11 things I wish someone told me before I got married.

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Before I share this with you, I wish to tell you a little story about what prompted me to marry in the first place.
Back in the day while I was still in the high school, I use to visit some family friend with my parents and sometimes with my friends too.
Some times when we get to some homes and see what looks like joy and happiness, I use to tell myself that this is exactly how my marriage will be.

 

 
Did you noticed what I wrote in my last statement, ‘what looked like joy and happiness”; I said that because I thought those couples where all the time happy as they posed to be.
How wrong I was. : )
There is no marriage that is 100% happy. Maybe I shouldn’t have used that word no marriage, probably yours is. Just feel free to share with us if yours is 100% in the comment box bellow.

 

 
However, if you will permit me, I will use 67% of couples is actually not having a pleasant time in their marriage.
As at the time of writing this article, some of the marriages are merely going on without any passion.

 

 
That is why I categorized marriage into three parts.
The happy marriage:-

This is that type of marriage where both couples are enjoying their marriage. It is not as if they don’t have any down time; but, they understand how to manage their conflicts in other to move forward.

 

 

 

Semi happy marriage:-

 

 

In this type of marriage, couples just go along, but there is nothing like passion anymore. The situation is not yet that bad that they will want separation, and also not that good to make them happy. They are in between the two.

 

 

 

And then the unhappy marriage:-

 

 

Couples in an unhappy marriage are at the height of unhappiness with each other, that the only thing necessary to help out is divorce. Nothing else could save them except divorce or death.
I did not know all those things before I got married. I was only opportune to see those couples that brandished themselves to me as being happily married and not the unhappy one.

 

 
Here is the reason I am writing this article: )

 

 
It is not as if I made the wrong choice to marry or that I would not have married if I had known all these; but I would have been very ready, knowing what I should do to have the happiest marriage in life.

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But, I am writing to share with most of the people that are looking for their missing ribs, to guide them and make them ready to take the bold step.
If you are still reading this article, then I should not waste time again before telling you this.

 

 
(1) You must always be romantic:

 

 
We men always think that love is a process. We believe that now we have had the courtship, won her love now so we should go on with our business.

 

 

 
However, women see love as an adventure. They prefer those little things you do together. She always want know that she sparks a flame in your eyes.When you don’t give attention to those things, it will ruin your marriage.

 

 
If men should understand that there is much difference in the emotional make up of men and women, things will be much better than it is now. Keep on buying those flowers as you did during the courtship, those perfumes, the bucket of ice cream, the chicken lap; you know them.

 

 

 
I remember those days of our courtship, whenever we are eating together, I usually let my wife eat the most meat in the soup.

 

 
Now when she want wants to eat them again, I usually feel bad, but she will quickly remind me of how I use to let her eat them; I laugh.

 

 
(2) There is need to be intimate with my spouse:-

 

 
Intimacy means a deeper presence of closeness between couples. This is a time in a marriage when every partner feels secured to communicate their mutual desire, secret and personal jokes without fear of rejection.

 

 
I did not know that intimacy could be that priceless. Your partner must understand that you are all she’s got and that she is the number one priority to you too and that she is your closest friend.

 

 
Whenever you are together and you feel the atmosphere has changed, don’t hold it; cancel everything and let the moment be. Cease the moment.

 

 

 

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(3) Give her chance to express her emotions:-

 

 
Women feel relieved from their problems after letting some tears escape from their eyes. I can say that tears have a way of making them healthy, and it helps to wash their “potential bitterness away”.
We men always play the macho king; after all men don’t cry. We know how to suppress our feelings.

 

 
I always understand when my wife wants to let the rain drop. I never try to stop her, but I encourage her. I am not saying you should make her cry.

 

 
However, there are times you might mistakenly do something that upsets her, or may be something else caused the tears, just allow her to give out the tears for the sake of her health.
Ask her if she needs to be alone, and grant that request if she wishes so. Sometimes all they will need is a shoulder to cry, just offer yours. It may be a very good avenue for you to learn the intricacies of your better half.

