5 Important ways to revive your marriage sex life

good sex, satisfying your spouseLack of sex or boring sex has become another big issues in marriage, which if not properly handled can destroy even the most happiest marriage.

After so many years in marriage, couples sex life becomes a routine, sexless or even boring, and one of the chief course of it is when there is a disconnect.

If your marriage sounds like what I’ve just described above, then don’t think you are alone, and don’t think your marriage is failing when there are lots of things you can do today to save it.

In this post, I will show you 8 things to do to revive your frumpy marriage sex life.

As a relationship coach, I have received so many questions from my clients about sex Like
– How many times can we have sex in a month?


– My wife/ husband are not always excited during love making. What should I do?
– My husband’s manhood suddenly becomes weak during sex?
– My husband doesn’t last long during sex. What is the reason?
If you have asked these questions too, then I have good news for you.


Whether your sex life has become very bad or just stating to wear out, there are so many things you can do stating from today to revive your sex life and get it back to normal again.

In the next 15 minutes ,I will reveal all of them to you.


Here are 5 things you can do to revive sex in your marriage.


poor communication skill, marriage killers,divorce1) Tone up communication :- Let me ask you this question : How good is the communication in your marriage?
From experience, I have found out that most couples are having slot of difficulty communicating with each, and It is even worse when the discussion is about sex.


It is either they are avoiding to talk about it, or they feel so ashamed to talk about it.


However, if you’re serious about saving your marriage and toning up sex in your relationship, then you should not be afraid or ashamed to talk about sex.


If you are not sure how to go about, then here are few tips to help.


– Always start on a soft note: start by telling about your plans to connect more closely with him/her and avoid blame.


Tell your spouse about your fears, expectations, your desire and your concerns and try to be honest about it. It is important you share your deepest feelings during the discussion, don’t hide anything.

You may not say everything immediately, just understand that you may have series of discussion, so don’t talk to long so it doesn’t become boring.

– Never be afraid to tell him/ her what you enjoy sexually and what your dislike.
Conversation is necessary for every couple who wish to tune up their marriage.
– Never talk about about sex problems after having sex, you can do that at a neutral time.


happy couples,happiness in marriage2) Create romantic atmosphere for sweet love :- If you want to enjoy sex with your partner, then understand the need to create romantic atmosphere that will usher you into it.

To create the atmosphere, do these things.
– keep everywhere clean:– It’s not easy to feel romantic where you can’t even have a little space to sit down, because of the untidiness of a place.
So tidy everywhere and make it convenient for passion to flow.


– Groom yourself :- Keep yourself fresh and clean, put on a clean outfit and wear good perfume too.

Sex was created to work with the state of mind and the environment.

Make sure you removed anything that can cause distraction during sex.



Wear sexy dresses :- This will help you to create the atmosphere of sexy.

Make sure your night wear is transparent enough to show the curves and the important places, and also make your male partner wear sexy boxers and underwear too.



– Never make sex a routine:- Most couple has made there sex life a routine.

They believed it is only during the bedtime or when the want to have baby is when there is need to have sex.

No! in marriage enjoying sex means more than that.



In other to keep your sex life from being boring, then you should be having sex any time, any how, and any place.
Make your partner look forward to having sex with you and yet he/she can’t predict when or how. Just be unpredictable.



quality time,happy couples3) Creating time just to touch:– Does that sound familiar to you?


Understand that your sex organs are not all you have when it comes to having good sex with your spouse.
You have your hands also.
Schedule some times just to touch yourselves without pressuring it to lead to sex. Caress, tickle and give each other a good “sexual touch”.



Have bath together, hold hand, and squeeze each other without expectations to have sex.



Some times all you need are those touches and suddenly the fire will be kindled and the result is a passionate love making.



  • Ask for those things you want :- I don’t mean you should black mail your spouse before you give sex. Absolutely no.

What am saying is that you should be open enough to let your partner know where and how to touch you passionately.


4) Know what turns you on and off, know what fires you up.


Everyone has different hot spots.
To some, it is when you kiss their nape, when you touch the breast or penis. Some enjoy it when you read erotic stories.



Just find out what your hot spots are and voice it out romantically.


Remember ,your spouse is not a magician to know all these.


It’s really good that you speak up, when he/she is not getting the job done, however, make sure you don’t say it as a blame, it can kill the mood.



5) Exercise:-Physical activities is paramount and can help you improve your sex life. This is because whether your body will respond actively to sex depends on how good blood flows through your heart, and exercise will help you achieve that.


Engaging yourself more with aerobatic exercise will help to strengthen your blood vessels and heart.


