How to spice up your marriage: The Definitive Guide

 

Do you want to know how to spice up your marriage?

Then get ready to learn the exact step to make your marriage successful.

We all knows that the longer a relationship goes, the more everything becomes a routine, and the relationship starts getting cold and everyone starts craving for those early days “butterflies-in-the-tummy”.

Am talking about those exciting feelings we used to have at the early days of our relationship.

Understand that It’s not the end of the world when you start seeing such in your relationship.

it is a common thing to see couples taking each other for granted.
They give more attention to their works and other things,and not their marriage.

But, the good news is that you can work together as husband and wife and in this article, I will show you how to spice up your marriage and I will s

It is the responsibility of the husband and wife to make their marriage successful.
All hands must be on deck and, that means it’s not a one man show thing.

There’s no dispute to the fact that one person can turn around the statues of a marriage, but I also know that it will be easier when husband and wife work together to make it happen.

This post is just to show you how you can spice up your marriage as husband and wife.

How to spice up your marriage as husband and wife.

 

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Step In 1) Create intimate moments the cannot easily be forgotten:-

To better understand what it means to create intimate moments in your relationship, you’ve got to firstly understand what intimacy means.

What is intimacy? Intimacy can be described as the act of being very close to someone as well as feeling strongly and emotionally connected to him or her.

Tina Tessina, a psychotherapist and the author of money, sex and kids described it as the “act of making your partner feel understood and accepted”.

What she’s letting us know is that in a marriage where intimacy exits, there’s a significant amount of closeness, ecstasy, feeling alive and happiness between the couples.

Intimacy is important to every marriage, and so any marriage that lacks physical or emotional intimacy will most unlikely not succeed.

However, knowing and understanding your partner is the backbone of your relationship, and to know him/her better, you have to create moments of intimacy that can’t easily be forgotten in your relationship.

Here’s how.
Encouraging Each Other Always:-Learn to support and encourage your spouse in everything.
To put simply, be his or her cheerleader. Be attentive and sincerely take an interest in all the things he/she likes to do.
Show respect for your husband, and maximize every chance you get to always compliment him, both in private as well as in private places.

And to your wife, build her up in presence of others and also make her feel overwhelmingly important by giving her honest credit for the success of your family.

Let your better half truly know that you appreciate him or her with all your heart. The more our partners feel valued by us, the more they want to do more to make our relationship succeed.

– Laugh Together:- Laughter is an easy access to intimacy. It can as well be described as outright “vacation in a marriage” and the easiest way to keep things alive when there’s chaos in your relationship.

Crying and laughing gives you and opportunities to learn and trust each other especially when you are sharing feelings to each other.

When you learn how to laugh over everything, then you will also survive everything. Do not be too serious about everything. Whenever, there’s reason to be angry, learn to stop yourself, and instead deploy your love language called laughing, it will take care of everything.

– Learn to be More emotionally vulnerable When Having sex
Express your innermost fantasies, desires, and wishes with each other, and consider engaging in individual therapy when you feel intimacy is lacking in your relationship.

– Hold each others hands more often:- Dr. Kory Floyd, says that “holding hands , hugging, and touching can release oxytocin causing a calming sensation”.

Recent studies also tells us that holding hands also quickens the release sexual orgasm during sex.
Interestingly, physical affection also helps to minimize stress hormones, therefore lowering the effects of cortisol which is stress hormone released daily by our body system.

– Share Your Feelings:- The number one barrier to the growth of any relationship is the inability to have discussions.
It’s imperative for husband and wife to share their feelings to each other instead of bearing it in their minds.

Always know that no one is perfect, and your spouse doesn’t know everything; and so you have to share with your partner about how you feel as well as what you struggle with in life Life.

Going to bed with unresolved issues is not healthy to any relationship and can obviously make a heart to grow colder.

Create time each week for just you and your partner to go on a date and talk about how to make things work better in your relationship.
Investing time in your relationship makes things easier for you and your partner.

Step 2) Keep Track Of The Rights And Not The Wrongs:

There are couple who only sees the wrong things their partner does. It doesn’t matter how many things the partner does right, one wrong by the same partner nullifies it.

If what I said above describes you, then you have to change your perspective and try focusing on the right things about your partner only no matter how small or big and also try appreciating him/ her always.

