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“A positive attitude causes a chain reaction of positive thoughts, events, and outcomes. It is a catalyst and it sparks extraordinary results.” By Wade Boggs
The truth is that thoughts are powerful. Just like Socrates also said, “As a man thinks in his heart, so is he. So it is that what you think about your marriage will also create the realities.
The question now is:
What do you think or say about your marriage?
– A successful marriage?
– Where you are having a quality relationship with your partner?
– You are having a happy time with your family.
– How to deal with your spouse when they offend you?
– How to get a divorce?
Let me tell you that “what you often think about is what defines who you are.”
Therefore, to get the best out of anything, have the right mindset about it, and you will see the right result too.
Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable–if anything is excellent or praiseworthy–think about such things.
So here are a few thoughts to change your marriage:
1) Think About The Success Of Your Marriage:
Positive thoughts and affirmations are the right recipes you need to save your marriage. It is best to see your relationship with a positive mindset irrespective of what happens.
I know that it won’t be easy to think positively when everything isn’t going well, but it is best to do so, because, that’s what will attract the success you need.
Good thoughts attract the best, while the bad attract the worst.
Therefore think about what is consistent with what you want for your relationship and forget the rest. It may not work immediately, but it will work.
2) Your Partner Is Not Your Competition:
This may surprise you, but I have heard so many times how couples compete with each other.
It is an awful thing to compete with your spouse, and it will hurt your marriage if you neglect to continue to do so.
The fact is that if you see yourself constantly competing with your spouse all the time, then you won’t always be happy; sometimes you’ll feel like leaving the relationship.
Sometimes, you may not feel like you are competing with each other. However, if you see these signs below, then you are on the competition game.
You Nitpick: This is all about finding faults in every little thing and criticizing your partner. If you or your partner nitpicks often, the bond you share will be destroyed and your relationship too.
You shout at your partner: Not only that you nitpick, but you shout at your partner on every little mistake. That will scare your partner away from the home.
Trying to change your partner: You have not accepted your spouse the way they are, that’s why you are trying all you can to change him, but it won’t work that way. It will only cause more problems.
You want to control him/ her: Whenever you feel bad because your spouse is not doing what you want, then you are, that means you want to be in control.
You are jealous of your partner: Jealousy is another sign of competition with your partner.
Have you seen any of those in your life? That means you compete with your partner. Stop it now.
3) Think The Health Of Your Marriage:
Being conscious of your health and your partner’s health is also important.
It is the healthy couples that make a healthy marriage. Therefore, you shouldn’t joke about anything concerning your health.
Here is what to do on daily basis.
Have some medical checkups:
check your sugar level to avoid diabetes.
Monitor your blood pressure, to avoid high or low blood pressure.
Do other tests to know your health status. All these are important because only the living can have a good marriage.
Also, remember that the success of your marriage depends on your health too.
4) Think Forgiveness:
Whether you like it or not your partner must offend you. It is unavoidable in every relation, “because nobody is perfect.”
You too have made some mistakes. You have offended your partner, but they probably overlooked it so that peace will reign.
Think about forgiveness if you want to have a blessed marriage.
No matter what happens, find a way to forgive and move forward. It may not be easy to do, but that’s one of the sacrifices to make for the best marriage you want to have.
5 Think About Your Commitment To Your Marriage:
Marriage works better when you work as a team, but it works better when you put your best to make it work. In other words, think of your commitment.
What would you do today to add value to your partner, or your marriage? Do that, even if it inconveniences you.
– Choose to say sorry to your spouse even when you are not at fault.
– Go the extra mile to make sure your marriage works.
Your marriage will be much better when you sacrifice to make your marriage better.
6) I Need To Change My Spouse:
Thought can change your marriage positively or negatively.
One of the thoughts to change your marriage negatively is to think of changing your partner.
If you are having such thoughts as to change your partner, then you are taking the step that will destroy your marriage instead of saving it.
Researchers have proved that encouraging your partner instead of trying to change then works better. That is true because “you can’t teach an old dog a new trick.”
Moreso, Rachael Pace said that “your spouse is not a pet project that you want to change to your taste.”
Trying to change your partner can cause so much stress to you and your marriage, so it is not advisable for you to embark on that journey at all.
Check out the checklist of what you will get when you want to change your partner.
Negative effects of trying to change your spouse:
You will be discouraged.
Your partner will hate you more for trying to change him or her.
It promotes emotional distances.
You will look disrespectful. Etc.
Did you see why you shouldn’t even try to change your partner?. It is not worth doing at all.
7) Don’t Assume:
Many marriages have failed because one or both of the couples assumed many things about their partners. The assumption is when you believe and react to a thought that is not true.
Those times when you feel your partner is coming back from office/ work late because they are having external affairs.
Even the assumption that your partner should know what you need in your relationship is the worst because it will keep you stressful all through the marriage.
Marriages succeed more when there is better communication than assumption. Therefore assume less and be sure before you take your action.
8) Think To Be Sincere:
Sincerity pays more than anything else in marriage and having the mindset to be sincere could be the best decision you can make.
Sincerity means you are open to your spouse: no secrete and no plans to keep any skeletons in your cupboard.
Keeping secrets hurts any marriage, especially when it is found out. It starts by destroying the available trust and then put fear and suspicion in your heart.
Thereafter, the foundation of your marriage will be completely broken. The best solution to that is to be plain and open-minded.
Take a look at some ways to be sincere in your marriage:
Learn How To Accommodate Each Other:
It’s not easy to live with someone from a different character and background. There will be flaws, if you keep track of those flaws, you’ll never last together.
Make plans to tolerate each other, and forgive, knowing having in mind that nobody is perfect.
Being grateful for everything is what sincerity signifies. It won’t cost you much to say “thank you” to your spouse when he/she does those little things.
It will give him the courage to do more for you.
Make Only Promises You Can Keep:
Making promises to your spouse is one thing and fulfilling them is another thing too. Sometimes we think it doesn’t matter much when we disappoint our spouse.
Believe me when I told you that you are depleting trust in your relationship when you fail on your promises.
Therefore promise what you can fulfill only or don’t promise at a
9) Refuse Separation:
It is important to be conscious of what you think concerning your marriage. I always advise my readers to stop meditating on anything they don’t want in their relationship.
Remember that “as a man thinks in his heart, that’s the way he is.” Then stop thinking that you will leave your marriage when things didn’t work well.
Just keep meditating on how to make things start working again, and you will see it happen.
“Your thoughts are powerful.” Your mind will always create the realities of those things that are created in your thoughts.
It is therefore important to very whatever comes before you think it.
Proverbs 4 verse 24 says that you should “guide your heart with all diligence, for out of it are the issues of life.”
Think the right thoughts and say the right this about a relationship so you get the right things too.
If you are not sure what to think about, then read this article carefully to learn the most important thoughts to change your marriage.
Which of these steps would you try first? Have you tried something that has worked perfectly for you before?
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