Making a better and good foundation for everything is very important because that is always the pillar that holds firm the other structures. And in this post, you will learn how to make a good foundation for marriage too.
I implore you to read this post carefully so you will learn what marriage foundation is, and how to effectively make a good one for your marriage.
Before that, let’s get ourselves acquainted with what foundation means.
What Is Foundation?
Dictionary.com describes the foundation as the “natural or prepared ground or base on which some structure rests.”
May I also tell you that you can’t do anything without a proper foundation; if you do, you will be ready to see it falling flat to the ground.
And marriage is just the same. It also needs a foundation to stand, and not just a foundation but a firm and strong foundation.
So how do you define the foundation of marriage?
Foundations of marriage simply mean the totality of your efforts, actions as well as moves to have a strong and lasting relationship.
These foundations are laid out before the marriage, and at least before the wedding.
It begins with having genuine, honest, and open communication about all your desire, hopes, feelings, interests, and goals.
When all these are spelled out from the onset of your relationship, you have dealt with the impending doom that could rear its head later in your relationship.
Marriage is meant to be enjoyed by couples. The reason most husbands and wives are not getting what they desired in their own family is the foundation they built on.
Marriage can be built on either a good foundation or a wrong foundation.
Meanwhile, if you are not enjoying yours that may be because you have a wrong foundation.
Let’s Compare The Importance Of A Foundation In Marriage.
1. Your Relationship Will Be Secured:
If a foundation is truly the pillar on which a structure is built, then it is best to have your marriage on a good foundation too, because with a solid foundation you are sure your relationship is secured.
With a strong foundation, you are sure your boundaries are respected and that the trust is not breached.
You can’t underestimate a good foundation when you want to have a successful relationship.
2. Trust Is Built When There Is A Good Foundation:
With a strong foundation in your relationship, you don’t need to be afraid of anything or your partner.
The absence of fear brings confidence and trust and with trust, your relationship will grow stronger by the day.
How To Make A Good Foundation For Marriage.
Starting your marriage with lies could cause a big disaster to your home in the future because anything that is hidden in this life must one day be revealed.
One day, I went to visit a friend of mine. I met him quarreling with the wife. The main reasons for the uproar were that all the lines were let loose. Many things the man Said to win the wife were all lies.
It was by God’s grace that the marriage still stands today.
Remember. it always takes a lie to cover another lie. It is, therefore, better to start your marriage on a platform of truth than lies.
Money is important in everything and marriage especially. However, using money as the foundation for your marriage can be destroyed at a later time.
You must understand that money can come and go at anything. Never base your choice of marriage on money, and never try to win any woman by brandishing money to her.
Again, it is imperative to be on the same page when it comes to money, if not, there will be lots of misunderstanding.
Don’t let your spending be more than your earnings, reckless spending can make you poor and bankrupt.
Beauty they said is good in the eyes of the beholder. Yes, I believe; but let it not be the criteria for your marital choice, instead, go for the moral beauty. Marry him /her because she is good on the inside.
You can’t be sure what happens next: the beauty can fade away, tell me what happens when the beauty is no more.
I have seen someone lose a beautiful face after an accident, also a beautiful body structure can disappear when you don’t monitor your diets.
In order words, don’t base your go for or marry beauty, instead marry because you love your partner.
4) Building Your Marriage On A Solid Foundation:
Make God the foundation of your marriage and see the thing moving just smoothly. Start by acknowledging him.
Let Him take the pre-eminence. Never take any step without him. Remember you can not do it alone.
Proverbs 3: 5 says ” trust in the Lord with all your heart, and lean not on your understanding: in all your ways acknowledge Him and He will direct your part.”
Ask Him before you do anything or take any decision, He is there to direct you on how to make things better.
5) Be yourself
Never try to become a superman or a superwoman, because you thought that is the type of woman or man people prefer. Be who you are. Let your spouse know that you are the same person he married.
6) Love yourself
The best way to move forward in life as a happily married man or woman is to love yourself first. Refuse to see yourself the way you think you are.
Maybe you think you have a big head, big ey, es or chicken legs. Remember God created you like that.
You must love yourself first before any other person can. Be the best you can be for your husband; after all, he saw you the way you are before he married you.
7) Love your spouse.
No matter what happens, love is always the greatest. The Bible said that ‘love covers a multitude of sins. Marry someone that loves you for what you are and not for who you are. The opposite will break your heart into pieces.
Show your partner that you truly do love him or her and don’t assume they know you do.
8) Bed undefiled
One of the things the couple enjoys is sex. Therefore do not start enjoying the sex until you are married. Sex when started before marriage usually starts declining after some years in marriage. Let that be the very first discovery with your spouse.
There is a need to set up a strong foundation for your marriage. It’s not hard to do. Just follow the steps I outlined in this post and you’ll have a strong foundation erected for your marriage