It’s beautiful when you get married at a proper time, and to the one you are so much in love with. But, the real issue in marriage is doing the things that needs to be done to sustain passion in your relationship with your spouse.
Since marriage is a lifetime thing, there is a need to be on the check to know when your relationship is going out of track.
What if I could tell you a few things you should know about why marriage fails or succeeds so you should be on the alert? What if I should let you know that one chief reason why marriage fails is because couples overlook so many things that actually matters, things they shouldn’t play at all with, would it not help you?.
Granted, I am here to show you those seemingly insignificant things that may mean things are not going to be smooth between you and your spouse in time to come
From his research a PhD holder and Director ” couples on the block project of University of Minnesota pinpointed some imperceptible signs when people are on their early stage of breaking up.
His main advice is about what we must always look for when it comes to our thought and our actions that will clearly show you that things is going to be rocky between you t.
Here are few of them
7 Shocking & Creepy signs your Marriage is Failing.
1 You are stocked in the blame game:- From records, there have never been a time when matters get solved by blaming the other person, rather it helps to escalate “negative emotions”.
It kills intimacy and cause a disconnect among couples.
In fact couples are always so intent on blaming each other that they forget that they are overtly pushing their marriage to a wall and you will not want this to happen in your relationship do you?
If that is the case, then what you should be doing instead is to always see your contribution to the problem at hand and look for way of solving instead of blaming your partner.
2, You abuse and control your spouse: – Nobody wants to be controlled, dominated or manipulated and your spouse is one of them, so if you find yourself being too assertive, then you are hurting your relationship.
People usually think the only times a marriage is abusive is when there is a “physical violence or bullying ” but that’s only a misconception because there’s emotional abuse too and it comes in many forms.
When your partner feels constantly manipulated or controlled, his/her confidence is destroyed and it makes him /her keep a distance from you and you know what that means to any relationship.
In any relationship, no one should feel intimidated or school as scared by the person they cherish and loved.
3 Ignoring your spouses sexual needs and intimacy: – in every marriage, sex is very important and when you neglect God’s commands to build romance and intimacy with your partner, you will create a void in his or her. soul. For some couples, the daily schedules has become inflexible and have made it impossible for them to make love to each other.
4 You always run to parents /in-law when there’s trouble: – If you constantly invite your parents or your in-law whenever there’s a little issue in your marriage, then that is a clear sign your marriage is failing.
It is true that there are issues that husband and wife can’t settle by themselves, but instead of going to your in-law, go to a good marriage counselor or therapist.
Your in-laws can make the matter worse, but a therapist is trained to help couples in trying times.
5 Both of you don’t have things in common: – At the earlier stage of your marriage you shared so many things, you want to be with each other, talk, laugh together, share your thoughts and feelings, but now you two can be under one roof but rarely have time to stay together again that’s another clear sign your marriage is not working properly.
Research shows that one way couples can last very long in their relationship is by sharing quality time together .
I have written extensively on how you can share quality time with your spouse .
6 You feel so lonely in your relationship: – If you are in a marriage and you still feel lonely , it’s another indication that your marriage is not healthy. Denis and Babara Rainey. said ” if there’s one thing worse than a miserable, lonely single person, it’s lonely married person “.
Loneliness in marriage usually begins slowly from disconnection we feel from our partner and eventually increase over time.
A psychology professor in his writing said that isolation is a potent killer and it has also been shown to be the chief cause of paranoia, depression , rape and mass murder. It will slowly invade your marriage and gradually affect every other part.
7 Staying in touch with your Ex:- Many marriages are chartered today because there’s still connection between the EX’S. Well if you are still connected with your ex in flirtatious ways, then you may be tempted to get back together or have extramarital affair. That speaks volume to your marriage health.
The best thing to do is to stare clear from your ex and face your marriage.
Rounding up:– This list of 7 ways to know that your marriage is failing is not to show you your mistakes, but to make be ahead of those things that can hurt your relationship.
Don’t see this as one of those articles you have read before, go ahead and implement all I have written down for you and see what will happen to your marriage.
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