Obviously, having a good sex depends on how good your overall well-known being is, therefore have exercises often and see how active you will be during sex.



Finally:- If you want to get things work very well in your marriage, you should put more care into developing your sex life.

The areas I have pin pointed in this post are the good part to take when all you need is to revive your sex life again.

As for how many times couples should have sex, that depends on your agreement as couples.

23 Red Hot Bible Verses to navigate your marriage Storms

bible verses for couples,love, happiness in marriageSurvey shows that every marriage goes through one challenge or the other. But, that is not what I want to talk about today.


However, if your relationship looks exactly like what I described earlier, question is where do you go for guidance?
– To your friends?
– To your parents?
– or do you swallow it yourself?

Wherever you get your guidance purely describes how great or less important it will be.


Let me tell you a place to get the best guidance in life.


If you are a good bible student, you will know that God gave us the bible to quide us, and whether you are a newlywed couple, husband and wife, or probably you married 10 years ago, you can get whatever guidance you desire from the word of God.


In this post, I will show you 23 Red Hot bible passages that will help you navigate the storms of marriage.


If you are ready, then let’s move ahead.


23 Red-hot Bible verses to navigate your marriage storms.

For Power and strength of marriage


1) Ecclesiastics 4 verse 12 :-
“Though one may be overpowered,two can defend themselves.
A cord of three strands is not quickly broken.”


2) Mark 10 verse 9:- “What therefore God has joined together, let not man separate.”


3) Amos 3 verse 3:-
Can two walk together, except they be agreed?


From these bible verses, you will realized the importance of living and working together as a team.

Bible clearly stated it that one can chase one thousand and two can chase 10 thousand. It is only God that can tell us how the arithmetic can to be.

But, the description is united you can stand as couples, but divided you will fail.

So learn to work as a team and make your relationship become stronger by the day.



4) Ecclesiastics 9 verse 9:– Enjoy life with your wife, whom you love, all the days of this meaningless life that God has given you under the sun—all your meaningless days.
For this is your lot in life and in your toilsome labor under the sun.

5) Ephesians 5 verse 25:- Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her.

6) 1 Peter 4 verse 8:- Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sins.

7) Proverbs 5 verses 18- 9:- )
May your fountain be blessed,
and may you rejoice in the wife of your youth.
A loving doe, a graceful deer—
may her breasts satisfy you always,
may you ever be intoxicated with her love.

8) Proverbs 31 verse 11- 12
The heart of her husband trusts in her,and he will have no lack of gain.
She does him good, and not harm, all the days of her life.

9) 1 Peter 4 verse 8:- Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sins.

10) Titus 2 verses 4, 5:- Then they can urge the younger women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled and pure, to be busy at home, to be kind, and to be subject to their husbands, so that no one will malign the word of God.

There is absolutely nothing better than love. Bible told us that love covers a multitude of sin and love is the greatest of all the commandments.

In any marriage were there is great love, there is absolute peace and harmony.

The opposite is also present were there is no love.

commitment in marriageBE COMMITTED TO YOUR MARRIAGE

11) Malachi 2 verse 16:-
“The man who hates and divorces his wife,” says the LORD, the God of Israel, “does violence to the one he should protect,” says the LORD Almighty.
So be on your guard, and do not be unfaithful.

12) Philippians 2: 16:- as you hold firmly to the word of life. And then I will be able to boast on the day of Christ that I did not run or labor in vain.

13) James 4 verse 17:- If anyone, then, knows the good they ought to do and doesn’t do it, it is sin for them.

14) Psalm 133 verse 1:– Behold, how good and how pleasant it is for brethren to dwell together in unity.”

15) Genesis 2 verses 23- 24:-And Adam said, This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man.
Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.

16) James 4 verse 17:- If anyone, then, knows the good they ought to do and doesn’t do it, it is sin for them.

Commitment is important in all lives endeavor.  When you are committed to anything, then you make every effort to make it work out good.

Where there is commitment in your relationship, everyone works towards the success.




17) Ephesians, 4 verse 2 – 3:-
Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love. Make every effort to keep the unity of the Spirit through the bond of peace.


18) James 1 verses 2-4:– Trials and Temptations
Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters, whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance. Let perseverance finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything.


19) 2 Corinthians 4 verse 18:-
So we fix our eyes not on what is seen, but on what is unseen, since what is seen is temporary, but what is unseen is eternal.


All these verse are teaching us to learn how to be patient and also forgive our spouse.


Never keep track of the wrongs, remember, there were times when you believed your partner could never be wrong, and those day were the time everything were moving well.


If your should try and remember how happy both of you used to be, then you will learn to forgive and be patient with your partner.