In the Bible, Paul, in the letter he wrote to Corinthians (Corinthians 13:5), he advised us against keep record of wrongs.
It can hurt relationship like nothing else will, so you need to reevaluate your focus now.

Here are few suggestions on how to focus more on the positive sides of your partner.
– Stop Bearing Grudges: Fact is that no one is above mistakes, even you and so if you expect to be forgiven when you make mistakes, then you should also learn to forgive too.

It is not the best to say you have forgiven, and still your list of wrongs keeps getting longer.
Here’s what you should start doing now to help you stop it; get a blank paper and write down both the wrongs and the rights of your partner and then try concentrating more on the good attributes instead of the wrongs.

– Appreciations often: If you take a close look at your partner, you will see so many reasons to appreciate him/ her. Try and list them down one after the other, and then go through it first thing every day; such practices will help you learn how to see the best and not the opposite about your partner.

– Strive to always Always be positive in your own mind: According to Gottman, “it takes about 5 positive thoughts to overturn the effect of one negative thoughts.
If that’s the case, then why not change your thinking pattern to give positive impacts to your relationship.

Step 3) Date, date and date again:

To most couples, dating stopped immediately after wedding. But it’s not supposed to be so.

To spice up your marriage as husband and wife, continuous dating is imminent
Here is the deal; whether you have been married 10 days, weeks, months or years, romantic date is something regularly observe.

If you are reading this post now, I hope you are not planning to ignore this advice like many other couples do.

Frankly, a lot has been said about couple having regular dates, but believe me when I told you that recent survey still recorded that as low as fourth five percent of couples still don’t go on.dates and only seventeen percent manage to observe it.

To me, that’s a very low number, and I asked myself why? Maybe marriage and dating contradicts each other or people think it cost much to go on.date.

  • But to me date night is overwhelmingly cheaper than filing for divorce or even seeing a marriage therapist and it’s a whole lot of fun too for you and your part. So take it from me that romantic date is important.

Here are few check list of importance of date nights.
1) it create avenue for romance.
2) It create fun moments.
3) You have time to communicate.
4) Opportunities to take a break from stress.
5) Improves commitments.

All these are the reason why you should make dating a priority in you relationship and also understand that you don’t have to break a bank to have a good romantic date.
Let me give you some ideas.

Here are they
1)’Plan a romantic dinner at home:- Romantic dates must not be done outside the house, you can have it at home too.
Plan it in such a way that a beautiful romantic atmosphere will be felt as you and your spouse is enjoying your dinner together.

2) “Make a new recipe together”.

3) Go to a beach together.

4) Go to a library:- Look for books that you have never read before, take a close look at the ones that captured your attention, then then plan on starting your own book club together.

5) Go music concert:- Search for nearby local venues that organizing music concert for the up-and-coming musicians. Their must be a big price slash, but the important thing is that you’ll have a nice time there with your spouse.

Step 4) Always try Surprising one another:-

Another way to spice up your marriage is to always show kindness to you partner, especially when he/she is not expecting it. According to John Guttman, Bradford Wilfox and Jeffrey Deo’s research; the trio found out that kindness as the most important recipe for boosting the marriage.

W Bradford Wilcox said that ” “Generosity” – including small acts of kindness and.displays of respect and affection was positively associated with material satisfaction”.

Surprises is an act of kindness and no matter how big or small you try to surprise your partner, it shows that you care for them.

Surprising your partner can lead to greater intimacy and make him/ her feel contented with your marriage. It can also act as a catalyst that brings an unusual change to the statue of your relationship.

The great affect of surprising your partner is that while you feel good for surprising him/her, your spouse also feels loved and cherished too.
If you’re not sure how to surprise your spouse, then I have listed some steps to guide you.

Here are they
Write romantic notes and drop:- Although this sounds boring, but it will surely add colors to your partners feelings. Just find a good romantic writing materials and drop some romantic notes for them and then drop it anywhere you are sure they will see it. Examples- his wallet, her hand bag, his pocket or wherever you know they’ll see it; and then watch what the reactions will be.

Plan lunch break surprises:– Go to their office at break time, and take them out for lunch.

Do what they like doing even if you don’t like doing it too:- If you know what your spouse’s hobby is, then you can join them to do it, even if it’s not your kind of entertainment.

– Book a nice hotel room for the two of you only.
– Get them a thicker to wherever you know they will love to go.
– Plan a surprise birthday party.
– Get a favorite gift for them.
– Do the chores they usually do
-‘Prepare a delicious breakfast and serve them while still on bad.