 
Learn to see emotions as a friend and not the enemy.

 

 
(4) There is need to communicate effectively:-

 

 
Most of the bitter experiences we are seeing in the world today could be related to most of the things we have said and the things we have left unsaid.

 

 
Communication is very important in every relationship, but it is important to adopt the type of communication skills that will empower your marriage instead of hurt it.

 

 
It is obvious that women are the one that do the most talking in the home. Men are always discreet. Most men never want to talk about anything.

 

 
If you have form the habit of holding back your thoughts, it may be harming your marriage, as women never feel relaxed when they realized that their partner is having some secrets.
It is true we want a moment of silence, but understand that this could be building up as a habit in you because it requires some efforts to achieve.

 

 
A better communication is one unselfish way couples give to each other in marriage. Learn to improve your communication skill and empower your marriage here.

 

 
(5) Marriage can never be sweet all the times:-

 

 
Like I told you in the beginning of this article, I saw some couples that played to be having a happy marriage and I thought all is going to be like that. How dumb I was!
Marriage will not always be rosy, but you can chose how your own marriage will be.

 

 
The couples I saw may not always feel happy, but maybe they have a way of getting on track again.

 

 
That is where commitment comes in; whenever there is a fight or disagreement, the committed couples decides by themselves to compromise. You will hear them say “of course I know my spouse is faulty this time, but because I love my marriage and want it to move forward, I will forgive.

 

 
That is the difference between the happy couples and the divorces.

 
Whenever there is disagreement in your relationship, you have a choice on how to deal with it. Always chose the reconciliation method if you want to have a good husband and wife relationship.

 

 
(6) You must always be your spouse’s companion:-

 

 
Your spouse always wants to be your best friend. Yes you can always be with your other friends, and your spouse can be with their friends too, but your partner feels happier when they realized that you will choose to be with him/her rather than anyone else.

 

 
He/ she wants to hear those word as you hold hands and walk down the street, they want to be part of your activities, and feel happy when he/ she knows that they are part of those things you are doing or thinking.

 

 
If you are a smart spouse, you must go out of your ways to make your partner feel so special.

 
(7) You must always appreciate your spouse:-

 
No partner wants to be taken for granted, they want to be appreciated every time especially when they need to be appreciated.

 

 
Sometimes when I come home from office and everywhere is clean, the cloths washed; my spouse will expect me to say some nice things in appreciation to that, many times, I fail to notice it and she will not be happy.

 

 
Sometimes when it occurs to me, I will tell her what she wants to hear.
One of the most common courtesy in our world today is to say thanks you. Appreciation is a love to her, your spouse wants to hear that and also see it in your actions.

 

 
Do you realize how painful it is when you have worked hard for something and expect an appreciation but didn’t get that? That is exactly the same thing when it comes to your spouse.
Keep your eyes sharp to see those little things and show appreciation.

 

 
(8) You must always be attractive to your spouse:-

 

 
Many people think that it is no more necessary to stay attractive after you have said the vow.
During the courtship, when you were looking to win the attention of your spouse, you did everything to keep yourself in shape, you were dressing to kill. Now that you are married, you think those things don’t matter anymore.

 

 
You are wrong! There is everything to be more attractive to your spouse now than you were before.
Most of the break ups we see in marriage are because a partner has ceased to be who he/she was in the beginning. So always look nice, wear make ups, and be neat.

 

 

(9) You must be an encouragement to your partner:-

 
Marriage is all about cheering and encouraging your partner. There is always a time in the marriage when all will become blurring and maybe your partner needs to be reminded that all is well.

 

 
As a partner, you must understand those things that “speak the loudest” and make it a close part of your relationship.
You must understand those things that very well speak to your partner when you want to be a better encourager; this is because what maybe pleasing to you may not do the same to your spouse.

