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Read My Personal Happy Marriage Story and Learn from it Too

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Today, I want to share a very important story that will inspire all my readers. I want to share my personal happy marriage story.

 
I decided to write this story with regards to so many questions I get from my readers. I have no reason to doubt that this story will inspire someone to start writing his or her own happy marriage stories or maybe when you would have tried some of the tips I have written down here.

 
It all started in 2014, when I made up my mind to get married. I had long lists of what type of woman I want to marry.

 
1. Tall
2. Fair in complexion
3. Beautiful
4. Quiet
5. Church going type
6. Hard working
7. A good cock
8. Prayerful and so on.

 
The list was actually so long.

 
But let me tell you one thing that will give you the shock of your life now; I was not able to get half of the things in my list, and yet I can prove to you that my spouse is the type of woman every man will want to have.

 
Now this is why I said this: never think you will get up to hundred % of your own list if you are still searching. It takes stepping into the water for the water to divide. You know what I am talking about?

 
In 2005 ( 10 years ago) I met and married my darling wife (cherish). One mistake I made at that time was believing that I know everything there is to know about marriage, but even the fundamentals of marriage were so strange to me.

 
Now this is what happened next.

 
After going down the isle and saying the “I do thing” Life started; yes! life of a married man. It was a new life altogether. Everything changed, more responsibilities added. I was doing the superman. I thought I could make things happened on my own. But things where crumbling very fast. One day I decided to hand everything over to God. I let Him take over from where I stopped, then everything started changing and taking shape again.
Then we learn t what I did not know before, and could not even know had I not handed everything over to God.

 
Here are the things we learned

 
Pay close attention to all am going to share here. Those are where my happy marriage story started.

 
(1) We learned that marriage is a union of two different people who came together bringing two different unfinished businesses:-

 
These unfinished businesses were the things that created so many problems in our marriage at the early stage. We also learned how to work on our maturity, and then slowly, our relationship began to to mature also.

 
(2) There where every need for us to change as life changes:-
When one decides to grow, there is every need to adapt to the different stages of life, and to also know that different stages of life comes with different gifts and challenges to marriage. Until we recognized these, we started making adjustments and then we started growing with each stage we passed.

 
(3) We learned and accepted each other:-

 
We both came to the realization that we have different views to the same opinion. Most of the things that triggers my wives love and joy were not the same things I feel. The things I am sensitive to also were different from my wives. When we found out that we could not change each other, we accepted ourselves the way we are.

 
(4) We learned the importance of saying of saying “ I am sorry”:-

 
One thing is certain in every marriage; there must be quarrels and uproars. However, there is every need to quench the fire immediately even when you are not the course of the problems.

 
All these are the different things I learned and also inculcated in my marriage that gave me the reason to write this my personal happy marriage story.

 
I sincerely believe that someone has been able to learn something from this article.

 

Bonus reading

 

What Makes a happy marriage

 
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How to Have a Happy marriage with a narcissist

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So many articles have been written on how to have a happy marriage, but not on how to have a happy marriage with a narcissist. Today, I am going to give you a clear and easy steps on how you could do just that.

If you are reading this article now, that means you a probably married a narcissist, your friend or someone you know married one, you are planning to marry and don’t want to marry someone like that. This write up will solve your problem.

However, if you are not sure of who a narcissist is, and then let me tell you a little about it.

Who is a Narcissist? –

A narcissist is someone who is always very full of himself (self-importance) they love to dominate in thing like prestige, vanity and power. One thing about them is the inability to understand the damages they are inflicting to others around them or even themselves.

I am sure you now have a little knowledge of who a narcissist is. Does that describe the character of your man? Then you have nothing to fear. The step by step tips will guide you into having a successful and happy marriage your narcissist spouse.

   Steps to have a happy marriage with your narcissist spouse

Write down your reasons:-

It is not an easy job to live with a narcissist, but if you have made of your mind not to leave that narcissist you love, then you must take a note pad and a pen and write down 3 reasons why you love and not want to lose him or her.

These are the lists you will continually look at when the going becomes though and then get refreshed in the things you have planned to have in the near future time..

Your list may look something like this

  1. I have made up my mind to stay with my spouse through good and bad times.
  2. I know that my spouse is a wonderful person and will be superb in near future.
  3. As I remember the love that brought us together in the beginning, I promise to stand firm in my marriage.

Tell God About it:

You must know that only God has the power to change situation. Prayer is the only weapon we have to talk to God so why not tell God about your spouse’s challenge and believe things will change. It will definitely change.

Know what to negotiate with your spouse and the best negotiating style to adopt:

One thing the narcissist believes is that they know everything, and never go wrong. There may be some behaviors that will repel you, what is best for you to do is to overlook it, just allow it to slide.

Whenever you want to talk about anything, you must know the best time to do so and the best strategy to use. Always start your negotiations with the key convincing words. You have few minutes to get his/her attention. Never argue.

Tell your spouse how your marriage is slowly going down because of his/her lifestyle.

Don’t be surprised to see your spouse responding slowly to what you said.

Upgrade your self-esteem:-

It is obvious your self-esteem is challenged because your narcissist spouse is constantly wanted to have his ways every moment and not yours. Never mind, just bring out your “Note” and you will remember that you are bent on having a happy marriage with narcissist.

Choose to say nice things to yourself at all time. That will help to re-affirm your faith in your spouse.

Rapping up

You must always understand that the change may not be imminent, but you are sure the change must come since you are committed in doing the things you are supposed to do to stay happily married with the narcissist you love so much.

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Role of a husband in building a happy marriage

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Discover how having a Happy Marriage Depends On a Happy Wife

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Have you found out one way or the other that your wife is not that happy again? Maybe from her countenance, you have found out she is no more cheerful as she used to be in the earlier days of your marriage. You have noticed that she feels unhappy now and maybe frustrated when she thought of what has become of her life. You can as well tell from her steps and actions that things are not rosy with her any longer.

As her husband, you are interested in helping her in any way to get over it, because you know that her happiness is your happiness and that every happy marriage depends on a happy wife.

In this article, I want to show you some very important steps that can help you make your wife happy again.

Researchers said that the very first key to a marital success is all about woman’s feelings and emotions; this simply indicates that the happier your wife is, the better your marriage will be also.

Women tend to do more in their marriage when they are happy and satisfied with it. Choosing to make your wife happy is all about making her life much better.

For accepting to be your wives life partner, it is now your concern to devote more time and attention to knowing the ways you can make her feel good and happy at all times.

Women usually feels happier when they are sure of their husbands care and appreciation of whom they are.

Make your wife feel loved by validating her on daily bases, show appreciation for those little things she did. Give her some surprises like flowers, write deep emotional notes and secretly hide them where she will see and read then, tell her how wonderful she looks whenever she put on a new cloth. This will make her feel more loved and they are the little things they need from their husbands.

Women as the weaker vessel they are always wanted to be sure that their husbands are there when she needs him. Make your wife understand that she is protected from the attacks outside because you are the husband. I said this because most men neglect their families, and prefer to do more outside than in their homes. Always have in mind that a happy marriage depends on a happy wife before taking any step.

Another important way you can make her happy is to give listening ears to her every time she has something to say. She will want to know how much you value what she says. So forget any distractions and listen to her. You can ask questions if need be and wait for the answers. Make her understand that the conversation is more important to you as well.

You can easily make your marriage a strong and a happy one using these few guide lines listed in this write up. It may not be a quick fix, but gradually you will see things changing and her happiness and joy returning back to her.

It is all up to you to take action now

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