You have been dating that man for close to two, three, four years now, yet he is not making any move to let that important word “ marriage” out of his mouth; all he does is to give excuses.
From his actions lately, you are not even sure he is ready to work down the aisle with you or not.
If what I said earlier describes you, then I want you to know that you are not alone. A lot of ladies have passed through that before, and so many of them are in the mater as am writing this.
But, never worry again, because in this post, I am going to show you how and what you can do to get into that man’s head and inspire a marriage proposal in less time.
But you are the reason why he is not committing.
You may be surprised to hear that from me, but you are the reason he is not committing to you.
But, murphyaik, I have been with him for a while now cooking his foods, keeping his house clean and even offering him my body and yet you are blaming me.
Yes! All those things you mentioned are the reasons why you are the cause.
Here is why I said that.
No man can have a word with you, touch you, kiss you, and sleep with you when you didn’t give him that permission.
Simply put, you must believe that the power to get yourself the union, the marriage, the relationship you so wanted rests squarely on your shoulder.
You have the total control over every situation whether he can take you home; keep you for years without proposing.
We men need all these things from you, but, we want to actually know how easy it will be for us to get it.
From the first impression you give to any man, from every of your step, he will determine whether he will take you serious or play you.
Any man who gets to you now, will make a mental calculation of how cheap he can get you to bed, but it is left for you to make him know what you want out right.
Here is what you will do.
Have a requirement and standard:- If you are out in the market for a real relationship, the type that will last a long time, you must have a requirement and standard for yourself.
You should be able to build a fence and get your standard up that not every man can have a feast in your domain, if you are not ready, then go to the other girl and not you.
Like I earlier said, whatever any man succeeded in doing to you is what you let him do.
Any man who is hanging around you does that for these two reasons.
- To commit to you.
- To have his way and dump you.
Whether he will succeed or fail depends totally on you.
But, men are very simple creature, tell us what you want us to do; we will try to do that especially when it is something to benefit us.
When any man come to you, he came to know what it will take him to get you; if he feels you are cheap to him, he will simply treat you the same and still tell his friends.
So when you have a standard set out, right from the onset of the type of relationship you want, if you want him to be early to dinner, tell him, if you want him to always say the truth, let him know from the beginning.
But here is the mistake you should avoid. Never be prompt in having the list of what you want a man to do for you.
Instead of telling him those things you like, tell him all you don’t like and allow him to find out what he is willing to do.
Believe me when I told you that no man on earth will determine to let you down without you showing him how you want him to love or how you expect him to treat you.
My wife told me right from the beginning that she detests lies, and I am trying my best to be that.
So go ahead and tell him what it takes to get your cookies, if it will be easy for him, he will stick around.
You are special to us if you make us treat you so.
Tell him exactly what you want:- Your age is not what it was in the time past and all you want now is to get married.
Then tell him out right that you don’t want any other thing than marriage and that you want to know what is in his mind about it.
Now you want to crucify me for what I just said now.
Murphyaik what if he run away when I tell him that? Well if he goes away, then that means he is not your man.
Seriously, you have to be willing to walk out and continue your life whenever you are not getting the type of commitment you desire from any man.
But you have stayed 5 years with him; yes, if he is not ready to commit, you cannot get him to commit with the number of years.
Many women have fallen for this; and still have their heart-broken later.
You know he is not planning to marry you and you are still hoping he will change his mind.
Instead of getting the blow later, why not get it when the relationship is still young so you can go on and find another person.
They said that men are like a buses; when you miss one, another one must surely come.
Let him know that your only plan is to settle down. I know it will not be easy, but you must have to do that.
He is absolutely not the only man on the earth and I strongly believe that your own man is out waiting for you.
You must really have to give up fears of losing him, because once you let go of fears, man will lose his power over you.
If what you want is a committed relationship, understand that your guy in question has to show that he really is ready and worthy for you.
That real man will be very willing to pay any price to have you as a wife.
Be ready for that life:- The life as a single and the life in marriage are two different lives.
There are thing you did and got away with when you are single, but you can’t get away with it when you are married.
So if you are really looking to settle down, then you must be ready for that.
For everything you hope to get in life, you must get ready for that.
You have to prepare your mind to receive the new change that is coming your way first.
Clear your memories of your past failed relationships, hurts and broken heart, drop all the old baggage.
Stop nursing in your mind that all men are the same and that this new relationship may end like the other one.
That simply shows that you have no room for a new relationship. This is the reason you can be with your real man and still feels lonely.
Believing the myth that all the good men have been taken and resolving to having many men to “ play with” will hurt you more.
So you’ve got to cheer your mind and “divorce” all bitterness you are nursing of a failed relationship so you can move towards and make room for him.
Learn all you can about marriage. Read books and search the internet about what marriage really is.
Have a good picture of what it is to get married. Did you see yourself wearing that wedding gown and walking down to the aisle? Understand that marriage has its sweet and bitter side.
Adopt the 90 plan as written by steve Harrison:- This is 90 days you want to get to know that man very well, in this learning about the man you are hoping to marry, you will not offer your cookies to him (sex).
But 90 day is so long a time you may say; sure it is but like I have said earlier, your real husband will be willing to wait, because he knows that all will be his when he finally marries you, after all it takes time to establish a good relationship.
Sex is only designed to be a “response to love and not a foundation for love” so build a strong fence to you cookies.
It is supposed to be a seal and strong hold for the already established relationship. If you give this to any man whenever you want, then you are building up pains for yourself.
That man who is reserved for you will not want to taste before committing; he will be willing to pay all the prices.
Even the bible in the book of proverbs: 31- 10 says that he that finds a virtues woman is so valuable and any man will be willing to pay his worth.
So you should stop casting your pearls to the swine.
Always treat sex as the only weapon you have to yourself, treat it as something special and let that man understand how special it is, and not like a piece of cake which someone can chew in a minute.
If a man is not ready to give you the 90 days to know him better and is bent on having sex, then he is not your man.
Within those 90 days, you should be able to know if he comes to play you or stick with you.
Take care of yourself:- Men are too careful when it comes to marriage. They want to marry, but not to marry any type of girl. They are looking for that girl who knows how to take care of herself.
That tells them that the girl can take care of the home too.
The best thing you can do to attract that man is to take proper care of yourself. Always be conscious of how you look, when you look smart, your man will see you as that neat and smart girl.
Remember, the way you dress is the way you will be addressed.
Rounding up:- Don’t see sex as the only thing you have to offer to a man for marriage. You actually have so much to offer and remember, the man God prepared for you will always be ready to do anything he thinks will profit him in the future.
You can actually get into any man’s head and make him propose marriage to you in less than no time.
I am still your friend murphyaik.
See you at the top and remember to tell me what you think after reading this article.
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