 
Make this regular practice in your home.
(10) There is need to be close to each other:

 

 
There are times when your spouse may rather be alone, but often all she need may be your closeness. Closeness and tenderness goes hand in hand.

 

 
Just hold your spouse’s hand and squeeze it, hug and caress. That may be all you need to do at that moment to make the moment beautiful once again.

 

 
Some partners especially women find it hard to express their emotional needs, but they feel on top when you unexpectedly understand from their eyes.
So be smart at all times and just assure him or her that you are there right beside him or her.

 

 
(11) The is need to spiritually empower your spouse:

 

 
God made man the head of the spouse. That means that it is the man’s work to take care of the woman physically and spiritually.
One way you can help to empower your wife spiritually is to live by example and watch her follow your footsteps.
Your wife will follow and trust you more when she understands that you are fully following God’s footsteps.

 

 

 
When she understands that you are fully committed to the things of God, then she will feel much secured with you.
Devote time to studying of the word of God with your spouse, laugh, enjoy life and laugh when necessary.

 

 
That may be all you need to make your marriage a happy and a successful one.

 

 
Rounding up:
You may not always wait to make mistakes before you could learn. You can learn from other people’s mistakes.
That is why I took time to show you all that I learned from my years in marriage so it will give you a lift to making your marriage work better.

 

 
It is now left for you to learn from it or leave it.
Since you read to this point, I know it will impact your relationship pretty well.

 

 
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10 reasons marriages doesn’t work Again

happy marriage, happy couples, unhappy couples, loveMany times, I have imagined the way people feel when they fell in love with someone: I guess you know exactly what am talking about. It feels like nothing else exists but just the two of them.

 

 

There’s nothing else they want to do than to be with each other night and day.

 
Then they marry each other, and start enjoying their marriage; one year, two years, three years…

 

 
And suddenly, things starts taking a new shape; quarrels and fight becomes the order of the day. Not that we want to fight or quarrel, but we do quarrel anyway.

 

 
Sometimes we blame it to the “practicalities” and routines of life, and sometimes we blame ourselves.

 
In the earlier stages of our marriage, things were not like that. There were lots of things we want to talk to each other about; we always want to be in each others arm.

 
Now, the ability to talk deep about our feelings and aspirations have gradually die down and our conversation now starts revolving around just the domestic duties and other plans.

 
One question that usually come to my mind when I see this happen is this “what happened to that first love?” is there really a thin line between love and hate?

 

 
Obviously, most couples have lost the consciousness of the things that brought them together, we have taken each other for granted and worst of all, we sometimes find each other annoying and boring.

 

 
But why is marriage not working for our generation? It worked for our great grandfather, and many of us see it working for their parents too.

 
One thing is that we don’t want the quarrels or fight, we want to marry and enjoy our spouse, but the world we live in now has added so many roadblocks in our ways and have made it hard for us to have a happy married life with someone we love.

 

 
In this article I took my time to list for you 10 reasons why couples are not happy any more with their marriage and why marriages don’t work again.

 

 

 

Here they are ::)
(1) Advancement in technology:-

 

 
The internet, the social media and cell phone has played a very significant role in the life of many couples today.
In a research conducted on married couples, 54% of them accepted that their mobile phone have brought negative impacts in their marriage.

 

 
Some years back, we want to take certain steps just to prove to someone that you actually love him/her.
We want to go extra miles, because we will not want anything come between us and our fiance.

 

 
Then, technology have not exploded the way it is now, things where very much different than it is now; text massaging was starting out them, social media was not heard of as it is now.

 

 
Then if you want to see him or her, you must have to drive to wherever you will have the opportunity. You must take a certain action to express your love.

 

 
Today, things are different. Technology has taken over everything. You can be in a very distant place and send flowers to your spouse. You may not see or hear your spouse’s voice when you want to communicate with him or her.
Our cell phones buzz at breakfast, we check our emails in the evening, when we are taking a ride the radio play, and television is there when we come home to share times together.

