I had the pleasure to interview some couples about their own views concerning this subject matter and listen to what I got from them.
85% of them gave me the answer that marveled me. They said “if it is not because of child bearing, I wouldn’t have married” If you ask me, I will tell you that marriage is sweet if and only if you know what it takes to make it sweet. Did you see what I said in that last statement? It simply means that the sweetness and the sour taste of your marriage depend on you.
One important thing you must have in your mind is that it can never be all that rosy. There must always be ups and downs. The must even be the things you will see that can make you want to run or divorce. The most important thing to note is that divorce is not an option when you see all these things.
You can actually work on your marriage and get it back on the feet again. However, you must get yourself acquainted with these things, so that you know how to tackle it when it starts rearing up its ugly head. Below are the things you may see.
When money stop flowing the way it used to.
Money is very crucial in marriage.There are times in the marriage when money flows very well, probably because there are good jobs or good business that yields money. At those times of income flow, there is always love and joy, all challenges about money are been solved, and all need are meet without much ado. However, there may be times that the money will stop flowing for some time as it used to. Then many things starts coming up; it is now shouts and quarrels. That is not the best thing to do.Always have in mind that one day things will be better again. It doesn’t matter how long. It will be well again.
When he/she pays more attention to the children and not you.
Couples pray for the gift of children in their marriage. However, at times it looks as if the arrival of children brings about reduction in the intimacy between them. Yes of course, now more attention is given to the children, that couples have fewer times to share together. A friend of mine went the extent of taking pictures with the children forgetting their mother. Listen to what the wife told me when I visited them. She said “ any time I look at those pictures, I feel like I am not welcomed here”. Would you rather want your spouse to have this thought? Now listen to what you will do to save yourself the stress. Always show your spouse that he/she is important as well as the children.
When your Sex life becomes dull..
Sex is an indispensable factor in every marriage. However, there are times when it looks as if the sex life of your marriage has become dull. Most of the common reasons for this is the disparity in the sexual responsiveness or libido of the individual partner. When this happens, the next thing to do is to try all you can to restore sex in your marriage.
When there is no more emotional intimacy.
There are times in the marriage when everything seems to become cold between the couples. This usually happens after so many years of marriage. There is no more emotional relationship between couples, no more time for cuddling, no more time for affectionate touching, no more laughing or talking together. At these moments, you may want to divorce; wait! You can get it back again.
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