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The Marriage Sweeteners: 7 Things that will make any Marriage Sweet

happy marriage, marriage sweetener, happy couples, marital happinessDo you want your marriage sweet again? Now think about the marriage sweeteners that am going to share with you in this article.

 

I am sharing this article because I have seen the difference between a sweet and a biter marriage.

 

And I am so much interested in seeing your own marriage sweet; so you can stop your usual mid night cries. Remember, marriage is made to be enjoyed and not to be endured.

 

If you have been enduring your marriage, this article is all you need. It will streamline your journey, and make you rise up every morning from the other side of the bed.

 

But let me worn you beforehand; This may not work 100% for you as it is working for me, because you may not apply it the way I am doing.

 

Let us dive in immediately. 

 

Before I go on, here are other articles I have on this blog that will be of great help to your marriage.

 

You do not have to climb the highest mountain before you could make your marriage sweet. All you need is to believe that it is possible to make even the moribund marriages live again; and that brings us to the first marriage sweetener, which is…

 

1 Making God the center of your marriage: Mathew 6: 33 “Seek you first the kingdom of God and His righteousness; and every other thing shall be added unto you.

 

That simply shows that having God at the center of our marriage will attract more sweetness to the whole marriage; that means there will be balance.

 

Marriage is ordained by God Himself and He also takes delight in it too. Since he is interested in your marriage, why not allow Him to take the lead, why you follow.

 

All will be easier for you if you will only let Him. However if He is not in the center, there will be no balance and its regulations will be lost.

 

Much marriage did not stand the taste of time, simply because the thought they could do it alone.

 

Now, making God the center of your marriage means taking and holding Him by all His words concerning marriage.

 

As a man, God expects you to love your wife; and the woman to be submissive to your husband. Both you and your spouse must pass through God, the passing through is what introduce balance and sweetness to the relationship.

 

Devote yourselves to prayer which is the master key.

  • Always hold the hands of your spouse as you agree on certain needs. Remember whatever two of you agree upon you will have. That means if you want to take over the world, you agree on that and it will happen.
  • Pray for your each: This is one thing most couples forget to do, even as they do their devotions.

Purse for a moment and ponder on how long you prayed for him/her last; it will amaze you that you always forget that.

 

 

If she means so much to you, then you must pray for her calling her name.

 

It is obvious that couples that are godly make great difference. So, start now by submitting to God and everything will change.

 

stock-photo-34164654-roadside-romance2 Understanding: Understanding is another marriage sweetener every couple must know.

 

If you are willing to learn how to understand each other, a new hope and vision will manifest in your relationship and you will be more equipped to work on your marriage and make it a standard one.

 

Try and understand why your spouse thinks do or act the way he or she does. That will make you change your thinking about your spouse.

 

Good understanding starts from clear communication by the couples, which helps them to connect with each other.

 

Creative and effective communication can always enhance relationships and make marriage stronger.

 

Expressing our needs and thoughts as well as listening to others are the main ingredients that help relationships to mature and also make us feel understood.

 

To have a more quality relationship, we must try and understand those wheels that are driving our attitude and other peoples.

 

When we feel angry with someone then it may be because we have need that has not been met, both the most important thing should have been our needs and desires know.

 

When you did not make your needs known there is a tendency that the other person may misinterpret you and become angry too, and this can lead to a protracted misunderstanding.

 

However, when you understand your needs and that of your spouse that will give you a better opportunity to connect with usually trigger his or her actions.

 

It is also good you clearly make your needs and want known to your spouse, so as to get the properly attended to.

 

happy marriage, happiness in marriage, happy couples3 Sharing quality time: The time we spend together as couples adds more strength to the relationship we share.

The more time you share together with your spouse, the more opportunity you’ll have to share a quality experience.

 

Sharing quality time is not about having sex, but it is all about eating together, watching movies together, reading together, discussing about the events of the day, holding hands as you take a walk and doing the house chore together.

 

Of course I understand you will attend to your job, but you can still find some moments for quality connection with your spouse.

 

It does not matter if it is only one minute, a whole day, a whole week or a whole year; it all depends on how committed you are to make it happen.

 

Here are reasons you should make this a priority.

 

  • It will help the two of you to have deeper connection, that will sustain your during the trial moments.
  • It gives you an opportunity to learn and grow together as well as individually.
  • You will have more time to share about your weaknesses and strength.