 

 
Nowadays, when people get stressed up, instead of going back home to their spouse to be cheers up, they prefer to stay in front of the television to get the solace they need.
We have been faced with so many distractions.

 

 
I am not saying that advancement in technology is bad. But it has made us to be far from the one we love.

 

 
(2) Sexual frequency declined:-

 

 
Sex is very important in every relationship. One of the way couple could express what they feel for each other is through sex; it brings two people closer to each other.

 

 
As year goes by, the sexual lives of partners starts declining or become none existent at all due to age of the couples or the duration of the relationship.

 

 
Looking at the data from (NSHSLS) National health and social life survey, and that of (NSHAP) National Social Life, health and Aging project, I realized that the decline in sex frequency could be due to change in the statue of the marriage or physical health of the couples,

 
Most couples no more look forward to seeing their spouse undress just as it used to be during the earlier stage of the marriage.

 

 
Many of the couples even find it hard to have sex once in a month; many other do that only when they want to have children.

 

 
Tell me how the marriage will fair. : )

 

 
When you look at the cases of cheating in marriage, most of the reasons for that is the inability of the couple to satisfy each other sexually or even have sex at all.

 

 
That is one reason I feel hurt inside when I see couples who do not take sex serious, because they are heading for a serious destruction.

 

 
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You may want to read my article on how to improve your boring sex life.

 

 

(3) Internet and social medias:-

 
Internet has done so much harm than good to our marriages. It has taken away our loved one’s from us. Almost all the divorce lawyers believe that internet contributed to the rapid increase in divorce in the world today especially social media and chatting.

 

 
Social media has helped couples invite thousand other people into their matrimonial bed with just a click.

 

 
There is nothing as privacy again in our lives. With just a click you will show a total stranger the innermost part of your wardrobe, your kitchen, the new under cover you are wearing or even the part of your body that naturally is meant to be seen by your spouse only.

 

 

 

 

We find more time to share everything we do with a complete stranger, everything we do, everywhere we go, and we are more connected with people outside than we do with our spouse.

 

 

 

Couple has no time to share their experiences again, because there is nothing new to share; all have been shared outside.

 

 
What baffles me most is that even the little time left for the couple to enjoy together, you see everyone hooked on the cyber space looking for the most current update and chatting with friends neglecting the important moment in marriage.

 

 

 
The latest of it all is that you may be with your spouse in the same bed while your spouse is sex chatting with another person on the internet.

 

 

 
Tell me how a marriage will work in this atmosphere. : )

 

 
There is absolutely nothing wrong when you chat with people on the internet, but we just have to have a place to draw the line, we must know when it becomes too much.

 

 

 

 
Internet has evidently destroyed the relationships we enjoyed with our spouse and some marriages have also been chattered by it.

 

 
(4) We love validation but not to be loved:-

 

 
Although this is not for everyone, but a lot of us are purely guilty of this; we love to be validated at all time, we desire attention from people, and we want people to like us more than to love us.

 

 

 
We love to be famous. When you wear your latest cloth, you want people to see it.

 

 

 

Thanks to social media, which has given everyone an opportunity to be that famous? It has made our dreams to become a celebrity come true. : )

 

 
You struggle to get people’s attention before, now with just a click you get more than you needed. All you need to do is just to upload a picture, and you get thousands of likes from strangers.

 

 
Well! All those are good, but my advice is this “If you want to love someone, quit looking attention from any other place and concentrate on the one you get from your spouse.

 

 
It is not easy to love someone when you are per-occupied with worries of what other people think of you, whether it is posting pictures on social media, spending lavishly just to impress others or going on vacation because others did.

 

 
(5) Quest to be financially independent crippled us:

 

 

 
Finance plays a very important role in any marriage, and that is the reason the subject of finance and how to make proper plan on how to make use of it to keep the marriage going should not be neglected.

 

 
But the quest to get enough money down to be able to meet our other needs have separated us from the normal relationships we are supposed to enjoy with our spouse.

