This is obviously what I learn from my wife. They are the secrets of a successful marriage, or rather how anyone can stay happily married forever. You can as well inculcate it in your marriage. If it worked for me it could work for you too.
Now we are married, the honeymoon and all the other marriage ceremonies are over. I am now alone with my wife. Now how can we move forward? How can we face the real issues in our marriage to make it work for us?
The obvious truth is that even before the wedding bell rang, every couple already has dreams of how their marriage life is going to be.
There is always a mental picture of how they will make their marriage to be attractive to many other couples, how they will wake up from the other side of the bed, the kind of food they will serve in their home, and vice versa.
I know you had those dreams too; I did too. It started coming to pass the way I hoped from the first year to the eight years, things started going from best to better, and when it came to the time that we had to review our marriage again.
What has happened between the first year of our marriage to this time? Is there anything we could do to get those moments back again?
We had to look for those things we must try to do if our marriage must work for us. These are the steps we took to restore our marriage.
Five Useful Secrets Of A Successful Marriage
1) We Learn the Real Meaning of Love:-
One of the secrets of a successful marriage is to understand the meaning of love in a relationship, and how to let it rule your marriage.
To stay happy in your marriage, you must learn what love means. My wife told me that to love your spouse starts from the very moment you say the word “I love you” and when the word came straight from the bottom of your heart.
This will make you keep yourself from telling other ladies you love them too. Bible says that “Out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks.
Again love can be expressed through patience, tolerance for the mistakes of your spouse, meeting the needs of your spouse, and avoiding critics.
2) Lay Down the Dreams Of a “Perfect Marriage” and Start Working Towards a “Good Marriage”:-
I know you will be surprised to see that heading? Yes, it is true; there are no perfect marriages out there. My simple reason is that there is no perfect person. There are some more or less ideal marriages, but they are the ones that have been worked out through the years.
Marriage is one of the most difficult and more complex of all human relationships and so it requires skills, patience, emotion, and spiritual growth.