So many marriages are on the verge of breaking up, even as at the time of writing this article. Is this really the wish of couple? Do they really want to break up after coming together? Of course not.
It is always every couples desire to have a sweet family, but somewhere along the line things starts changing. The love they all once knew starts getting sour and eventually breaking up becomes the final result.
If your marriage is in this state, there is a good news for you.
You can actually have a happy and strong marriage today by following this simple steps that I want to share with you now. It may not be a quick fix, but a gradual process.
One important thing to know about having a happy marriage is that it is not a man only or woman only affair, both of you must be involved and committed in making it happen.
So what exactly is it that makes a marriage strong you may ask? It is no rocket science, but just love, understanding and learning.
Have a positive mind about your marriage–
Always have a positive mind about your marriage. From the very beginning of your marriage, make up your mind how committed you want to be in your marriage. This will make you to always be in the repairing end instead of destroying end. You already knew that you want the marriage to be a happy and long lasting one, so what ever your spouse does, you simply call it a mistake, and immediately look for a way to fix it, because you know you are committed to this marriage. Just keep your mind in your main goal which is to have a happy and strong marriage.
Increase in emotional intimacy–
Emotional intimacy is imperative in making your marriage successful. It is simply a sense of closeness with your spouse. When there is an emotional intimacy in marriage, there is closeness, there is more cuddling, more kissing, more communication between you and your spouse. Couple are found sharing more moments alone, may be discussing about their love for each other. If there is no time for both you and your spouse to talk, then try and create that time, it will help to bring back the good times.
See your spouse as your friend–
It is better when you see your spouse as your friend instead of a husband or a wife. This will give you the ability to share more with him or her. Seeing yourselves as husband and wife make it look as if one person is above the other.
Communication is very vital – Communication between you and your spouse is very important. This simply means the ability to share feelings together. Always have time you discuss with your spouse about how to move your marriage forward. Looking at the things you have done so far, think about the mistakes you have made so far and plan how to correct it and move forward.
Increase your emotional bank account-
I decided to add this because it is almost the worst enemy to having a happy and strong marriage. Most at times, the things that brings discord in marriage are those little promises we made to our spouse that we did not fulfill or may be we forgot to execute them. In my own marriage, I realized that I made promises that I did not fulfill, so when I made a new promise, my wife will not believe me. Until I learn how to fulfill my promises, my wife refused to trust in me.
Learn how to forgive–
Another way to have a happy and strong marriage is to learn how to forgive your spouse when he or she offends you. Many people find it hard to say you did something bad to me but I have forgiven you. Since marriage is the coming together of different people from different backgrounds there is bound to be squabbles, but the ability to forgive and forget will make you keep moving as one.
I am sure these points will help you so much to get your marriage back and happy again.