 

 

 
You will believe with me that things are not the same way they are now during years ago; nowadays, there are so many things you must do in other to be happier in life, and they require a large sum of money to get it done.

 

 

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Think about how much it takes you to run your home now; think about the children’s education, think about other necessities. Now calculate what it costs then and compare it with today, you will see the difference.

 

 
Because all these are indispensable, we have neglected our marriage so that we could get enough money to sustain it.
Now you have to get your hands on any work to pay for utilities, send your children to school, and the worst of it all is that it is so difficult to get the kind of job that can provide such income to you.

 

 

 
You can imagine what harm this has caused to families. It has prevented us from living our lives as couple. We find ourselves so busy paying bills that we forget about taking our spouse out for dinner, you have to forget about your usual vacation this year because the bills are there staring at your face.

 
We are going farther apart than coming together.

 

 

(6) Not getting over grudges:

 

 
Our inabilities to deal with the grudges we have against our spouse could be one of the biggest obstacles to marriage success.

 

 
To move your marriage forward, we must always have a place in our heart to forgive and let go of those things our spouse have done to us.

 

 

 
Stacy became sad that the husband forgot their marriage anniversary. When the husband realized that, he did everything he could do to pacify her, yet Stacy found it hard to let go.

 

 

 
The husband soon becomes frustrated with the wives attitude. Actually he committed some errors, and has also shown how sorry he was by getting flowers and other gifts for her.
It is actually the husband that caused the problem, and now Stacy has compounded the issues.

 

 

 
(7) UN-forgiveness:

 

 
If saying sorry is hard to you, then you should think of other ways of doing that, like living a note on the table saying “ I am sorry”. Keep it anywhere your spouse could see it before going to bed.

 

 

 
When you go about your with the grudges of what your spouse did to you, it will keep the two of you farther from each other.

 

 

 
Forgiveness will go a long way to make your marriage strong again; the absence will destroy it.

 

 

 
Quick tips on how to forgive:

 

 
(1) Map out time to talk about the matter.
(2) Let your spouse know why you are upset
(3) Tell him/her right there that you have forgiven the sin.
(4) Never remember the issues again.
(5) Keep reminding yourself that you have settled the issues.

 

 
When you forgive your spouse, you have taken your first to become close with your spouse.

 

 

 

 
(8) Baggage from yesterday:

 

 
Before two of you came together as husband and wife, you lived your lives individually. Some of us had different experiences, histories and responses that left a mark in our lives. These baggage usually stay with us for the rest of our lives.

 

 
Simply put, we have these baggage as we go into marriage; I am talking about the past happiness, hurts and attitudes.

 

 

 
For example; if you knew your parents to be the type that likes to fight always, you may probably think that the best way of dealing with your challenges is to fight.

 

 

 
If you are the last in your family, probably you were pampered by your parents, the tendency is that you may be expecting everybody to pamper you the same way.
If you are from a personal relationship that was not pleasing, you may think your new spouse will be the same.
The best way to move forward is to let the baggage go and face your new marriage with commitment and believe that it is a new beginning.

 

 
You can look for a marriage therapist or counselor to help you deal with those issues of the past.

 

 
Other ways to drop our past baggage

 

 
(1) Take full responsibilities of you problems.
(2) Forgive yourself.
(3) Ask God to help you.
(4) Move on with your life.

 

 

 

 

(9) Unsolved problems:

 

 
One of the challenges we face in marriage today is the unresolved issues. It is better to deal with conflict in our marriage immediately they occur, than letting it linger.

 

 
Usually 68% of issues in the marriage are managed instead of being solved and they sometimes pop up again in a more damaging ways.

 

 

 
If we are not able to solve these when they are still in the finger tip, it may turn out to be complex and suddenly, your judgments will change and you start seeing your spouse as the cause of the whole thing.

 

 

 
We build walls but bitterness is usually sown. Unresolved issues bring divisions and separation to couples.
Also know that solution doesn’t happen like magic. It may take some time. That is the reason you should start the process now.

