How to Have a Happy marriage with a narcissist

Happy marriage with a narcissist. husband and wife, love, divorceSo many articles have been written on how to have a happy marriage, but not on how to have a happy marriage with a narcissist. Today, I am going to give you a clear and easy steps how you could do just that.

If you are reading this article now, that means you a probably married a narcissist, your friend or someone you know married one, you are planning to marry and don’t want to marry someone like that. This write up will solve your problem.

However, if you are not sure of who a narcissist is, and then let me tell you a little about it.

Who is a Narcissist? –

A narcissist is someone who is always very full of himselves(self-importance) they love to dominate in thing like prestige, vanity and power. One thing about them is the inability to understand the damages they are inflicting to others around them or even themselves.

I am sure you now have a little knowledge of who a narcissist is. Does that describe the character of your man? Then you have nothing to fear. The step by step tips will guide you into having a successful and happy marriage your narcissist spouse.

   Steps to have a happy marriage with your narcissist spouse

Write down your reasons:-

It is not an easy job to live with a narcissist, but if you have made of your mind not to leave that narcissist you love, then you must take a note pad and a pen and write down 3 reasons why you love and not want to lose him or her.

These are the lists you will continually look at when the going becomes though and then get refreshed in the things you have planned to have in the near future time..

Your list may look something like this

  1. I have made up my mind to stay with my spouse through good and bad times.
  2. I know that my spouse is a wonderful person and will be superb in near future.
  3. As I remember the love that brought us together in the beginning, I promise to stand firm in my marriage.

Tell God About it:

You must know that only God has the power to change situation. Prayer is the only weapon we have to talk to God so why not tell God about your spouse’s challenge and believe things will change. It will definitely change.

Know what to negotiate with your spouse and the best negotiating style to adopt:

One thing the narcissist believes is that they know everything, and never go wrong. There may be some behaviors that will repel you, what is best for you to do is to overlook it, just allow it to slide.

Whenever you want to talk about anything, you must know the best time to do so and the best strategy to use. Always start your negotiations with the key convincing words. You have few minutes to get his/her attention. Never argue.

Tell your spouse how your marriage is slowly going down because of his/her lifestyle.

Don’t be surprised to see your spouse responding slowly to what you said.

Upgrade your self-esteem:-

It is obvious your self-esteem is challenged because your narcissist spouse is constantly wanted to have his ways every moment and not yours. Nevermind, just bring out your “Note” and you will remember that you are bent on having a happy marriage with narcissist.

Choose to say nice things to yourself at all time. That will help to re-affirm your faith in your spouse.

Rapping up

You must always understand that the change may not be imminent, but you are sure the change must come since you are committed in doing the things you are supposed to do to stay happily married with the narcissist you love so much.

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A Happy Marriage tips: Tips on how you can have a Very Passionate Marriage by Keeping Love and Intimacy Alive.

images2This article is to show you how you can have a very passionate marriage, and how you can keep intimacy hot and alive in your marriage for ever.

This is obviously the best result any couple can have in their marriage. Everybody prays for it.

This thing called intimacy is naturally alive when the marriage is still young and fresh, but how to sustain it is one of the things every couple must try to know about. However, if you are here now and reading this very article, then you are on your way to having that love and joy sustained forever in your marriage and this will surely make your marriage a strong and a more passionate one.

What do you usually think when you visited a friend and you find both couples laughing, kissing, cuddling, and calling each other sweet names?

Now consider this also; you went to a friend’s house, and each time it is one augment or the other if not fighting.

Let me tell you one of my experiences

I went with one of my friends to a wedding in their car one day; on our way back from the wedding, a little argument erupted which made my friend to pack his car on the road and dug it out with the wife there and them. All my moves to separate the fight proved abortive that I had to invite the police to help out.

Now tell me, which of the two marriages would you want to be associated with?

Let me answer for you.

The passionate one of course!

You are asking me how I knew your mind. I did because that is what everybody would want and I want it too. So that is how I know you will want it too.

So let’s go on now and show how you too can have and sustain the passion in your marriage.

What do I mean by passionate marriage?

Passionate marriage is the type of marriage where both couples are happy with each other and they prove it through there kisses, holding on of hands, cuddling and the whispering of those words like “ I love you”

In this type of marriage, everyone involved is always committed to making each other relaxed and happy at all time.

Both couples are also not tied to being there for each other, both in time of happiness, but also In those times when all seem to be at the cross road.

Any couples that have passions they share together are always engrossed in their passion that they don’t usually care about the age or other differences. You can’t help to see yourself falling in love with this couple wherever of whenever you see them.

From my experiences, I have found out that one of the problems in marriage is lack of passion. If you really want to avoid that pain of your spouse cheating on you because you are boring, then you must find passion to share together.

 

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3 Proper Steps to Building a Passionate Marriage

Be Emotionally Available

You can never achieve your aim of building a passionate marriage if you are not emotionally available to do so. First and foremost, you must be sure to make your marriage or your relationship to be the very first priority to you. Let all you think about become the ways to be committed in your spouse better and happy at all times.

Never have grudges or resentments against your spouse. Always have a plan to hold, touch and kiss your spouse. Make new advances to him or her. Tell him or her about those beautiful dresses he/ she is wearing Remember everyone loves validations. Share stories about books read our other stories, play hide and seeks and give surprise gifts.

Forget the Past and Move Forward:

There may be past event in your life that has made you to always want to keep people at your arms length. Your spouse may have wronged you in the past that you find it hard to forgive and trust. May be you were raised in a family that made you feel distrustful of affection. Whatever may be the reason, just forget it and move forward with your life.

Constantly Admire Your Spouse: –

One thing you must understand is that no one is perfect in this life, but people want you to tell them that they are good or you can highlight mostly on those things they did well. Look at those little work your spouse has help you done in the house and tell him/her they where very nice. If there are other domestic works you want him/ her to help you out in, remind him/her of the other ones he did perfectly and then ask him/her if he could do some more .

Remember these will help you build up a passionate type of marriage.

I hope this article will help you.

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