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February 17, 2015

How to enjoy your marriage with a narcissist

So many articles have been written on how to have a happy marriage, but not on how to enjoy your marriage with a narcissist.

Today, I am going to give you clear and easy steps on how you could do just that.

If you are reading this article now, that means you probably married a narcissist, your friend or someone you know married one, you are planning to marry and don’t want to marry someone like that. This write up will solve your problem.

However, if you are not sure of who a narcissist is, and then let me tell you a little about it.

Who is a Narcissist? –

A narcissist is someone who is always very full of himself (self-importance) they love to dominate in things like prestige, vanity, and power. One thing about them is the inability to understand the damages they are inflicting to others around them or even themselves.

I am sure you now have a little knowledge of who a narcissist is. Does that describe the character of your man? Then you have nothing to fear. The step by step tips will guide you into having a successful and happy marriage with your narcissist spouse.

Steps to enjoy your marriage with your narcissist spouse

Write down your reasons:-

It is not an easy job to live with a narcissist, but if you have made of your mind not to leave that narcissist you love, then you must take a note pad and a pen and write down 3 reasons why you love and not want to lose him or her.

These are the lists you will continually look at when the going becomes tough and then get refreshed in the things you have planned to have in the near future time.

Your list may look something like this

I have made up my mind to stay with my spouse through good and bad times.
I know that my spouse is a wonderful person and will be superb in the near future.
As I remember the love that brought us together in the beginning, I promise to stand firm in my marriage.

Tell God About it:

You must know that only God has the power to change the situation. Prayer is the only weapon we have to talk to God so why not tell God about your spouse’s challenge and believe things will change. It will definitely change.

Know what to negotiate with your spouse and the best-negotiating style to adopt:

One thing the narcissist believes is that they know everything and never go wrong. There may be some behaviors that will repel you, what is best for you to do is to overlook it, just allow it to slide.

Whenever you want to talk about anything, you must know the best time to do so and the best strategy to use. Always start your negotiations with the key convincing words. You have a few minutes to get his/her attention. Never argue.

Tell your spouse how your marriage is slowly going down because of his/her lifestyle.

Don’t be surprised to see your spouse responding slowly to what you said.

Upgrade your self-esteem:-

It is obvious your self-esteem is challenged because your narcissist spouse is constantly wanted to have his ways every moment and not yours. Never mind, just bring out your “Note” and you will remember that you are bent on having a happy marriage with a narcissist.

Choose to say nice things to yourself at all times. That will help to re-affirm your faith in your spouse.

Rapping up

You must always understand that the change may not be imminent, but you are sure the change must come since you are committed to doing the things you are supposed to do to stay happily married with the narcissist you love so much.

How to spend quality time with your spouse

One of the ways couples can enjoy a happy and healthy life, is to spend quality time together.

Tell me! How often do you share quality time with your spouse? Yes! You do spend 10 hours every day.

That is good; but I am more concerned about the quality of the time.

Did you have more opportunities to share your dreams, your thoughts’ and your feelings the way you did when you were newly married to each other?

It is obvious that while some couples spend time together, most other couples did not get the best quality time that is really needed to enjoy a happy and healthy marriage.

Some couples today have understood that being married alone does not guarantee the quality of their stay together. Marriage is more about “making and taking” the time you have to share with your companion.

At the earlier stage of marriage, it is always very easy to achieve that, but as the year goes by, it starts collapsing.

That is the more reason why some marriages has broken up today.

If you are interested in enjoying a happy healthy marriage life, you must make every of your stay with your spouse a quality one, because that is very necessary and the most important part of any marriage or relationship.

It is all about having fun together and keeping the fire of your marriage burning.

Below are Some Important Tips to Help You Make good use of your stay with your spouse.

How to spend quality time with your spouse

1) Make up your mind to Share quality times with your spouse:-

To keep your marriage strong and healthy, couples must make every effort to share quality times together as one. With the daily stress experiences by all,

It could be very easy for couples to overlook the time they share with each other. This can make a relationship suffer.

My advice for you is to find a way to carve out time from your busy schedule and make it a point of duty to spend time with your partner regularly.

2) Take Your Bath Together:-

It is usually a fun to share bath time together with each other scrubbing the back side of the other. It will help you to be closer with each other.

3) Spend time alone:-

Make out time to spend quality time alone with your spouse without your children. This is an opportunity you may have to talk about the future, discuss your dreams and other important things that will move your marriage forward.

4) No Distractions:-

Whenever you are spending time with your spouse, do not let and thing distract your attention. Most people are fond of doing other things when they are discussing with their spouse. This may divide the attention.

5) Do House Chores Together:-

Spend some time doing the cleanings together. It helps to bond couples together.
One of the easiest ways to enjoy a happy marriage health life, is to decide that it is exactly what you desire and then plan on the ways to start working on it.

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Marriage

January 27, 2015

by Aik

Marriage health depends on your happy wife

If you are looking for steps to a happy marriage, then you must understand that your marriage health depends on your happy wife.

Have you found out one way or the other that your wife is not that happy again? Maybe from her countenance, you have found out she is no more cheerful as she used to be in the earlier days of your marriage.

You have noticed that she feels unhappy now and maybe frustrated when she thought of what has become of her life. You can as well tell from her steps and actions that things are not rosy with her any longer.

As her husband, you are interested in helping her in any way to get over it, because you know that her happiness is your happiness and that every happy marriage depends on a happy wife.

In this article, I want to show you some very important steps that can help you make your wife happy again.

Researchers said that the very first key to marital success is all about a woman’s feelings and emotions; this simply indicates that the happier your wife is, the better your marriage will be also.

Women tend to do more in their marriage when they are happy and satisfied with it. Choosing to make your wife happy is all about making her life much better.

For accepting to be your wife’s life partner, it is now your concern to devote more time and attention to knowing the ways you can make her feel good and happy at all times.

Women usually feel happier when they are sure of their husbands to care for and appreciate who they are.

Make your wife feel loved by validating her on daily bases, show appreciation for those little things she did. Give her some surprises like flowers, write deep emotional notes and secretly hide them where she will see and read then, tell her how wonderful she looks whenever she put on the new cloth.

This will make her feel more loved and they are the little things they need from their husbands.

Women as the weaker vessel they are always wanted to be sure that their husbands are there when she needs him. Make your wife understand that she is protected from the attacks outside because you are the husband.

I said this because most men neglect their families, and prefer to do more outside than in their homes. Always have in mind that a happy marriage depends on a happy wife before taking any step.

Another important way you can make her happy is to give listening ears to her every time she has something to say. She will want to know how much you value what she says.

So forget any distractions and listen to her. You can ask questions if need be and wait for the answers. Make her understand that the conversation is more important to you as well.

You can easily make your marriage a strong and happy one using these few guidelines listed in this write-up. It may not be a quick fix, but gradually you will see things changing and her happiness and joy returning back to her.

It is all up to you to take action now

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