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Little known ways to protect your marriage

protect your marriage,take care of your spouse

We are always too careful and will go to any length to protect our costly jewelry from theft insure our other properties for safety, but sometimes it never occurs to us that we should do something to protect our marriage.


Right from the beginning of our marriage we never thought there’s any need whatsoever to protect our marriage. We believed there’s no need to build an emotional fence of protection around our marriage.


That’s the reason you see marriages crashing in its earlier stage and ask the couples and they will tell you that everything was going pretty well until they found out thing was not normal again.

That’s right: )


Every day, our marriages pass through huddles, and while some couples overcome the challenges, others get stocked in it.

The former failed because there were no measures in place about protecting their marriage: but the later stood their ground because they have built an edge around them.

In this post, I want to show you some steps you should take to protect your marriage from the unforeseen

Let’s get down to business now.


How to protect your marriage


1 creates good boundaries:

It’s good to have healthy boundaries in your marriage as well as honor the boundaries.

Boundaries simply show where your power begins, where it ends and where your spouse begins and ends too.

But, have in mind that a boundary doesn’t give you the power to control the other but just to be responsible. So that you and your spouse will have a balance in your relationship and also know how to love each other better.



2 Forget a closed relationship with the opposite sex:

It is proper to have friends and neighbors but mind how you relate with then. A very close and intimate relationship with the opposite sex may lead to infidelity and cheating is the number one marriage destroyer.


3 Build a spiritual hedge around your marriage:

Everything we want and need is in the name of Jesus.

If you need money, only God can give that. And if you need success in your marriage, all you need is God.

The weapon you should hold firm in prayer.  God said “ask anything you want and it shall be given.


That is a blank check for you to tell God how you want your marriage to be.

Make it a point of duty to pray for your marriage for 10 minutes every day and. God will take care of the rest.


4 Have a family budget: –

A family budget is a plan by the couples on how their money would be spent. If you want to be free from financial stress, then make a plan from the start. Plan on having a family account where all the family expenses will be made from.


5 Keep no secret:-

Keeping secrets can bring more trouble to your marriage in the future especially when your partner finds out from outside.

Did you imagine how it feels to know that important information has been withheld from you?

Keeping “major ” secret is a good example of deceit and the more the time goes, the harder the pain you are inflicting on your partner.



6 Have monthly relationship checkups:

It is good to have a monthly checkup on your marriage to be sure things are going the way they should.


By doing that, you should be able to know if the connection between the two of you are still strong, the communication and other areas of your marriage too.


7 Never sleep angry:

nursing bitterness, as well as unforgiveness, can destroy any relationship or marriage. Continually practice forgiveness, no matter the gravity of the offense. The book of Ephesians 4:26-27 ” Be quick to reconcile all disputes. Forgive your spouse always.


8 Have good and quality sex: – In Corinthians 7:5 God commanded couples to enjoy sex on a regular basis. He told us not to refuse sex at all only when both partners consent to that (maybe during fasting) One of the reasons people give for cheating on their spouse is lack of sex or lack of sexual satisfaction. If you are having challenges satisfying your spouse or sex doesn’t exist at all in your marriage then look for a solution: you can search the internet.


9 Never discuss your marital challenges outside:

If you are fond of telling your friends and your family members about the flaws of your spouse then you are causing more harm than good. One thing you should know is that telling people about your partner’s flaw will make then underrate him, but when you uphold him /her, then you are also making him great to other people.


10 Have regular date nights: –

Never stop dating your partner.  Never think it is no more useful to date since you are married.  But the couple that has regular dates keep their love ablaze. Remember,  dating helped you when you were still planning to get married;  it will also help you achieve more passion now you are married.


11 Pay attention to your spouse’s needs:

Everyone has a need and expects the needs to be met. Your spouse is one of them.


Always be on the lookout for those pressing needs of your partner and see how you can help to meet them.


12 Control your thought and emotions ‘-

Never keep a list of wrongs, have no resentment, never harbor thoughts of divorce, or infidelity. Remember if you let your thought rule you, you will see yourself making the wrong decision.


Rounding up:

You should do everything possible to protect your marriage. Never assume everything will be the same way it was when you first got married. It takes daily nurturing to make a marriage successful.


Have daily, weekly and monthly marriage checkups, communicate effectively and take care of your spouse’s needs, all these will help to protect your relationship with your spouse.


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7 Rules of a Happy Marriage

10 Reasons Marriage doesn’t work again














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20 Ways to brighten your spouse’s day

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There are distractions everywhere and if you are not careful, you can forget about your spouse, I don’t mean forget that he/she exists, but you can get wrapped up in your daily schedule and work that you forget to do things that will at least brighten your spouse’s day daily.


The truth is that our relationship is dependent on the happiness of our spouse or partner.


The study also shows that a happy spouse can also be good for your health.


We should be diligent in our jobs, but you must also be active in making your marriage happy especially by making sour your spouse feel happy all the time.


The Good news is that you don’t have to break a bank to brighten your spouse’s day, it is as cheap as these points I will share with you in a moment.


               brighten your Spouse’s day         

 20 Ways to brighten your spouse’s day


1) Tell him/her how happy you are to wake up by his side:-

Create an atmosphere of love early in the morning by telling your spouse how wonderful you feel waking up by his side, it with make them feel love.


2) Send love text messages:

whether your partner is close to you or not, just pick up your phone and sends a love message to him or her telling how much you love and cherish each other.


3) Love not tricks:

Slip a love note on his box, pocket, or any other place he/she  can easily see it, let him know you love him so much and that you will be lonely when you are not together


4) Have 2 minutes hug earlier in the morning:

It may not be the most passionate hug; it is just about connecting with your spouse and ensuring your spouse that you care for each other.


5) Give them time alone:

Everyone needs some time to be alone, to think and do one thing or the other; giving your spouse some space can help to brighten his/her mood.


6) Surprise date:-

Well everyone loves surprises and I know your partner does too. All of a sudden, just plan an inexpensive but fun-filled romantic date.  That will get him /her smiling forever.


7) Complement:-

Be the first to tell your spouse how beautiful or handsome they are especially after dressing up to go out.  You will notice a new bounce in his/her steps.

9) Show special interest: –

It’s true you and your spouse have different interests, you love shopping and she loves reading, but you can as well show that you have a special interest also in what he /she is doing.


10) Give a helping hand:

Whenever you think your partner is at a crossroads, ask and figure out how you can be of help. Do that with love


11) Be and act cheerfully:

Always be positive and smile often, remember you don’t need to feel joyful to be cheerful said Hilbert.


12) Whisper to him or her in the ears:

Whisper to your partner that he/she is your best friend.


13) Be ready to give:-

Sometimes your partner may casually mention  Something he or she likes, try to get those things if you can without mentioning it to him.


14) Make breakfast secretly and have it out when she/he is still in the bed.


15) Say thank you often: –

For every little thing your partner does, do not hesitate to say thank you: remember, gratitude is a “powerful force


16) Just listen:

Whenever your partner is saying somehow, just leave everything else you as are doing and just listen. It shows that you value him/her more than anything else.


17) Do the Laundry: –

You can help out in taking your clothes to the laundry or doing it by yourself especially when your spouse is busy doing something else.


18) Prepare their favorite dish:

I am sure you know him /her well and you know what their favorites mean.  You can brighten your spouse’s day by. Getting those favorite dishes ready will put a smile on his/her face.

19) Lit your face with a smile any time you see him /her coming your way.


20) Call and inquire about how he or she is doing whenever you are not together.



Make all efforts to make your partner feel good at all times because that is the secret of a strong and lasting relationship.

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