Parenting skills: How to comfortably raise matured and responsible children

A lot has been written about how husband and wife can make their marriage successful in happy marriage builder’s blog.

Today, having in mind that these wonderful couples have children, or will one day have children, I have decided to share some important tips that will help parents raise matured and responsible children without passing through so much stress.

 

You and I knows too well that parenting isn’t a child’s play, it is a very though practices, and any mistake you make in the beginning can take several years to heal, and I don’t want you to make these mistake other parent made as well.

 

In this post, I will share with you about how to

– create “loving authority” in your home.

– Create an atmosphere that wills engenders harmony instead of criticism, bickering or chaos in your family.

– Learn how to make your children understand their personal responsibilities.

– How to enforce discipline and set limits without being “heavy-handed”.

– And how you can creatively resolve conflicts and disagreements

 

If you have read to this point, then I am sure you are very interested in raising good children.

 

And so let’s get down to business.

 

                                            train your child well

 

 

                                                    HOW TO RAISE MATURED AND RESPONSIBLE CHILDREN.

 

First thing first.

 

 

It all starts with the foundation; from the very first day the child was born is the best time to channel his / her attention to what you want him or her to be in future.

 

Mahatma Ghandi of India said in his quotes that “The future depends on what you did today” and it’s just as simple as that.

 

 

The bible also said in the book of Psalm 22 “Train up a child in the way he should go,

And when he is old he will not depart from it.

 

You teach your child to be whatever you want him or her to be right from the early days. Correct them when they make mistakes and don’t pamper them.

 

Some parents are good at pampering their children: it is good to love your child or children, but don’t pamper him to the point of spoiling him, if you do, then you are creating problems for yourself in the future.

 

I know it well that raising children is in the hands of God, but God gave those children to you to take care of, and you will be answerable to Him for how you raise them here on earth.

 

Start early and show them the part that’s worth treading showing examples with yourselves as the parents.

 

Children learn very fast, and they look up to you the parents to know which is right or wrong and believe me when I told you that whatever they see you do is good.

 

And so when you tell lies in their presence, when they grow up, they will also tell lies without fear and at that time, you’ll be wondering where they learn from.

 

For example; When you look at most of the broken homes closely, you will find out that their parents didn’t live together; it is not magic, it’s a proving fact.

 

According to Paul Amato a sociologist from university of Pennsylvania in his book called “Understanding the Divorce Cycle: The Children of Divorce in Their Own Marriages”.

 

He quoted that “every family structure transition a child experiences in his or her family of origin cumulatively increases the likelihood of negative outcomes for that child’.

 

Did you see why it’s imperative to do everything right as you train then, remembering that they are following your foot steps as the parents.

 

However, if you have failed at that early stage, there are things you can still do to train and make your children responsible children and I am going to share them with you here in the next 5 minutes.

 

From research, there are 4 styles of parenting and it’s important to know which you belong, as well as which is more effective way of raising good children.

 

These four classes of parenting were created by Diane Baumrind in 1960, and since then it has become a more referenced parenting categories.

 

They are :  =))

–   The permissive style:- in this type of parenting, the parents are  usually so loving to their kids and so let their children do whatever they want without offering any guidance or direction.

 

They do not expect more matured behaviors from their children and they most likely want their children see them as friends instead of parents.

 

They instead of seeking to know their children’s every move, they lax and often try to force rules or structure on their children.

 

Like I earlier said, they are very loving to their children and so they do not bother so much as to control or even discipline them.

 

This is the reason most children raised by the permissive parents lacks self control and self regulation.

 

One good fact to note about permissive parents is that they are not bad parents at all; they are nurturing, loving and do things for their children without looking back at all.

 

Their lives are so centered around their children, but in doing these; they neglect the “Teaching” which is also the more vital part of parenting. Even when they set rules, they are inconsistent in enforcing it.

 

Sometimes also they resolve to bribing or rewarding their children to make then do certain things.