If you have never given a thought to this, then I implore you try it and watch the impact it will make in your relationship.

 

happiness in marriage, marital blis4 Appreciation: This is another important marriage sweetener if you do it with a sincere and honest heart.

 

Remember how it is when you were dating, you were very detailed whenever you observe anything on your partner like the appearance or his/ her deeds.

 

However, when we get used to the relationship, we tend to forget those praises. Today I implore you to consider making a U turn.

 

It will not be hard if you want to make a change. Mere changing the word I love you in some occasions and telling about the things you love about him or her can do some magic.

 

5 Be cute and neat always:

 

Your spouse married you because you have the qualities he/she wanted, and one of the things that made you attractive was how neat and cute you used to be.

 

Now you are married and you think those things are not important again; it is still important. Make sure you look neat and smell nice whenever you come near your spouse.

 

That will attract him or her to want to hold and caress you, which will make him or her proud of you.

 

Show that you understand that cleanliness is next to Godliness.

 

6 Daily touches:Let me ask you this question now and just be frank to answer it: When was the last time you hugged, kiss and stroke your spouse fore arm?

 

With so many distractions we have in our daily busy lives, so many couples don’t have enough time to do the touching any more

 

For your marriage to be sweet you must develop a good emotional intimacy. That means you must find time to kiss, hold hands, cares. This will bring a powerful sensation to your marriage.

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Researchers have said that the couples who are happier are those who touch themselves more often.

 

If you really want to make improvement in your marriage, then you must make it a point of duty your spouse at least twice a day, when you are going out in the morning and when you come home.

 

Here are few reasons you must not forget that:

 

  • It is fun, so exciting, and will make you feel good
  • It gives you reasons to be close to your spouse one more time.
  • It will make your relationship stronger and happier.
  • When romance is not present in marriage, the marriage becomes just a day to day living.

You see, touching your spouse could be could be one the most fun and the easiest gift you can give in your relationship.

 

Now, if you have not been doing that, start today; at least 20 seconds in the morning and 1hr in the evening.

 

Would you promise me to start today?…

 

You will obviously see the impact it will make in your marriage.

 

7 Go to bed necked: Many people said that it takes more work to make a marriage work. Now, answer these questions if you say that too.

 

  • Is it a big work to hold your spouse?
  • Is it a big work to buy gifts for your spouse?
  • Is it a task to take a walk with your spouse?
  • Is it a task to take your spouse to the moon?

This is the big one. : )

Is it a big task to make sweet love to your spouse?

 

If you answer no to those questions, then you should have seen that marriage is not a big job. All you need is just a little twick, and all is rosy again.

 

I know what is going on in your mind now! So let me make it clear to you.

 

If every other thing is not all that important, then sex is the pivot that carries every other aspects of marriage.

 

Some couples have made sex of no relevance, or a yearly occurrences, or even a when we need a baby thing. That is wrong!

 

Make sure you are on fire at all times, your spouse needs that.

 

And if you think your sex life is boring, you can revive it.

Here is how!

  • Whenever you wake up in the morning, tell your spouse how wonderful it feels is to wake up by his/her side.
  • In the afternoon, send massages to him/her reminding each other how you are missing him/her. That is when you are not close with each other
  • In the evening time, tell your spouse you can’t wait to have him/her by your side.
  • And then when you want to go to be, do that naked.

The atmosphere will be so saturated with love. Don’t you think so?

 

Rounding up:

 

Dear, these are inevitable in marriage. Even if your marriage is at the point of death, these will bring it back to life.

 

However, it is easier than done; but the people that achieve their aims in life are the people that have their mind made to achieve it and I know you want your relationship strong.

 

So go ahead and put all these marriage sweeteners to work, and just let me know when I will come for the celebration.

 

Do feel free to ask any question; remember I am here for you and I make out time to answer any question.

 

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11 things I wish someone told me before I got married.

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Before I share this with you, I wish to tell you a little story about what prompted me to marry in the first place.
Back in the day while I was still in the high school, I use to visit some family friend with my parents and sometimes with my friends too.
Some times when we get to some homes and see what looks like joy and happiness, I use to tell myself that this is exactly how my marriage will be.

