How to Have a Happy marriage with a narcissist

 

So many articles have been written on how to have a happy marriage, but not on how to have a happy marriage with a narcissist.

 

Today, I am going to give you a clear and easy steps on how you could do just that.

 

If you are reading this article now, that means you a probably married a narcissist, your friend or someone you know married one, you are planning to marry and don’t want to marry someone like that. This write up will solve your problem.

 

However, if you are not sure of who a narcissist is, and then let me tell you a little about it.

 

Who is a Narcissist? –

A narcissist is someone who is always very full of himself (self-importance) they love to dominate in thing like prestige, vanity and power. One thing about them is the inability to understand the damages they are inflicting to others around them or even themselves.

 

I am sure you now have a little knowledge of who a narcissist is. Does that describe the character of your man? Then you have nothing to fear. The step by step tips will guide you into having a successful and happy marriage your narcissist spouse.

 

   Steps to have a happy marriage with your narcissist spouse

 

Write down your reasons:-

It is not an easy job to live with a narcissist, but if you have made of your mind not to leave that narcissist you love, then you must take a note pad and a pen and write down 3 reasons why you love and not want to lose him or her.

 

These are the lists you will continually look at when the going becomes though and then get refreshed in the things you have planned to have in the near future time..

 

Your list may look something like this

  1. I have made up my mind to stay with my spouse through good and bad times.
  2. I know that my spouse is a wonderful person and will be superb in near future.
  3. As I remember the love that brought us together in the beginning, I promise to stand firm in my marriage.

 

Tell God About it:

You must know that only God has the power to change situation. Prayer is the only weapon we have to talk to God so why not tell God about your spouse’s challenge and believe things will change. It will definitely change.

 

Know what to negotiate with your spouse and the best negotiating style to adopt:

One thing the narcissist believes is that they know everything, and never go wrong. There may be some behaviors that will repel you, what is best for you to do is to overlook it, just allow it to slide.

 

Whenever you want to talk about anything, you must know the best time to do so and the best strategy to use. Always start your negotiations with the key convincing words. You have few minutes to get his/her attention. Never argue.

 

Tell your spouse how your marriage is slowly going down because of his/her lifestyle.

 

Don’t be surprised to see your spouse responding slowly to what you said.

 

Upgrade your self-esteem:-

It is obvious your self-esteem is challenged because your narcissist spouse is constantly wanted to have his ways every moment and not yours. Never mind, just bring out your “Note” and you will remember that you are bent on having a happy marriage with narcissist.

 

Choose to say nice things to yourself at all time. That will help to re-affirm your faith in your spouse.

 

Rapping up

You must always understand that the change may not be imminent, but you are sure the change must come since you are committed in doing the things you are supposed to do to stay happily married with the narcissist you love so much.

Read Also

Role of a husband in building a happy marriage

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Sure Marriage Problems And Their Solutions

 

There is absolutely no marriage without a problem. All Though no couple plans to have problems in their marriage, but there are usually some certain issues that must be there in every marriage. However, understanding the common marriage problems and their solutions is a good step to ending relationship issues.

 

One of the things people tend to forget too quickly when they are in love or when they want to marry is that there is a significant difference between the two of them (The man and the woman) .

 

They quickly forget that they came from different background, different ethnic groups and religion. I believe most of the challenges in marriage could be averted if couple will understand this.

 

The difference between those couple that seems to be happy in their marriage and the one that separated is that while the former knows well how to handle the challenging moments.in their marriage, the later finds it hard or may be negligent enough to recognize that there are issues, which eventually brings break up.

 

Bellow are those problems that are likely to come to you in your marriage, and how you could avoid them.

 

5 Common Marriage Problems And Their Solutions.

 

Finance

One of the most common problems faced in every marriage is money. In fact couples fight more often about money than they do about any other thing.

 

This starts when couple find it hard to agree on some financial issues. If there is more needs in the family than the income, there will be problems of how to take care of the family.

 

At times in marriage when he is working and she is not or when she earns more than he does, there is always a power play. The one that earns more always often want to be the dictator of how the money will be spent.

 

Lack of time to take care of the family:-

Most marriage problems starts when the couple are so busily scheduled that the have little or no time to take care of themselves. From Monday to Saturday, Morning and night, it is work or other appointments.

 

This usually creates a disconnection between the two. When there is little or no time to stay together; this brings communication problems and lack of communication brings breakdown in marriage.

 

Poor communication:-

Good Communication is important in every marriage. When there is no communication, there is usually disconnections between the husband and wife. Read my article on Communication

 

Assumptions:-

Do not start the foundation of your marriage with mere assumptions. So many marriages have collapsed because the couples are assuming one thing or the other in there mind.

 

One of the problems of assumption is that if you assume wrong, you can create a very unnecessary pains and hurt for you and your spouse , which will eventually bring problems in your marriage.

 

Never assume your spouse knows your needs, tell him about it.
Never assume your spouse is having an affair outside, be sure.

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Sex:-

The issue of poor sex have caused a lot problems in marriages. Some couples find it very had to satisfy or be satisfied sexually by their spouse. Some couples also find out that their sex life is very boring. When this happens, there may be issues of going out to get satisfaction.

 

Solution:-

Read my article how to solve your boring sex life