 

This type of parenting is usually not good at all, because when parents set rules and do not enforce it, threatening punishment and don’t carry it out, it gives the children upper hand, and also makes them have the notion that you “never meant what you say”.

 

  • Authoritarian or disciplinarian style of parenting:- This is the type of parenting where parents have high expectations from the children and yet low responsiveness.

 

The parents have many rules and standards set for the children and which they expect them to follow it to the last without mistakes and when they make mistakes they take it more seriously and usually yell or give corporal punishment for it.

 

They usually have many rules in place to help them control the child’s behavior and activities and most of the rules are “arbitrary” and never explained to the children, because they think that the children should know them.

 

If the children fail to adhere to the rules, whether implicit or explicit, they believe they failed out of incompetence or defiance.

 

But could this be the best type of parenting?

 

Let’s see what researcher said about it.

 

According to research by Martin Pinquart,  “Harsh and psychological controls were the biggest predators of worsening behavior problems over time”

 

The kid involved in this type of parenting style usually develop strong “externalizing behavior” later as the day goes and they are more likely to be bullies, and also find it hard to fend for themselves.

 

  • The uninvolved parenting:-  These are the neglectful parents who makes few or no demands of their children.

 

They have little involvement emotionally with their children.

Actually, they do everything they should to provide the basic needs like shelter and food for their children, but they are completely impassive about how the child lives.

 

This type of parenting is so detrimental to the child’s emotional well-being and growth.

 

According to studies, children raised by neglectful parents becomes social “recluses” when the grow up and they never do well in school and are prone to mental ailments such as depression as well as fall victim of substance abuse and bullying.

 

And finally is the

 

  • Authoritative parenting:- These are the most responsible, nurturing parents with good and concise expectations for their children.

 

This is also the most beneficial parenting style for children, because the parents have good and frequent communication with the children with every reason properly explained.

 

The big question now is: =}}

 

Which style out of the four described above best described your parenting skills?

 

You are in the best position to answer the question.

 

However, in the beginning, I promised to share with you the best way of parenting that will enable you raise mature and responsible children and I am not joking.

Because you have read to this point, that means you are interested and so let’s move forward.

 

 

Raising matured, and responsible children.

 

If your desire is to raise good children, then you must follow what about one hundred (100) women from ( 20) countries of the world said about parenting.

 

From the analysis, they listed

 

1) Teaching your child life skills for the start:- In today’s high-tech world, it’s important to teach your child life skills on time else they will make a mess up on those “practical life skills”.

 

Start by helping him/ her out, until they learn how to do it alone.

It will be easy for the child to learn faster if you can do it with her cheerfully and without caring much about the mistakes.

A good way to do that is – for instance, you want to teach her how to wash dishes, then take another sponge as you hand the other over to her and wash along with her.

 

Always have in mind that she is still in the learning process so don’t judge her mistakes of you want her to learn.

When you are judgmental, it will make her become defensive as well and things will not work out that way.

 

However, make your child understand that there’s room for mistakes, and that she can always correct the mistakes.

 

If he/ she scatters his school bag and shoe all over the place, pick them up, and then hand it over to him and order him to keep it well, also tell him the importance of cleaning up after every mess.

 

Remember to be kind as you say all that.

 

This training has to continue this way until you he/ she is out of your home.

 

If you continue in a much friendly and positive ways, your child will grow fast and become a credit to you.

 

2) Always be responsive to your child’s needs:- Successful parenting is such that’s neither permissive nor authoritarian, it is the model of parenting that’s good at supporting and caring about the feelings and the un- met needs of the child.

 

Understanding and meeting your child’s needs on time makes them feel secured and less stressed.

 

Neglecting a child’s needs can take many forms like lack of housing, medical care, food, inability to teach him/her the basic personal needs as well as not showing affection and love for him/ her.

 

When a child is neglected, the basic needs are forgotten and not been met by the parents.