 

 
Did you noticed what I wrote in my last statement, ‘what looked like joy and happiness”; I said that because I thought those couples where all the time happy as they posed to be.
How wrong I was. : )
There is no marriage that is 100% happy. Maybe I shouldn’t have used that word no marriage, probably yours is. Just feel free to share with us if yours is 100% in the comment box bellow.

 

 
However, if you will permit me, I will use 67% of couples is actually not having a pleasant time in their marriage.
As at the time of writing this article, some of the marriages are merely going on without any passion.

 

 
That is why I categorized marriage into three parts.
The happy marriage:-

This is that type of marriage where both couples are enjoying their marriage. It is not as if they don’t have any down time; but, they understand how to manage their conflicts in other to move forward.

 

 

 

Semi happy marriage:-

 

 

In this type of marriage, couples just go along, but there is nothing like passion anymore. The situation is not yet that bad that they will want separation, and also not that good to make them happy. They are in between the two.

 

 

 

And then the unhappy marriage:-

 

 

Couples in an unhappy marriage are at the height of unhappiness with each other, that the only thing necessary to help out is divorce. Nothing else could save them except divorce or death.
I did not know all those things before I got married. I was only opportune to see those couples that brandished themselves to me as being happily married and not the unhappy one.

 

 
Here is the reason I am writing this article: )

 

 
It is not as if I made the wrong choice to marry or that I would not have married if I had known all these; but I would have been very ready, knowing what I should do to have the happiest marriage in life.

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But, I am writing to share with most of the people that are looking for their missing ribs, to guide them and make them ready to take the bold step.
If you are still reading this article, then I should not waste time again before telling you this.

 

 
(1) You must always be romantic:

 

 
We men always think that love is a process. We believe that now we have had the courtship, won her love now so we should go on with our business.

 

 

 
However, women see love as an adventure. They prefer those little things you do together. She always want know that she sparks a flame in your eyes.When you don’t give attention to those things, it will ruin your marriage.

 

 
If men should understand that there is much difference in the emotional make up of men and women, things will be much better than it is now. Keep on buying those flowers as you did during the courtship, those perfumes, the bucket of ice cream, the chicken lap; you know them.

 

 

 
I remember those days of our courtship, whenever we are eating together, I usually let my wife eat the most meat in the soup.

 

 
Now when she want wants to eat them again, I usually feel bad, but she will quickly remind me of how I use to let her eat them; I laugh.

 

 
(2) There is need to be intimate with my spouse:-

 

 
Intimacy means a deeper presence of closeness between couples. This is a time in a marriage when every partner feels secured to communicate their mutual desire, secret and personal jokes without fear of rejection.

 

 
I did not know that intimacy could be that priceless. Your partner must understand that you are all she’s got and that she is the number one priority to you too and that she is your closest friend.

 

 
Whenever you are together and you feel the atmosphere has changed, don’t hold it; cancel everything and let the moment be. Cease the moment.

 

 

 

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(3) Give her chance to express her emotions:-

 

 
Women feel relieved from their problems after letting some tears escape from their eyes. I can say that tears have a way of making them healthy, and it helps to wash their “potential bitterness away”.
We men always play the macho king; after all men don’t cry. We know how to suppress our feelings.

 

 
I always understand when my wife wants to let the rain drop. I never try to stop her, but I encourage her. I am not saying you should make her cry.

 

 
However, there are times you might mistakenly do something that upsets her, or may be something else caused the tears, just allow her to give out the tears for the sake of her health.
Ask her if she needs to be alone, and grant that request if she wishes so. Sometimes all they will need is a shoulder to cry, just offer yours. It may be a very good avenue for you to learn the intricacies of your better half.

 
Learn to see emotions as a friend and not the enemy.

 

 
(4) There is need to communicate effectively:-

 

 
Most of the bitter experiences we are seeing in the world today could be related to most of the things we have said and the things we have left unsaid.

 

 
Communication is very important in every relationship, but it is important to adopt the type of communication skills that will empower your marriage instead of hurt it.

 

 
It is obvious that women are the one that do the most talking in the home. Men are always discreet. Most men never want to talk about anything.

 

 
If you have form the habit of holding back your thoughts, it may be harming your marriage, as women never feel relaxed when they realized that their partner is having some secrets.
It is true we want a moment of silence, but understand that this could be building up as a habit in you because it requires some efforts to achieve.

 

 
A better communication is one unselfish way couples give to each other in marriage. Learn to improve your communication skill and empower your marriage here.

