15 Minutes A Day: Make Your Marriage Successful Again

Nothing makes a marriage work perfectly like intentionality and small consistent efforts from both couples. One day, I overheard a woman asking just for 15 minutes a day to share very important with him. That is what inspired this post, and opened my eyes opened the power of carving out time intentionally just to boost your marriage.

I know it won’t be easy, because work, taking care of kids, house chores, and other life’s demands are always there to consume every little second you thought you had. But, I have good news for you. I can show you how to carve out that requested 15 minutes a day, irrespective of how little time you think you have. The truth is that neglecting quality time is the leading cause of marital challenges we face.

And, do you know that, you don’t need to spend millions or grand gestures to build a healthy relationship? Just spending a little time a day is enough to reconnect, nurture intimacy, and communicate effectively. If you are ready to learn how to safeguard your marriage, then I will show you why intentionally spending a few moments together matters and a few things you can do to start creating meaningful connections. Let’s dive in.

Use Just 15 Minutes A Day To Boost Your Marriage Again:

 1) Couples time/ Why Just 15 Minutes A is Important:

Research conducted by the Creighton Center for Marriage and Family says.

“Time is one out of the problematic issues from married couples especially in their first five years of marriage”.

There are thousand four hundred forty minutes (1440) in a day; if you sleep from six to eight (6-8) hours in a day, then you have a good 1000 minutes in which you are awake.

How many minutes can you reserve out of those times you are awake just for you and your spouse to spend together? You see,  having time to spend with your partner can only be likened to saving something precious for a rainy day, and just 15 minutes daily will set the ball rolling.

Not spending enough time makes you and your partner grow distant emotionally and distance brings the unavoidable death of intimacy and passion. So the beginning of happiness in marriage lies in those little times spent together.                                                    

 So create a time

Like I said initially, there are multitudes of distractions every day that will swallow your time, but, you must create the 15 minutes if you want your marriage to succeed; that is just one percent (1%) of the day. Could it be hard for you to share with the love of your life?

If you said “No”, then.

Let’s Create That Time Together:

• Reduce your time on television: This may sound simple, but when you think of how many hours you watch television, it will dawn on you that your marriage will be very much better if you could spend just a little of that time with your spouse. By reducing your time on TV, you will have more time to nurture the three main important things in marriage which are sex, sleep, and conversation.
• Forget checking your emails: Technology is good, but if the user is not properly checked it can take up all the time we have. You may want to check your mail for just 10 minutes and find out that you have spent close to 1 hour reading the mail. Think of what that time can do to your marriage.
• Do your chores on time:
  Doing your household responsibilities on time ensures you are running well, and you will have more time to take good care of your relationship. Procrastinating on doing the chores will lead you to have more stress especially when all the chores pile up for you. It will also affect the time you spend with each other. Completing your daily tasks efficiently will not only keep your environment organized but will also allow you to enjoy meaningful and uninterrupted times together. In the end, you will be thankful, because you have strengthened your bonds and built a deeper emotional connection with your partner.
• Cuddle the kids to sleep: As long as the kids are awake, your attention will be divided; but when they are sleeping you and your partner will have time. So cuddle them to sleep on time.
• Forget checking your friend’s newest update on social media: There is nothing as sweet as visiting social media like Facebook, Twitter, and others to look at your friend’s latest updates. But the joy is at the expense of your couple’s time. So which will you choose, building your marriage or checking your friend updates?
• Understand that it is all about you, your partner, and your marriage: Couples time is the time to nurture your marriage. So never play with it.

2.  The 15 Minutes A Day With Your Spouse Spent Well:

 One thing to note is that marriage is not just about finding happiness, but all about finding ways you and your partner can develop into a better human being.

The happiness comes later and they are usually found in the amount of time you spend together. Sharing 15 minutes a day with the one you love is one of the smartest moves you can take to sustain your relationship. Scientific research describes it as a “positive moments that matter in keeping a relationship satisfied,” But, the truth is that if you don’t guard the time well, you will soon realize that it is a wasted effort. To help you make the time while, here is what you should do.

3. Concentrate on the friendship aspect of your marriage:

Devote more time, like 15 minutes a day to developing the friendship aspect of your relationship. Talk about the things that are not working well and find a way to work it out. When you are conversing, make sure you are looking straight at each other’s sss eyes. That will show how interested in what your spouse says.

Play games and have fun. Just keep talking without an agenda try to give your wife more time to talk, and keep listening.

 4. Re-affirm Your Intentions.

Before you both got married, you had plans. You didn’t marry because you wanted to marry. You have dreams of having a happy marriage, a good relationship with your spouse, having and raising good children, and maybe building your relationship in such a way that people will learn from you. Understanding your intentions in marriage is what helped Kelvin A. Thomson and the wife save their marriage and it will help you too.

Think about it and plan how to make your 15 minutes a day and make dreams come true. You can write a plan on how to go as I did below.

• What are the things you need to do to achieve your aims?
• Are there some characters you need to eject or introduce into your marriage?
• What are the roadblocks you may encounter along the way?
• Are there skills you have to learn?

Writing these down will help you know how to use the 15 minutes a day to do all the things that can get you to your destination fast.

5. Try Dating Yourselves Again:

Consider having some romantic dates. You can schedule to go outside for the date or have it there in the house. You don’t need to let the date break your pocket.

Prepare some interesting lunch or dinner dishes, with some bottles of drinks. But, if you choose to go out, then look for a beautiful and interesting place where you can relax with the love of your life. Remember, it is all about knowing how using just 15 minutes a day can bring you and your partner closer to each other once again as well as helping you appreciate each other.

Why Is Couples Time Is Important?

According to research by marriage experts, it is very important to spend time as a couple, and not just time, but quality time. Spending intentional time with each other can strengthen, your emotional connection, build understanding, and then reduce the conflicts you have in your relationship.

Experts suggest that if you can dedicate just 15 minutes a day just to have meaningful interaction with each other is enough to enhance your marital satisfaction. This focused time will allow you to share your thoughts, emotions, and experiences with each other; these will make your bond to be stronger.

Experts also said that couples who regularly engage in shared activities never have tension and they have good problem-solving techniques, which also reduce stress in their marriage. They also reiterate that consistent connection with your partner through activities like shared hobbies and having meaningful conversations helps to improve any relationship.

Incorporating 15 minutes a day into your daily routine is a kind of investment that will help you achieve the best for your marriage.

Rounding up:

You are responsible for whatever happens to your marriage. If you want it to succeed, then you should start putting more effort into making it work.

Spending time together will help make your relationship succeed, so get to work at once and use 15 minutes a day to nurture your marriage. Over to you now: What other ways have you used to make your relationship better than it was before? Feel free to share it with us in the comment section.