Neglecting a child’s need can inflict a permanent scars on his well being and self esteem.

 

When he is left alone without support and one and one time with the parents, they tend to have so many unmet emotional needs.

 

They are also not told the importance of moral values, respect for others as well as for himself.

 

I therefore implore you to make spending time with your children a priority and then try to understand what their needs are and then meet them.

 

Remember, successful parenting is all about being the parents and not the friend of the child.

 

If you allow your child to meet their own needs, they grow up to become sullen and angry.

 

So no matter how busy you are, take good care of your child.

 

 

 

3) Learn how to cooperate and talk with child:- Learning how to cooperate and talk with your child is one of the pleasurable part of parenting.

 

Parenting becomes more interesting when a good parent – child relationship exist.

Of course we know that good communication is vital to building mutual respect and self- esteem.

 

One of the skills of good communication with your child is to give good listening ears to him or her.

 

As they go through their day, they experience so many frustrations and exhilaration.

 

Often times the activities of you own day may not give you rooms to know about emotions.

 

However, one way to help them is to learn how to make them relax, and listening to them is the only way to know their disappointment and frustration.

 

Good communication with your child improves bond with them and makes then listen to you too.

 

Here is few check list of how to improve communication with your child.

– Have time for conversation with your child

– Discuss about your days

– Be open to talk about your feelings, joys, fears and frustration with him.

– Know his/ her body language.

– Work as a team in solving his problems.

 

4) Be firm, but loving in discipline the child: – It is the parent duty to discipline their child, however, the attitude and manner you disciplines the child will determine your level of success in achieving your goal.

 

Firm discipline mixed with love is what makes a happy, matured and functional child.

 

This simply implies that you must be discipline as parents before you teach your children to be one; let it come natural, let them see the disciplined parents and they will emulate from you.

 

Most often, it looks like parents and their children are in cold wars of “wills”; the child has developed strong resistance to the parents wills and the parents are bent on pushing their grounds to establish their wills.

 

Naturally, it is every child’s nature to push boundaries and to know where they will get with it

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Yes they like to test their limits, they like to know what’s acceptable in the society and that makes them become though and immune to punishments.

 

But you don’t have to yell, humiliate to discipline him.

 

Adopting authoritative method of parenting will give you the rooms to set boundaries for your children as well as use a loving and worm manner to make it acceptable to them.

 

Authoritative parenting creates a sustainable developmental outcome, because while the parents set the boundaries, they also open up “dialogue “among the family members.

This makes the children understand that you don’t only make them do what you want, but that you considered their opinions too.

 

 

5 Toxic behavior that creates a disconnect between you and your wife.

Love, disconnect in marriageIf your once a happy marriage starts going sour all of a sudden, don’t blame it on the witches or anybody.

 

If you you take your time to look inside, you may be convinced that the fault is all from you.

 

Some times we do things that hurts our relationships without even knowing.

 

There are 5 toxic behaviors that are capable of causing a disconnect between you and your better-half.

 

In this post I will show you what they are and how to avoid them.

 

A time came in my marriage that I asked my wife to list some of my behavior that repels her, and I was shocked to see an endless list.

You can do the same too. However, if these 5 behaviors still exists in you, then don’t be surprised when you see your spouse avoiding you.

nagging husband1) You are a nag:- If you are such that likes to murmur, criticize, shout, yell, condemn etc, then you are a nagging husband / wife and your partner will never want to get close to you at any time and that brings a disconnect both physically and emotionally.
I bet this is not what you want in your Marriage.

 

The fact is that sometimes we don’t know we are nagging, but when you find yourself desiring people to do things the same way you want it, then you are in the game.

 

The truth is you are trying to make things work out the way you want it, but to the other partner, it’s a command (nagging) and no one wants to be commanded.

 

Most times its poor communication that leads to that, and constantly nagging your spouse means you don’t trust her /him, and you don’t think about his/her feelings too.