 

 
(5) Marriage can never be sweet all the times:-

 

 
Like I told you in the beginning of this article, I saw some couples that played to be having a happy marriage and I thought all is going to be like that. How dumb I was!
Marriage will not always be rosy, but you can chose how your own marriage will be.

 

 
The couples I saw may not always feel happy, but maybe they have a way of getting on track again.

 

 
That is where commitment comes in; whenever there is a fight or disagreement, the committed couples decides by themselves to compromise. You will hear them say “of course I know my spouse is faulty this time, but because I love my marriage and want it to move forward, I will forgive.

 

 
That is the difference between the happy couples and the divorces.

 
Whenever there is disagreement in your relationship, you have a choice on how to deal with it. Always chose the reconciliation method if you want to have a good husband and wife relationship.

 

 
(6) You must always be your spouse’s companion:-

 

 
Your spouse always wants to be your best friend. Yes you can always be with your other friends, and your spouse can be with their friends too, but your partner feels happier when they realized that you will choose to be with him/her rather than anyone else.

 

 
He/ she wants to hear those word as you hold hands and walk down the street, they want to be part of your activities, and feel happy when he/ she knows that they are part of those things you are doing or thinking.

 

 
If you are a smart spouse, you must go out of your ways to make your partner feel so special.

 
(7) You must always appreciate your spouse:-

 
No partner wants to be taken for granted, they want to be appreciated every time especially when they need to be appreciated.

 

 
Sometimes when I come home from office and everywhere is clean, the cloths washed; my spouse will expect me to say some nice things in appreciation to that, many times, I fail to notice it and she will not be happy.

 

 
Sometimes when it occurs to me, I will tell her what she wants to hear.
One of the most common courtesy in our world today is to say thanks you. Appreciation is a love to her, your spouse wants to hear that and also see it in your actions.

 

 
Do you realize how painful it is when you have worked hard for something and expect an appreciation but didn’t get that? That is exactly the same thing when it comes to your spouse.
Keep your eyes sharp to see those little things and show appreciation.

 

 
(8) You must always be attractive to your spouse:-

 

 
Many people think that it is no more necessary to stay attractive after you have said the vow.
During the courtship, when you were looking to win the attention of your spouse, you did everything to keep yourself in shape, you were dressing to kill. Now that you are married, you think those things don’t matter anymore.

 

 
You are wrong! There is everything to be more attractive to your spouse now than you were before.
Most of the break ups we see in marriage are because a partner has ceased to be who he/she was in the beginning. So always look nice, wear make ups, and be neat.

 

 

(9) You must be an encouragement to your partner:-

 
Marriage is all about cheering and encouraging your partner. There is always a time in the marriage when all will become blurring and maybe your partner needs to be reminded that all is well.

 

 
As a partner, you must understand those things that “speak the loudest” and make it a close part of your relationship.
You must understand those things that very well speak to your partner when you want to be a better encourager; this is because what maybe pleasing to you may not do the same to your spouse.

 
Make this regular practice in your home.
(10) There is need to be close to each other:

 

 
There are times when your spouse may rather be alone, but often all she need may be your closeness. Closeness and tenderness goes hand in hand.

 

 
Just hold your spouse’s hand and squeeze it, hug and caress. That may be all you need to do at that moment to make the moment beautiful once again.

 

 
Some partners especially women find it hard to express their emotional needs, but they feel on top when you unexpectedly understand from their eyes.
So be smart at all times and just assure him or her that you are there right beside him or her.

 

 
(11) The is need to spiritually empower your spouse:

 

 
God made man the head of the spouse. That means that it is the man’s work to take care of the woman physically and spiritually.
One way you can help to empower your wife spiritually is to live by example and watch her follow your footsteps.
Your wife will follow and trust you more when she understands that you are fully following God’s footsteps.

 

 

 
When she understands that you are fully committed to the things of God, then she will feel much secured with you.
Devote time to studying of the word of God with your spouse, laugh, enjoy life and laugh when necessary.

 

 
That may be all you need to make your marriage a happy and a successful one.

 

 
Rounding up:
You may not always wait to make mistakes before you could learn. You can learn from other people’s mistakes.
That is why I took time to show you all that I learned from my years in marriage so it will give you a lift to making your marriage work better.

 

 
It is now left for you to learn from it or leave it.
Since you read to this point, I know it will impact your relationship pretty well.

 

 
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