At this point, you would have found the chief causes of problems in your marriage, your next t step should be to take action immediately. What did you find out? Who is responsible for the problems? How did you contribute to the matters at hand?
According to the experts, there are about 2 basic types of causes.
- It is either physically caused.
- Human caused.
No matter what the causes are that you discovered, things won’t change if you don’t go a step further to solve the problems. Just start doing whatever you feel will take you closer to the solutions you desire. It won’t happen overnight, but it will happen.
What actions would you take now to be happy again?
Relationship tips for couples: Be happy once Again.
2) Learn To Be Grateful:-
“Gratitude is a quality similar to electricity: It must be produced and discharged and used up in order to exist at all.”—William Faulkner.
Being grateful to your spouse and marriage is the best daily practice every couple must adopt in their relations. It is very important when you want to nurture your marriage.
Gratitude is a good indicator that you and your partner are satisfied with your relationship. The study conducted many years ago, proved that if one partner feels so grateful about the relationship and the partner, the partner will also feel a sense of marital satisfaction. Source.
The truth is that being positive in your relationship will also bring positive results too: so why not concentrate on being grateful always. Now, I want you to see being grateful beyond saying “thank you when he does something to you; it also means appreciating who your partner is also.
It is also about remembering all your partner’s good traits and relating them to why you entered the relationship in the first place. If you haven’t been doing that lately, I implore you to start today.
The changes will eventually come to you.
3) Focus On You For Now:-
There is a tendency that your focus is only on how to make your relationship successful as well as how to be the best for your spouse that you forgot about yourself.
You will be happier if you will forget certain things and concentrate on yourself; I didn’t mean forgetting to take care of your partner and their need, I mean you should concentrate on making yourself happy first before anything else.
Shamyra Howard-Blackburn, who is a relationship and sex therapist has advised that you should practice “self-care.”
What does that mean? It means taking good care of yourself first. It is important to evaluate yourself and be sure you’ve not been neglecting your body and soul. These two things are important in life and if you must be happy, then you won’t neglect them.
That’s why the number one in my list of marriage tips for couples is always to admonish them to take care of themselves. Try those things that will bring joy and happiness to you. Buy new things for yourself, eat wisely, exercise often and learn new things.