 

Here is a checklist of 6 ways nagging destroys a relationship

– It brings quarrel:- The reason that you always want things to be done your way will always bring quarrel and that brings avoidance and a disconnect.

-Resentments:
– Poor or no communication
– Both of you becomes enemy.

How to stop nagging :-

One way to stop nagging is to always see the good side of him/her.

 

Comparison in marriage2) Comparison:-My wife is not the outgoing type, wow! how I wish my marriage is as happy as Mr Williams, my husband can never help me keep the house clean like Mrs Johnson’s husband, my wife is fond of keeping her hair lose, she should learn how to pack it sideways like that woman next door.

 

If you find yourself talking like that, then you are full of comparison and it can hurt your spouse and kill your relationship.

From science research, comparison was found to be the source for jealousy, envy, depression and can as well destroy your ability to trust.

 

If comparison can breed all these, then why do you still indulge in it?

Everyone is unique and every marriage is unique too. what works for others may not work for you: Just be contented with who or what you have and move forward.

 

busy husband3) Coming home with your business :- You leave early to work everyday and come back late also: so why do you still come home with your work?

 

It’s possible there’s need to do one or two checks on you business at home, but that should not be at the expense of the time you spend together as spouse.

 

Couples time is important, because that’s when you discuss about how to move family forward.

 

So forget about business when at home and have a nice time together if you want your marriage successful.

 

busy husband and wife4) You are married to your gadgets:- Technology has brought joy to the world, bit it has also brought division in relationships.

In almost every marriage now, you see each partner holding his/her Android phone laptop, iPad, iPod or other devices. All these though they are good, but they bring distractions to our relationships.

 

It hinders communication and that brings a disconnect also.

So if you have the habit of pressing you laptop, phone or iPad, you are only causing damage to your relationship. Learn to off it sometimes and pay attention to what your spouse want to say.

 

5) Pride and Ego:- You are too full of yourself. No one is equal to you, both your spouse.

Frankly, Ego and pride has destroyed so many marriages, because it prevents good communication and closeness.

 

However, relationship thrives well where there is compromise and understanding.

Too much pride and Ego can only destroy your relationship because it will make you less compassionate and keep people away from you.

 

So to avoid your spouse preferring to stay alone instead of coming close to you, put off your garment of ego.

 

Conclusion:- A great attitude they say is like a perfect cup of tea  so if your attitude is not good enough, then you are missing that perfect coffee.

Remember, bad attitude can hurt your relationship, but a good attitude will help to make your relationship successful.

 

See you at the Top.

From your friend Murphyaik.

5 seemingly cheap but powerful steps of creating your Best Marriage in 2018

happy marriage,create our best marriageIf I ask you to do one thing this 2018 to create the best marriage you’ve ever wanted, what would it be?
– Your attitude.

– The time you spend together as couple.

– your finance

-or the way you communicate with your spouse.

Obviously you saw it all last year, and you could tell how good or how poorly you worked to make your relationship successful.

 

Well, in this post, I will share 5 seemingly cheap but powerful steps of creating your Best Marriage in 2018.

If this is one things you want to achieve this year, then you’ve got to read this article to the last letter.

Like I said, it looks so simple, but it will work wonders in patching those holes in your marriage and restoring your relationship to those happy state again.

 

Imagine getting back to those times when you whole desire to hear his or her voice again and again over the telephone, you want to be with him/her every time.

 

Of course you can have it back if you want to, and I know you really want to, if not you won’t be reading this post.

Without wasting much time, here are few steps to achieve it.

 

                   5 seemingly simple Ways of creating your Best Marriage in 2018.

 

happy marriage,create your best marriage1) Be more committed:- One good way to ascertain the level of weakness and strength of your relationship is to measure the amount of your personal commitment to it.

 

It’s all about what sacrifices you’ve got to give to make things work out.

