There are so many subtle marriage killers we overlook every day which later becomes a big threat in our relationships.
But, you are very careful
You know quite well that infidelity, lies, money issues, marriage incompatibility are the chief marriage killers and you are careful not to let those come close to you. That’s good.
You are also aware that mutual respect, good communication, and good emotional intimacy are the most important things needed to make a marriage work and you are careful to make sure these are in place too.
So why is your marriage going through hard times?
I will tell you.
You see, relationships never fail because one partner or both decided to stop respecting, having sex, or lose communication with the partner.
There are so many subtly and highly neglected marriage killers that’s gradually eating up your marriage.
The funny thing about these silent marriage killers is that just like viruses gently infest and corrupt without symptoms’, so it lies in our relationship for weeks, months, years and suddenly it starts affecting our relationship even before we are aware of it.
No couple prays for these in their marriage, but it keeps occurring.
In this post, you will understand what the subtle marriage killers are, and also how you can bulletproof your relationship from its attack.
15 Subtle marriage killers, we overlook in our marriage.
Bitterness: –
Bitterness means the same thing as jealousy, animosity, hostility, harshness and some other parts of harshness and anger which later results in hatred, vindictiveness, inordinate competition. All these are serious marriage destroyers.
One important reason why bitterness is very dangerous is its ability to take root and gradually start to spread and finally contaminate your mind without you knowing.
When you let bitterness grow in your marriage, it will gradually cause you to fault your spouse as well as the Lord.
The root of bitterness can grow to destroy your marriage. That’s why you must not allow it in your marriage for any reason.
Solution: The best solution to bitterness is to replace it with forgiveness and reconciliation. Never sleep with your problems, be ready to settle it immediately.
Pornography:-
This is another marriage killer that is so subtle in its attack. People usually see it as very harmless.
Yes, they believe the only harmful part of it is when a child starts watching it too.
Pornography also starts from gradually viewing it, until it turns to a big sexual addiction which is one of the biggest and destructive addictions which is hard to break.
Here is some impacts pornography in marriage
- It brings emotional disconnection
- Decrease intimacy and affection
- decrease sexual interaction among couples.
- Cause masturbation
- Cause infidelity and cheating.
Good Post. Where there is a disconnect in a Marriage it will start to fail. Most people fail to understand you have to nurture it everyday. I disagree that Porn in general, is damaging. It can be a useful tool in reigniting a withering flame unless one partner is excessive and secretive.
That’s true Heidi
Awesome post. you are right. We need to recognise those subtle signs before they become big.
Great Aish it’s important to know them and avoid them.
Great points! A marriage takes keeping GOD the center of it and both partners actively doing the positive things in your post.
That’s the truth Taria. It must be God first before anything else