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Having kids and maintaining a happy marriage

imagesTo have a baby is one of the blessings to couples, especially when they are enjoying a loving, strong and a stable marriage.

When you are planning to have a baby, someone who will require more love, time and attention from you, have it in your mind that your family will experience a great change.

If you are not careful, the coming of a baby can pose more challenge on your marriage and can bring a strain between you and your spouse.

There is bound to be some sleepless nights for at least eighteen years. Those responsibilities and pressure that comes with the up keep of a baby will steal those privacies you once enjoy with your spouse..

The birth of a baby brings couples together or keep then father apart, depending on the (pre-baby) relationship the couples have.

Here are the things you must do to retain love in your marriage after having children

Have in mind that your role has increased-:

When children starts coming into a home, the roles and activities of the husband and wife increases to two or more. You must try to fulfill your roles a wife or husband as well as the role of a parent without compromising your children’s need or neglecting your own values.

It takes time and energy to raise children; the love between you and your spouse is also shared among two or three persons now.

Take time to have fun alone away from your children.

Have plans to go out at a secluded place where you can enjoy yourselves together without your children. You can do this at least one week.

Talk about the two of you at those moments and not the kids remember you must know that your relationship as husband and wife matters in having a stable marriage.

Never give up the things you enjoyed before the coming of the children

There maybe many things you enjoyed doing in your marriage together with your spouse. You must not give it up because of the children. If you enjoyed taking a work together, make sure you continue doing it. Remember if you want to give your children a good life, you must firstly enjoy it with your spouse.

Include family time into your marriage

While it is very important to have enough time to enjoy as couples, it is also more important to have your family time, because both of them are the pre requisite for a happy marriage. Family time helps to make everyone in the family to be more united with each other. It also give you room to understand to know your children pretty well and to be part of their life.

Show affection

Understand that affection is equally important in marriage just as having sex is. Validations, complements, eye contacts, showing full attention and embracing each other are both rewarding to your marriage and it is also an important example to your children.

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