 

 

 
(10)Extended families:

 

 
Our in-laws could sometimes be our best friend and at times be a foe to us too as there are some in-laws who will want to be in the center of your marriage.

 

 

 
It is obvious we can get good advices and wisdom from our parents, however, there has to be a boundary.

 

 

 
There is every tendency that what worked for them may not work for us also. You have to make these known to your parents that your marriage, spouse and family is your topmost priority, and that you still love them as your parents.

 

 

 
You should be able to make the decisions that will be best for your marriage and do those things you deem best for you and your family.

 

 

 
In conclusion:

 
Marriage is meant to be enjoyed and not to be endured. Even when you are sure marriages are not working, you can stand your ground and make a difference.

 

 

 
Do things that are only bringing joy and happiness to your spouse. Take steps that will bring the two of you closer, that such that will bring separation.

 

 
If there is such a marriage that could be described as a happy marriage that means you can actually make your already broken or dead marriage to be strong and alive again.
It all depends on you.

 

 
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Also feel free to ask question via the comment box.

 

 

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(20) Dealing with Conflicts in Your Marriage:-

Conflict is inevitable in marriage. While some deal with their own conflicts and move forward, other are ignorant of what to do and so they resolve to divorce.
This article will show you how you can deal with those challenges and bullet proof your marriage for divorce. It is worth reading. Here is it.
(21) Why Infidelity happens in Marriage:

When a partner starts cheating on the other, there is always a reason for that. You may not know the reasons until your partner start cheating on you.
This article will show you why people cheat and what you must do to avoid it in your marriage. Read it Here.
(22) One important thing you must do if you don’t want divorce:-

You love your spouse so much and you do not want to divorce him/ her. Here is the list of the things you must do. I have listed them down here for you.
(23) Dos and don’t of every successful marriage:-
Here is another amazing article you must read. In this article, you will read about what to do and not to do in your marriage. It is very important you take a look at it here.
(24) Dealing with infidelity:

It is not a good thing when someone you love and trust cheats on you. How would you contain it? What are the steps you should take to deal with the situation? They are listed in this article and you can read it here.
(25) How to Keep a Happy Family:-

Having a happy marriage is different from keeping a happy marriage. In this article, I talked about not just how to make your marriage a happy one but also how you can sustain it and stay happily married for the rest of your life. You can find it here.
(26) 6 important things you must do to have the type of marriage you always wanted:-

If having a wonderful marriage is what you crave for, then this article could be what you are looking for. I discussed about the 6 important things that make such a heart desire possible. Read it Here.
(27) More on what a woman must do to make her marriage happy:-

This is the continuation of my first article “The role of a woman in making her marriage Happy ‘If you have read the first, then you need to see this one too. Here is it.
(28) Ways to Keep Scores in your Marriage:

Understanding the best ways to keep scores in your marriage should be one of the things you desire most. Until you understand these, you may find it hard to move your marriage forward. In this very article, I discussed all you need to know it.
It may be very different from what the guru’s told you, but it maybe what you can’t do without. Check it here.
(29) Important of Sex in your Marriage:-

How much is sex important in marriage? Is having a quality time together with your spouse all about having sex? What if your sex life is boring, how would you make it active again? All these have been discussed in this article and it is important you lay your hands on it right now. Here is it.
(30) Ways to Build Trust in your Marriage:-

The presence of trust in any marriage shows that the marriage is moving forward. If there is no trust in your marriage, then make it a point of duty to build it. In this article, you will learn the step by step tips to build trust in your marriage. Check it out here.
(31) Things you may see in your marriage that can make you think of Divorce and how you can Stay Married forever:-

In this article, I shared about all you could do when there is a quarrel that looks big in your eyes. The types of challenge that will make you want to through in the towel. Using the systems listed here will aid you in making your marriage a happy one again.Here
(32) Having kids and maintaining a happy marriage:-

When kids starts coming in a marriage, the responsibilities of couples starts increasing as well. You may want to know how to balance the equation of taking care of your kids as well as maintaining your happy marriage. This article is the answer to your questions. Read it here.
(33) 10 Red hot Bible verses on having a happy marriage:

Here you will see the opinions of God about husband and wife living and enjoying their marriage. It will aid you to take the first steps of your marriage bearing God in your mind. I think you could do yourself good by taking a look at it. It is here.
Rounding up:-

Here are just few of the tips ant you can still search our archive for some more useful guides and posts too.
Thank you for reading.

