suffocated, and even want to call the marriage a quit.
However, they are also lovely people when you know them and understand how to deal with them effectively.
In this post, you will learn some effective ways to deal with a stubborn and egoistic husband.
Here are five other things only you know about an egoistic husband.
1) Always hard to relate with:-
You will agree with me that it’s a big task to relate with an egoist because there’s never anything you can do to please, him.
They always see themselves as more important than anyone else and also see it as a big sin to acknowledge other people’s feelings or needs, so what’s the need of trying, why you know it’s very hard to try to relate.
2) They seek to revenge: –
If you for any reason mistakenly do something wrong to an egoist, know that there’s nothing like forgiveness with him.
He will revenge the last and because they always see themselves as most important, and any word you speak about him becomes a big sin and he will not let go very easily and can make him very aggressive.
3) Always ready to insult anyone any time:
They don’t care a thing about anyone’s feelings and so they don’t care whether you feel hurt from the way they talk to you or not.
They also don’t mind disgracing you in public, because they see themselves as the only right person and they never feel sorry for any of their actions, instead they find a way to justify it.
4) Always very adamant: –
They always want everything they said to be carried out to the last, and they are ready to shout, nag, scold, and scream.
They can stand if you do not follow their order and can disturb the whole world if you don’t.
5) Their choice of words: –
Their choice of words is always different from an ordinary person.
You’ll always hear such words like “I see things differently, I am not your type, I am too good for that, I have my different way of doing things.
Because they feel superior, they also believe they know how best things could be, and they want to be in control of everything.
When things don’t go the way they want, they become so angry and ready to do anything to protect their ego.
Now that you know what an egoistic husband looks like, lets us look at how to deal with them.
How To Deal With An Egoistic Husband.
1) Be Ready To Deal With The Issue At Hand:-
There’s no need to let the matter for a long time when you are not comfortable with your husband’s egoistic behavior. Your first step should be to talk to him about it, otherwise, he will not stop.
But, don’t think it will be easy: you will need to have a lot of patience and courage to take that bold step.
Make up your mind to confront him subtly about his ego, because if you don’t then you will remain trapped in his egotistical lifestyles; if you do, there’s a tendency you’ll win.
2) Choose Your Words Wisely When to Talk To Him:-
When planning to talk to your husband about his lifestyle, you should avoid using certain words that could add salt to injury.
These words will make you look inferior to him and you can’t convince him when he feels superior to you.
Using these words will add flavor to his ego and you will sound less valuable to him and he will not consider your opinion at all.
Never use words like ” I kind of,” ” I feel like,” “I think.” Etc.
When you talk with courage, the get swept off their feet and you will get what you want.
3) Be Confident Of Yourself:-
Don’t dance to his tunes of self-appraisals. You know most of them aren’t true; so overlook them and concentrate on who you are and your abilities.
Remember, he may not give you all the supports you need when you are not on hos beck and calls, so be prepared to get help elsewhere.
4) Say No Often:-
Whenever he wants to encroach into your privacy, wishes, and desires, be swift to stop him. Once you allow him to win at first, then you have lost your ground.
Learn to say “No” when you are not comfortable with his demands. Speak your mind always but subtly too.
Let him know what you think in every matter, but try not to force your opinions on him. Allow him to live his life and don’t try to correct him when he fails in his opinions.
5) Be Independent:-
Learn to do things independently, you shouldn’t ask for his permission before doing anything.
Asking for hos permission adds to his ego, but he will be surprised when you take your own decisions and especially when you succeed.
6) Avoid All His Triggers:-
By now you should be aware of what triggers his ego and avoid them entirely. Never give him the reasons to tell his stories.
7) Learn To Praise And Acknowledge Him If Need Be:-
They love praises so give it to them when they earn it. Whenever he says anything or do anything you like, let him know you agree with him. Also, do the opposite when you disagree with him.
Egoistic husbands are wonderful people also if you understand how to deal with them.
If you are not married to an egoist yet, my advice to you is to avoid him totally, but if you are already married, then understand that the only way to live happily with them is to accept him and accept everything he says or do to avoid trouble.