20) Proverbs 24 verse 29: Do not say, “I’ll do to them as they have done to me; I’ll pay them back for what they did.”


21) Malachi 2 verses 14- 15:-
You ask, “Why?” It is because the
LORD is the witness between you and the wife of your youth. You have been unfaithful to her, though she is your partner, the wife of your marriage covenant.
Has not the one God made you? You belong to him in body and spirit. And what does the one God seek? Godly offspring. So be on your guard, and do not be unfaithful to the wife of your youth.


22) Ephesians 4 verses 31- 32:– Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice. Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.


23) Ephesians 4 verses 11:- The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil.


Love yourselves, trust yourselves but the most of all is to treat yourselves well at all time.

Out of millions of people in the world, you choose each other.


So forget other side attractions and live for each other. That is one of the tools you have to make your relationship move forward.

9 simple but not mostly used ways to ensure the success of your marriage

happy marriage, how to ensure a successful marriageMaking a marriage successful is not a rocket science , you will be shocked that most of thing you neglect are the things that can change the status of your relationship.

See this it will help you in your relationship.

Marriage is not a day job, It is not even monthly subscription: it is a life long commitment and so it requires a good planning and daily nurturing to make it successful.
My advice to you today is to take your time and review all your plans concerning your family.
The reason why people opt out of their marriage is because they don’t have better information needed to make a relationship work successfully.
In this post, I want to reveal to you 9 ways to ensure the success of your relationship.
Here they are
1) Be Truthful :-

I have come to understand that one of things that can bring chaos in a relationship is not being straight forward with your spouse.
Discussing issues openly without hidden motives or agenda goes straight to the heart and make everyone feel secured.
Transparency and openness brings authentic relationship among couples. And having a successful marriage means two people with flaws understand themselves too well to stay together.
ensuring success in your marriage2 Trust:

What is the level of trust in your marriage? Only you can answer that, but understand that the success of your marriage depends greatly on the level of trust that exists between you.
Whenever trust is broken in any relationship, every other part of the relationship becomes effected,
Of course, every good relationship is dependent on the foundation of trust.
However, it is not Just about sexual trust, but :
a) Trust that you will not reject, control or harm one another.
b) Trust to love one another,not having any ulterior motives in mind.
c) Trust to make your marriage a top priority.
d) And then being faithful sexually.
If you really desire to sustain your marriage to the end, then you must know how to build trust in these four areas I mentioned above.
ensuring a successful marriage3) Love each other passionately :

If I asked you to describe your marriage, what would you have to say about it?

Is it loaded with passion?.
It doesn’t matter if you just got married or you were married a long time ago.
Let me tell you that passionate marriage is not only possible, but you can achieve it if you really want to.

We describe a marriage as passionate when there is good presence of “quality positive emotions ” in a relationship, which goes beyond a good sex life.
Question is, how do you stir this passion up in your relationship?

Here are simple ways to do that
(a) Flirt together :- Marriage doesn’t mean stop pursuing your spouse as many of us think.
Take time to start dating again like before, when you desire to have him or her around you all the times.
(b) Be Positive :- It is obviously easy to focus only on those things you don’t like about your spouse or concentrate only on the things she or he is supposed to be doing, but not doing it.
But, let me tell you that it will only destroy the passion you are craving for.
The only way to avoid it is by been grateful and appreciative even to the smallest things he/ she does.


commitment in marriage

(3) Be totally committed to your Marriage:- Always see yourself as the only instrument for the success your marriage.

It is true marriage works better when couples work as one.
However, to be more committed to your relationship means you are ready to sacrifice greatly to it’s success.
There are times when things will not look good, but you are ready to say ” I want my relationship to succeed so I will do whatever I could so that things will start working again and better.

(4) Understand that marriage have it’s own life :- One thing the young couple find hard to imagine is what marriage will be like in years to come.
The fact remains that no one will expect a relationship to be static, because nothing in life stays the same forever.
If you have children and grandchildren, your children will grow and bring new joy or challenges, and when you pleasures and problems with your grandchildren, the bring special effects on your life as couple.
– When you decide take a new job and you partner decided too, then that will bring a new growth into your marriage.
Every matured relationship feels and look different form the young ones and you’ll be more satisfied if you will achieve that.
(5) Never plan to change your spouse :-You have heard this so many times, but I wish to remind you again that there is no force you can apply that can force your partner to change and become your dream spouse.
The best you can do is to change yourself first.
Any effort you are making to change your partner will only fail and backfire.
Even when he/she eventually changes because of your constant cajoling, then the next that follows is resentment.
(6) Learn to be grateful and forgive always :- It is good to appreciate whatever your partner does for you no matter how little.
Snowing appreciations means you value your spouse so much.
Forgive your spouse when he/she spills the beans.
Remember no one is perfect, even you.