These are some Happy Marriage Bible Verses to help you Build Your Marriage

index2What are the Lords views on marriage? Are there happy marriage bible verses that one could learn from in the bible? These are the questions I get from my readers every moment.

 

Obviously you can never talk about happiness in any relationship or marriage, without talking about the giver of happiness, which is God.

 

If you are having in mind to marry someday, or you are already married, you must hand everything over to the creator who knows everything and He will teach you what exactly it means to have a happy marriage.

 

This institution called marriage is not and should not be taken for granted. Remember it is a representation of the love Christ Has for the Church; so it must be entered with joy and love just as Jesus did for the church.

 

In this article, we are going to consider so important happy marriage bible verses, to know exactly our Lord’s view on this subject of marriage.

 

Our first happy marriage bible verse is taken from the book of

 

  • Proverbs Chapter 18 verse 22 ( NIV)

He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favour from the Lord. One significant fact about this bible verse is that it reveals to us that God has great interest in the marriage. The same way Jesus was married to the church. God has promised that His favour will follow any man that finds a wife. His reasons for giving you favour is because He wants you to celebrate your love and marriage.

 

  • Proverbs 19 verse 14 (Amplified Version)

Houses and riches are the inheritance from the father’s, but a wise, understanding and prudent wife is from the Lord. The best things of life come from God and can only be from Him. To have a happy marriage, you must have a wise, understanding and prudent wife, which only God can give. So why not ask God now that you are looking to marry, or ask Him today as a married couple to come and take over from where you are now. That could be the best decision you have taking in life.

 

  • Colossian 3 verse 18 ( New American Standard).

Wives be subject to your husband, as is fitting in the Lord.

 

In this verse of the scripture, the Lord wants you to be truly and deeply committed to your husband. No matter how things are, you must remember to always love and cherish him.

 

  • Colossian 3 verse 19 ( New American version

Husband love your wife and do not be harsh with her. God gave a command to man to love the wife. Let your go to no other woman but your wife.

 

Love as it is written in the bible, covers multitude of sin. If you chose to marry this one person fro the multitude of people, then you must be committed to loving him/her also. Love is not easily provoked, it keeps no record of wrongs but rejoices with the truth. Couples are expected by God to love on daily basis.

 

  • Proverbs chapter 12 verse 4

An excellent wife is the crown of her husband. To a great extent, every happy and strong marriage takes shape from binding and loving character of a good wife. Ask God to give you a noble wife and you will enjoy your marriage.

 

  • Proverbs chapter 5 verse 18 and 19c

Let your fountain be blessed, and rejoice with the wife of your youth. 19c : and always be enraptured with her love. Every day, you are expected to find a new reason to love your spouse the more. Always remember the first day you met him/ her, let it be captured in your consciousness and pour your love on him or her without stopping.

 

  • Ephesians chapter 4 verse 26

Be angry and do not sin, do not let the sun go down on your wrath. As the day goes by, there must be challenges and fresh troubles that will come your way. Do not carry over the wrath of Monday into Tuesday; allow it to go with Monday. It does not matter what your partner did to you, try and settle it immediately. Be slow to record the evils done, but be swift in mercy. Mathew 5 v 7 says “Blessed are the merciful for they shall obtain mercy.