 

Every marriage has it’s good and bad times, but to have a good and successful relationship, you have to look and evaluate your marriage to determine those area that requires a touch and then get down to work immediately.

 

Think about what you should do on the daily basis to make things work again. Be willing to go extra mile to make up the lost glory, be ready to say sorry after a fight, not because you are wrong, but because you want the relationship survive.

 

happy marriage, creating the best marriage2) Be sincere and truthful :– My Wife told me outright that she doesn’t like lies or dishonesty as that is the only thing that can make angry.
Have I been faithful to that request? no, but I am striving to achieve that.

 

Being honest and sincere will help your marriage succeed: be sincere when there is a new achievement from your spouse, if he she does something for the marriage commend that with sincerity. Stop the lip service and be plain every time.

 

good communication in marriage3)Communicate effectively:- Communication is to marriage what blood is human life. It the backbone of marital success.

 

Any marriage without good communication is on its way to divorce. And so if all you want is to create the type of marriage you want, then give a thought about the level of communication in your marriage and work to improve on it if need be.
Never wait until things unravel before you can do that, it may be too late.

 

However, don’t just talk because you want to keep conversation going, bad communication skills can  also destroy your relationship.

 

Think and adopt a good communication skill that will help your marriage and discard the ones that will harm your marriage.

I have written an article on how to increase our communication skills

 

happy marriage,create yiur best marriage 4) Stop trying to change your partner:- Last year you tried everything you could to change your spouse and you found out its didn’t out for you.
Here’s what you should know ” God gave you a partner and not a project to build.

 

You can never change him or her, you only need to change your mind, change the way you think see your partner.
Understand that it is not possible for your partner to do or be exactly the way you want every time you want it.

 

The right approach is to make up your mind to see the good side of him/ her. If you continue with your great expectations, you will always be disappointed.

 

spend tine in marriage5) Invest more time:- Marriage required daily nurturing to be successful and you can’t achieve the success you want, you have invest more time into your relationship.

 

Just like in every other thing in life, the more you devote time, the more it works out, so don’t be lazy about your relationship, invest positively on it.

Bonus Read

15 Minutes a day just to breathe life into your marriage

 

 

Conclusion:- if you want to really want to create the type of marriage you ever wanted, then try and follow the steps I listed in this post. Although it will not automatically, but you will definitely see it working gradually.

 

 

5 Seriously interesting ways to sustain UN-ending romance in marriage

dating, loveIf your marriage is not what you expected it to be at this moment, then understand that all hope is not lust, because in this post I will show you few steps you should take to sustain UN-ending romance in your relationship.

 

You have seen so many couples that are very happy in their marriage, and you wonder how they made it so.

There is no other secret to their success, neither can it be seen as chance or luck it can only be attributed to those little effort from both partners and their great will to be together.

 

Hopefully, there are tons of things you can start doing after reading this article that can help you sustain lasting romance in your relationship.

 

So whether your marriage is going well, or failing before your very eyes, there is a great need to work and nurture it daily in other to keep romance alive.

 

Joel osteen in his book “Become a better you” said you don’t have to let your marriage  just survive, you should always have new vision daily.

I have also written so many posts that will show you how to improve your marriage

  1. 15 minutes a day just to breathe new life into your marriage
  2. How to recharge your marriage
  3. 5 simple but overlooked ways to make your marriage the best

 

What he is telling us is, to do anything in our disposal that could help our marriage or relationship grow better.

 

Question now is What are those things you can do to keep romance alive?

Here are they

 

HOW TO SUSTAIN LASTING ROMANCE IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP /MARRIAGE.

1) Build a lasting friendships :- A lasting friendships is an important issue when you want to sustain Romance in your relationship because it creates a deeper bond between the two of you which always goes beyond being just being romantic.

 

How you relate with your spouse matters greatly in building a family.

It is that point in your relationship where you and your spouse don’t just love yourselves, but you like and cherish everything thing about each other.