(7) Keep learning new things about marriage :-There is always so much to learn about everything and marriage is not different.
If you really want success in your relationship, then you should keep on learning new things.
Since you are reading this, I know you want success and it will come your way.
Many marriages are going through challenges now, because they don’t know the next step.
So keep reading, attend marriage seminars and visit marriage therapist if need be.
happy marriage,ensuring a happy marriage(8) Invest more time:- Relationship can newer thrive when you don’t invest time into it.
Every successful relationship needs an intentional good time together of couples and the fact is that the quality time can never be, when quality time is not available at all.
Take the relationship you share with your spouse as a precious ornaments and invest good time on it.
if possible, give at least 15 minutes a day to your marriage and see what will happen.

(9) Communicate effectively :-In every Happy marriage, communication is the most important Key that made it so.
The happy partners have more time to talk their children, finances and other things.
They also talk about their hopes, dreams, fears and anxiety.
They never hide their feelings for each other and they pay quality attention when the other partner is talking.

Finally .Ensuring the success of your marriage starts in your mind.
If you really want to achieve it, then you must follow the step I shared in this post.
And remember, happy marriage will not come by merely washing. you have to do the needful to get what you desire.

Thanks for reading. I am still your friend Murphyaik.
See you at the top.

How to Recharge your Marriage

Valentine is here again. it a time to take stock of your relationship and know if love still exists and it will be good if you’ll think and apply a more perfect approach in other to recharge your marriage /relationship.

We usually feel disappointed when we want to use our cars and discover that the battery is completely down, or maybe you want to make an important calls, only to realize that it’s completely out of power.

However, when something is of utmost importance to us, it becomes imperative to make sure that it always charged up.

To put simply, using the concept and relating to your marriage, you’ll understand that if your marriage is really important to you, then you’ll try everything there is to make it the best.

Wouldn’t you make it a point of duty to keep the relationship you share with your partner red-hot?

Everyone of us desires to have a fully charged marriage, but we are always lost in the sea when it comes to the steps we need to take to achieve just that, since there is no manual, or any plug on your spouse’s body were you can just plug into electricity for charging just like telephone.

However, it is not a rocket science when you want to re- charge your relationship.

Granted, in this article, I will show you very simple ways to add daily dose of energy to your marriage.

1 Prayer:-

I obviously know that this can freak you out, but i am fully convinced prayer is just one intimate act couples share together.

Prayer is a weapon you”ll always make use of when things looks somehow in your relationship, because you can’t do it alone. Read Proverb 5 verse 3 and you will be fully persuaded that only you can’t do the work.

It’s true God cannot come down to do the nurturing for you, but wisdom is all you need, and only God can give wisdom.

Learn to pray in and out of season for your marriage and your partner , holding hands.

That will bring you more joy to your marriage.

2 Write love note:-

Intrigue your partner by writing love notes. Hide them in secret places, but where your partner can see it; in her wardrobe, dressing table,his pocket, on his car seat.

Getting an unexpected love notes, especially in the morning can bring an awesome and equality evening of intimacy, and help to keep passion strong. If you have not been doing that, then start today.

3. Romantic date helps:-

In February twenty four 2012, a report was released by the National Projects of the University of Virginia, that date nights is one of the important ways couples can have some more time for themselves.

This is true, because during date nights/ romantic dates, couples have more time to shower love to each other, they also have more opportunity to communicate: and good communication helps them to understand each other better.

Date night/ romantic dates helps partners to rekindle the the romantic sparks that helps to sustain love and joy.

4 Switch off and switch on:-

Technology have helped to make life easier, and has also jeopardized our relationships. We spend good time with our electronics gadgets, more than we do to our marriage.

If only couples will learn how to unplug from their gadgets for some time and concentrate more on time with their spouse, things will move better, and their relationship will thrive better.

5 Learn together:-

No one knows it all. Make it a date to learn and learn and learn, just keep learning and growing as couples.

Share interesting books, videos and memories together. It will help to boost your relationship.

6 Give special gifts :-

Giving gifts is a medium for couples to express love to each other. Although not the only way, however, if you understand how important gift is to your partner, then you must also know how to give good gifts to him or her. Remember, you don’t have to break a bank to buy gifts for tour partner. Just give with your heart.

7 Create planning time:-

Having a successful marriage/ relationship is not an easy task, and it doesn’t come by merely wishes. You have to plan it, just the same way you plan you business.

It calls for creating special time when you or both of you plan about the next steps to take to get things working again. So take sometimes off from work or plan a vacation for both of you to do the planning.