 

My next bible chapter in the list of happy marriage bible verse is

 

  • Ecclesiastes chapter 9 verse 9

Enjoy life with the woman you love all the days of your fleeting life, which He has given you under the earth, for this is your reward in life and in your will to which you have laboured under the sun.

 

This chapter is all about the joy that will be present in your marriage when you marry the right person. When you are still searching, search carefully so that your days may be long. If you are already married, enjoy your spouse.

 

  • Ephesians chapter5 verse 31

For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two of them shall become one flesh.

 

This opens the mind of couples to see each other as one, having left both families to form a single family. That ties like a bond to both of the partners to be happy and ensure a happy home. They must cultivate a sense of commitment, considering the interest of the other partner first.

 

The last in the list of happy marriage bible verse is

 

Mathew chapter 12 verse 25.

 

And Jesus knew what was in their mind and said to them every kingdom divided against itself is brought to desolation, and every city or house divided against itself shall not stand.

 

This verse of the scripture have always been one of the favorites to the Christians, but we have not so much given thoughts to what it actually means to couples.

 

Couples should think of their marriage and household as a kingdom when they are reading this. Whit this in the couples mind, couples should try and work together as one anything outside this will bring desolation and separation to them.

 

As you sturdy these happy marriage bible verses written down, I pray that God will give you more grace to work with then.

 

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Roles of a Husband in Making Happy Marriage

6 important things you must do to have the type of marriage you always wanted.

indexIf you have ever wondered in your heart about how to have a very wonderful, sweet and happy marriage exactly the way you wanted it, then, this article maybe the best article you have ever read in your life.
If you are still searching, then read this article to the last page because it will show you the way to go about it..
Many people have asked me questions on what to do if they really have to enjoy their marriage.
These are my answers to them
Though what I will tell you here may sound simple to you, but they will work pretty well in making your marriage a most desired one. Just take your time to study and work with them.

You must Know What You Want in Your Marriage
If you are looking to marry, then the first thing you must do is to get your jotter and pen and write down five important reasons why you made up your mind to marry; is it because your friends are getting married? Is it because you think you are advancing in age? Is it because your parents are asking you to?
Take time to think about what you are planning to do.
It may not be easy for you if you do not know the things you must know before you get in. The very reason for most break up in marriage is the absence of understanding of the institution call marriage.

Become Your Very self
It is very important and good to have a role model in life. However in marriage, I believe you are your own architect. Do not try to imitate what others people are doing in their various homes. It may not work the same way for you and your spouse. Do not over spend because you neighbor is doing so.
Never try to become a superman or a supper woman because you thought it will make your spouse love you more.
Decide on the way to go with your family. It is yours and you are only accountable to whatever you made it be.

Choose to Be Committed
One reason while marriage works very well is the individual commitment of the couples.
In a marriage where there is commitment, there is also peace, joy and love. This happens because every member of the family knows that the success and the failure of the marriage depends on them. Whatever happens, one will say “I am committed to making this marriage work” that will help to bring solution instead of chaos.
Choose to trust
Trust is very important in marriage. Once trust is broken in every relationship, the marriage slowly dies away. You must make up your mind to build trust if you truly want to have that type of marriage you want. Always make sure that those little promises you made to your spouse are being fulfilled.

Never promise what you have no plan of accomplishing. Have more trust deposited in your marriage emotional bank account.
Know what your spouse is capable of doing and what is impossible for him /her. A lot of things will want to challenge your trust for your partner, but keep yourself strong in building it up.
Say Sorry All the Time.
Let “SORRY” be the anthem you sing in your marriage. One popular quote says that “marriage is the union of two forgivers” you must learn how to forgive and always be the first to say sorry. It will help to make all wounds heal.
Never Cheat on Your Spouse.
Cheating is one of the things you must plan to avoid if you want a strong and healthy marriage. It is also one of the most reason why marriages break.
Never be tempted to indulge in it. Once you fall victim of it, so many other areas of your marriage will be affected.

I hope I made some points here.Please feel free to make a comment.

Thanks and see you at the top.

 

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