All they want to achieve is just to destroy your judging abilities and make you feel hopeless.
Steps to take if your Husband is Controlling.
It is obvious to you at this point that your husband is controlling and you want to stay married, then I will show you how to deal with it so you can be happy again.
Here they are.
Dealing with a controlling spouse.
1) Seek help from experts:-
If your controlling spouse is impassive to accepting his behavior, or if you are sure that two of you can’t fix the issues.
Then seeking the help of professional counseling may be a good alternative solution for you. The specialist will help to explain to your spouse the implications of controlling behavior and how to get over it.
2) Stay calm:-
Many people believe that arguing is the best response to the controlling habit. But, arguing with a controlling will not work as he will not allow you to win. The argument will only add fuel to the issues at hand.
The best approach to solve it is to keep quiet and don’t challenge him. Keep calm as he is ranting, don’t utter a word even if you disagree with what he’s saying.
3) Be empathetic;-
Any time your spouse tries his attitude again, try to see a thing from his perspective. Consider why he is doing what he’s doing. This will help the situation from escalating because now you understand him well.
4) You can walk away if need be:-
Sometimes you can succeed correcting your spouse’s controlling behavior, in some cases, you will fail, however, the important thing is to be willing to throw in the towel if you are not seeing changes you want.
There’s no need to keep tolerating certain behaviors while you are dying in silence. If your partner physically, emotionally, sexually or verbally abuses you, then the best option is to run for your dear life.
Finally, be sure to do all you think is necessary for helping your controlling husband get over his character, but don’t try to change him yourself because you won’t succeed. It’s either you look for help from an expert.
However, if things are not getting better, then decide to quit. It is better to run than to die than to tolerate something that’s not worth waiting for.
I sincerely hope this post will help you know what to do when your husband is controlling. If yes, then help me to share it with your friends and family.
I am your friend, Ikenna Uchegbu (Murphyaik).
I wish you success.