If you desire to recharge your marriage, you should try and do whatever is necessary to achieve that.

I am pretty sure most of the points I listed here will be a good start for you.

So I have done my part now, the rest depends on you.

I am still your friend murphyaik.

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Remember sharing is caring.

Marriage makeover: 8 Tricks to write Super Romantic Love letter to your spouse.

romantic love letter to your spouse, valentin's dayValentine is here again and I want to show you another way to spice up your marriage doing what you know best to do.

Am talking about writing love letter to your spouse; the type of letter that will take your spouse through a Rollo coaster of passion.

Do you want partner to start seeing you as a romantic? You will be just that after reading this article.


I can see your face lit with smile now; you are just being reminded of how things were when love was young in your life.

Trust me; I know how you use to feel whenever you are writing or when you received a love letter from your loved one; nothing else feels good than that.

But things are not smooth again.

Obviously, when you were trying to win him/ her, you did almost everything you could to make your loved one feel loved, you want to get in touch by all means, and you want to show that you really care.

You could spend 4- 6 hours on phone or write 500 – 1000 words just to express your feelings to him/her.


But where has the love gone to now.

Now you realized that things are not the way they use to be. You really don’t even have enough time to connect with your spouse any more, due to the daily activities like taking care of the children, your job, the house chores, and so many other things.

In a situation like this, the only weapon that’s left to keep romance alive is to write romantic love letters to him/her.

Question is how are you going to write the letter now?

But, don’t worry; I am here to help you through some of the steps of writing the type of letter that will make you super romantic once more.

So drop everything you are doing now and get yourself a glass of coffee, because we are going old school.

Let me reveal to you what will start happening to your marriage after writing this letter.

  • Your partner will start seeing the new romantic partner from now.
  • Your word will make your spouse understand you more.
  • It’s a great way to encourage each other.
  • It is a safe way to share something that is bothering you calmly with your spouse.
  • It’s more romantic.

With all these in mind, let’s get going


letter to your spouse8 Tricks to write super romantic love letter to your spouse.

  • Love letter should be meaningful and specific: – It is good to be specific when writing a love notes to your spouse.

Make your writing meaningful and straight to the point. Remember, the way you write will determine what result you’ll get.

I suggest you make a definite list of the things your spouse did or always do that makes you feel happy.

Tell about those surprise kisses, cooking, those touches and hugs. They’ll invoke sensations that will help to keep your marriage alive.

  • Love letter should be a positive and personal letter:-It is not a laptop or typing machine thing ; give them all up.


You are not writing an exam or writing to your employer; you are simply writing to the love of your life. So get your paper and pen and start writing.


Your letter is all about your relationship and love, that’s why it has to be positive.


Start the letter with special personal greetings that will capture his/her attention, right from the first letter, even the ending part of it has to personal too.


  • He/she will love it neat and attractive too:Did you remember why you are writing this letter? You want to recapture his/her love. Then try and make the letter neat and attractive too.


Let it express all you have in mind to your spouse immediately it enters the hand.


How attractive and neat your letter is, will speak volume to your partner. So choose a good writing material or stationary for it.


You can also spray it with a good smelling scent. It is all about romance.


  • Be transparent and say your heart:Do you have so many things to tell your spouse and you don’t know just how to start? Then this is the opportunity you have been waiting for. Just be open and transparent about your feelings and love for your spouse.

Dig dip into your emotions an let your emotions flow into the sheet as you write. Those words you are putting down in the paper are just an extension of who you are and your deepest feelings for the one you love.


  • Make it a duty to write this regularly:-It is important you make this a regular thing and not just a one-time event. Remember you are interested in putting a smile on your spouse’s face. Writing is one tool that must never lack in your romantic “toolbox”.


Make it a point of duty to surprise your partner with those powerful words from your heart very often..not only during the Val, anniversary.


  • End with love:-As you are writing, use something that sum up your love and passion. Let your spouse know that you will continue to love him/her.


Use an ending note like: I am forever yours, with all my love, am so happy you are in my life, you mean the world to me.


Try and be creative about it and remember to sign your name.

love letter, romantic massages

  • Proof read it well:- After writing, then it is time to proof read your letter. Just make sure it is free from mistakes. Also be sure that your letter conveys the very message you want to send to your love.



You must make sure you letter gets to your love, so deliver it through special delivery method.


Slip the letter under the pillow, in her hand bag, on top of her make up table, on the dinner plate.


Just keep it where he/she will find it by surprise.


Take this article further:


How would you want to have a perfect romantic letter written for you?


If these ideas I have written down here sound good to you, just try and share with your friends on Facebook or twitter.


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