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Read My Personal Happy Marriage Story and Learn from it Too

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Today, I want to share a very important story that will inspire all my readers. I want to share my personal happy marriage story.

 
I decided to write this story with regards to so many questions I get from my readers. I have no reason to doubt that this story will inspire someone to start writing his or her own happy marriage stories or maybe when you would have tried some of the tips I have written down here.

 
It all started in 2014, when I made up my mind to get married. I had long lists of what type of woman I want to marry.

 
1. Tall
2. Fair in complexion
3. Beautiful
4. Quiet
5. Church going type
6. Hard working
7. A good cock
8. Prayerful and so on.

 
The list was actually so long.

 
But let me tell you one thing that will give you the shock of your life now; I was not able to get half of the things in my list, and yet I can prove to you that my spouse is the type of woman every man will want to have.

 
Now this is why I said this: never think you will get up to hundred % of your own list if you are still searching. It takes stepping into the water for the water to divide. You know what I am talking about?

 
In 2005 ( 10 years ago) I met and married my darling wife (cherish). One mistake I made at that time was believing that I know everything there is to know about marriage, but even the fundamentals of marriage were so strange to me.

 
Now this is what happened next.

 
After going down the isle and saying the “I do thing” Life started; yes! life of a married man. It was a new life altogether. Everything changed, more responsibilities added. I was doing the superman. I thought I could make things happened on my own. But things where crumbling very fast. One day I decided to hand everything over to God. I let Him take over from where I stopped, then everything started changing and taking shape again.
Then we learn t what I did not know before, and could not even know had I not handed everything over to God.

 
Here are the things we learned

 
Pay close attention to all am going to share here. Those are where my happy marriage story started.

 
(1) We learned that marriage is a union of two different people who came together bringing two different unfinished businesses:-

 
These unfinished businesses were the things that created so many problems in our marriage at the early stage. We also learned how to work on our maturity, and then slowly, our relationship began to to mature also.

 
(2) There where every need for us to change as life changes:-
When one decides to grow, there is every need to adapt to the different stages of life, and to also know that different stages of life comes with different gifts and challenges to marriage. Until we recognized these, we started making adjustments and then we started growing with each stage we passed.

 
(3) We learned and accepted each other:-

 
We both came to the realization that we have different views to the same opinion. Most of the things that triggers my wives love and joy were not the same things I feel. The things I am sensitive to also were different from my wives. When we found out that we could not change each other, we accepted ourselves the way we are.

 
(4) We learned the importance of saying of saying “ I am sorry”:-

 
One thing is certain in every marriage; there must be quarrels and uproars. However, there is every need to quench the fire immediately even when you are not the course of the problems.

 
All these are the different things I learned and also inculcated in my marriage that gave me the reason to write this my personal happy marriage story.

 
I sincerely believe that someone has been able to learn something from this article.

 

Bonus reading

 

What Makes a happy marriage

 
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Happy marriage tip:Ways to build and sustain trust in your marriage

The presence of trust in any marriage is the evident that the marriage will be a happy one and will last very much longer.

If you think you have tried everything to make your marriage stronger the way it used to be and have not achieved your aim, then you must try building trust. It is the most fundamental way of bringing growth and happiness to any crumbling marriage.

Most marriages that crumbles did so because they lack this fundamental thing called trust Once trust starts lacking in any relationship, then the relationship is bound to tear apart in a matter of time.

These are some important ways to build back trust in your marriage

Be Honest

Never hide anything from your spouse. Always remember that one day those things that are hidden will be revealed.

Having secret brings destruction to trust, Once your partner knows you hid something from him or her, it usually look the same as lying to him also. People detest lies. My wife is number one of them.

One of the secrets she thought me that made my marriage to become a powerful one is to say the truth at all times and in all things. Lies require another lie to cover up. That is why I think it’s better to devote more time in building your family than building secrets and lies.

Ask for forgiveness all the time.

Whenever trust is broken in a relationship that means one of the people involved has gone astray. If you are the one, the most important thing you must do in other to gain the trust and confidence back is to ask for forgiveness. Let the request come from the innermost part of your heart.

Never deem it a hard task to repent of your wrongs and ask for forgiveness.

Never Promise Without fulfilling it.

You made so many promises to your spouse and never fulfilled it. Your spouse asked you to help fix the light in the kitchen and you promised to do so, and yet you did not. You even promised to get some important things she needed for herself and yet for more than one month you refused to do it.

All these will affect the trust and the next day when you make a promise and know in your heart that you will fulfill it, your spouse will definitely take it as one of those promises.

Change

When you breached trust in your marriage, then you must try and do those things that will make your spouse know that you have truly repented from the mistakes and have changed.

The first thing for you to do when you fall victim of distrust is to make plans to rebuild it. Consider the areas you failed in and promise never to fail again.

Tell your spouse to be on the lookout on you. Let him or her know he can hold you accountable by your promises to change.

Never Give Up:

It is usually not a day job to build trust back whenever it is broken. It is definitely easy to destroy than to build. It will take time to believe that you are actually working on building trust. This is why you will never give up the fight even when it looks like things are not changing.

Hope this helps.

Your murphaik