 

Friendship also helps to build great intimacy where you and you partner are not afraid to share your deepest feelings and thoughts

 

When good friendship exist in your marriage, all your interests and activities becomes so enriched, because you are dealing with your best friend who wants to share it with you.

 

Dear, if friendship has been lacking in your relationship, then it’s time to start building it.

  • Here are few ways to go about it.
    a) Always be gentle
    b) Be considerate.
    c) Be trust worthy
    d) Be loyal
    e) Have time for your partner.
    f) Share deeper interests
    g) Laugh together.

 

To start building it, you must sit down and identify those things that are not working as it should and start working on it.

 

(2) Cuddle:– Cuddling is another way to make your marriage stronger.

Actually, nothing can be compared with cuddling that person you love dearly especially when you hold him through the night, it shows that the person is always on your mind when you are asleep and also he/ she is the first thing you set your eyes on as you wake up in the morning.

 

Research has proven that cuddling makes us
a) Happier:- We feel healthier and happier when you are physically close to someone and your body releases Oxycontin, a chemical that helps in maintaining a strong and healthy relationship.

 

b) Touching helps to reduce a good level of cortisol, which attacks our immune system. It also makes us less anxious.
When someone touches your hands and hold it for a while it makes us feel a little better.

Did you see why cuddling is important?

 

3) Be trustworthy:- Trust is inevitable in any relationship.

When trust exist in a relationship, there is that freedom that results to love and intimacy.

That simply means that without trust, there is insecurity, fear, and all these limits the full potentials of intimacy.

 

Question is!

Can your partner trust you? can he/ she be free enough to share her heart with you.

However, the same way you earn respect, you can also earn trust and it starts with doing what you say and remaining faithful to your spouse.

 

Sometimes, we are so ignorant to know that those little lie, those little failed promises we made to our spouse, is helping to diminish our trustworthiness in the eyes of our partners.
Remember, if you make so much withdrawal from your emotional bank account of trust, then trust will vanish.

 

My advice for you is to make building trust a priority in your relationship.

No trust simply means your marriage is heading to a crash

Henry cloud said that “Intimacy comes from knowing the other person at a deeper level ”

If the interest of your marriage is paramount to you, then start now to develop trust again.

 

4) Team work:- When you look at those successful couples, you will find out that they function well as a team and depend on one another for strength.

 

If the woman knows better about finances, she is left to be responsible for that, while the man is left to do the planning, if that is the area of his specialty.

 

He decides the day for the family vacation and outings as well as family devotion.

Just like in football, no player can play it all, all of the players depends on each other to win.

Such is marriage. There must be a team work to succeed as couple.

 

It is always easy for husband and wife to get out of sync and work against one another.

 

But always have in your mind that marriage is the same as a 3 legged race, if you try to push ahead without your spouse’s cooperation you will fail, but when you work as a team, then you will succeed.

 

Couples that works together covers each others weakness and build each others strength as well as help lift each other up when one stumbles.

 

5) Be Clear:- Always be clear when you are communicating, say your mind but not provocatively. It is important you monitor your voice during the communication.

 

Listen when necessary and never interrupt him or her during the conversation.

 

Share your burden thoughtfully, your partner is not a mind reader to know what your needs are, so let him/ her know it.

 

Talk about what is not going well in the relationship, your sex life, your family budget and other important issues, two heads are far too better than one when it comes to working things out.

 

Final thought :– There is no scientific way of sustaining lasting romance in your marriage than nurturing it daily.

If you start working on your relationship from this moment, you will make it successful in the near future.

Just look at were you need to start and start working immediately, you will surely succeed.

I am still your friend

Murphyaik.

 

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8 Important decisions that will boost your Marriage

We take decisions daily, about our business, our studies, and other areas of our lives.

But sometimes, we forget to make decisions about our marriage.

Why

Because we believe that love is enough to hold our relationship firm.

How wrong we are.

Love is is important to make a marriage strong, but it is not enough to boost any marriage.

It is those little passive things we do daily that binds the cord of our marriage.

Whenever we take new positive measure, things change, and decision taking is one of them.

If you make good decisions, you will see the impacts in your relationship, and bad decision will bring chaos.
Understand that whatever state your marriage is now, depends on the decisions you took of fail to take.

In this post, I will show you 8 decisions you will take today to boost passion in your marriage.

8 decisions that will boost passion in your marriage.

1) What Sacrifices can I make for my marriage:– Remember, only you can build or break your marriage.

Few people in this society cares much about whether you succeed in your relationship or not.

Its absolutely in your hand.
The decision to be committed to your marriage could be the best thing you can boost passion.

Commitment, goes with sacrifices.

You simply choose what to uphold in your marriage or what to give up.

Maybe you have noticed that some of your actions are detrimental to your marriage and you decided to drop it, simply because the success of your relationship is paramount to you.

Show me a healthy marriage and I will prove to you that those wonderful partners knows how best to sacrifice; and I know you too can do it conveniently.

2) Decide to see your partner as your true love and significant other:- The way you see your partner determines to a great deal the way your marriage will go.

If your see your partner as a friend, your only love and your significant other, then respect will not cease from your attitude, passion will be abundant in your mind, and love will grow stronger by the day.

But, when you see him/ her as a wife or husband, then you will treat him/her as the other person, and then you start taking each other for granted.
However, be sure to reinforce love daily in your relationship.

3) How much time to stay outside and how much time to be with spouse:- It is true you had friends before you got married. It is also true you sometimes have to spend sometimes away from your spouse and with your friends.

However, if your relationship is important to you, then you must decide to spend time with your spouse more than you do with friends.

Understand that spending more quality time with your spouse can only be compared to saving for the rainy day.

Each time you spend successfully together, helps to create strong walls around your relationship.

More so, when you spend little time together, then you are slowly building gap between the two of you.

4) Be faithful to your partner :- Integrity is important in anyone’s life, and it usually begins with the way you live your life privately.

You have to decide to be faithful because being faithful makes your marriage last longer.

If your partner see you as a faithful partner, he/she will become faithful too.

but one easy way you can destroy your relationship is to be unfaithful.

Being a faithful partner will give you a drive to work tenaciously for the success of your relationship. This is why you you should make that decision now.

5) How to save or spend your money:– Money is one of the greatest of all the problems in marriage and also one of the hardest to handle.

Mostly, the fight centers around either inappropriate spending or overspending, and most times if the situation is not properly handled, the marriage is seriously affected.

To avoid these challenges in your relationship, you have to make a decision on how to balance between your income and spending.

A good financial decisions will go a long way in helping your marriage become stronger.

6) Never keep secrets:– Trust is important for a successful marriage, and to earn trust in your relationship, openness and honesty can never be overlooked.

If you want your relationship to last longer, then stop keeping secrets.

Remember, if you succeed in withholding an information from your partner for a long time, when he or she finds out, they feel betrayed and you will never like your love to feel bad

7) I will make God my source of happiness in my marriage :- This is the best and the number one decision any one can make.

The book of proverb 3 verse 5 and 6 says

“Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths.

That simply means that if you will make the efforts to depend on God’s direction only, then everything will work out well in your marriage.

8) Making your marriage a priority :- It will amaze you to know that lots of couples now never give thoughts about their marriage again once they get out of the house in the morning.

All they care about from that moment is their work and the business of the day.

But, a good spouse that has the interest of the marriage in mind will always remember his marriage, his spouse and the children all the time.

He/she is always on the plan on how to make things worthwhile in his relationship with the family.

If you are the type that never cares, it’s time to turn back and make your marriage a priority.

Finally, Decide on what ways to help your marriage grow stronger, Remember, it all depends on you to do that.