9 simple but not mostly used ways to ensure the success of your marriage

happy marriage, how to ensure a successful marriageMaking a marriage successful is not a rocket science , you will be shocked that most of thing you neglect are the things that can change the status of your relationship.

See this it will help you in your relationship.

Marriage is not a day job, It is not even monthly subscription: it is a life long commitment and so it requires a good planning and daily nurturing to make it successful.
My advice to you today is to take your time and review all your plans concerning your family.
The reason why people opt out of their marriage is because they don’t have better information needed to make a relationship work successfully.
In this post, I want to reveal to you 9 ways to ensure the success of your relationship.
Here they are
1) Be Truthful :-

I have come to understand that one of things that can bring chaos in a relationship is not being straight forward with your spouse.
Discussing issues openly without hidden motives or agenda goes straight to the heart and make everyone feel secured.
Transparency and openness brings authentic relationship among couples. And having a successful marriage means two people with flaws understand themselves too well to stay together.
ensuring success in your marriage2 Trust:

What is the level of trust in your marriage? Only you can answer that, but understand that the success of your marriage depends greatly on the level of trust that exists between you.
Whenever trust is broken in any relationship, every other part of the relationship becomes effected,
Of course, every good relationship is dependent on the foundation of trust.
However, it is not Just about sexual trust, but :
a) Trust that you will not reject, control or harm one another.
b) Trust to love one another,not having any ulterior motives in mind.
c) Trust to make your marriage a top priority.
d) And then being faithful sexually.
If you really desire to sustain your marriage to the end, then you must know how to build trust in these four areas I mentioned above.
ensuring a successful marriage3) Love each other passionately :

If I asked you to describe your marriage, what would you have to say about it?

Is it loaded with passion?.
It doesn’t matter if you just got married or you were married a long time ago.
Let me tell you that passionate marriage is not only possible, but you can achieve it if you really want to.

We describe a marriage as passionate when there is good presence of “quality positive emotions ” in a relationship, which goes beyond a good sex life.
Question is, how do you stir this passion up in your relationship?

Here are simple ways to do that
(a) Flirt together :- Marriage doesn’t mean stop pursuing your spouse as many of us think.
Take time to start dating again like before, when you desire to have him or her around you all the times.
(b) Be Positive :- It is obviously easy to focus only on those things you don’t like about your spouse or concentrate only on the things she or he is supposed to be doing, but not doing it.
But, let me tell you that it will only destroy the passion you are craving for.
The only way to avoid it is by been grateful and appreciative even to the smallest things he/ she does.


commitment in marriage

(3) Be totally committed to your Marriage:- Always see yourself as the only instrument for the success your marriage.

It is true marriage works better when couples work as one.
However, to be more committed to your relationship means you are ready to sacrifice greatly to it’s success.
There are times when things will not look good, but you are ready to say ” I want my relationship to succeed so I will do whatever I could so that things will start working again and better.

(4) Understand that marriage have it’s own life :- One thing the young couple find hard to imagine is what marriage will be like in years to come.
The fact remains that no one will expect a relationship to be static, because nothing in life stays the same forever.
If you have children and grandchildren, your children will grow and bring new joy or challenges, and when you pleasures and problems with your grandchildren, the bring special effects on your life as couple.
– When you decide take a new job and you partner decided too, then that will bring a new growth into your marriage.
Every matured relationship feels and look different form the young ones and you’ll be more satisfied if you will achieve that.
(5) Never plan to change your spouse :-You have heard this so many times, but I wish to remind you again that there is no force you can apply that can force your partner to change and become your dream spouse.
The best you can do is to change yourself first.
Any effort you are making to change your partner will only fail and backfire.
Even when he/she eventually changes because of your constant cajoling, then the next that follows is resentment.
(6) Learn to be grateful and forgive always :- It is good to appreciate whatever your partner does for you no matter how little.
Snowing appreciations means you value your spouse so much.
Forgive your spouse when he/she spills the beans.
Remember no one is perfect, even you.

(7) Keep learning new things about marriage :-There is always so much to learn about everything and marriage is not different.
If you really want success in your relationship, then you should keep on learning new things.
Since you are reading this, I know you want success and it will come your way.
Many marriages are going through challenges now, because they don’t know the next step.
So keep reading, attend marriage seminars and visit marriage therapist if need be.
happy marriage,ensuring a happy marriage(8) Invest more time:- Relationship can newer thrive when you don’t invest time into it.
Every successful relationship needs an intentional good time together of couples and the fact is that the quality time can never be, when quality time is not available at all.
Take the relationship you share with your spouse as a precious ornaments and invest good time on it.
if possible, give at least 15 minutes a day to your marriage and see what will happen.

(9) Communicate effectively :-In every Happy marriage, communication is the most important Key that made it so.
The happy partners have more time to talk their children, finances and other things.
They also talk about their hopes, dreams, fears and anxiety.
They never hide their feelings for each other and they pay quality attention when the other partner is talking.

Finally .Ensuring the success of your marriage starts in your mind.
If you really want to achieve it, then you must follow the step I shared in this post.
And remember, happy marriage will not come by merely washing. you have to do the needful to get what you desire.

Thanks for reading. I am still your friend Murphyaik.
See you at the top.

27 Marriage articles that will guide your steps in Marriage

marriage articlesHere in happymarriagebuilder.com, I have shared so many important marriage articles to clearly show you steps you should take from dating to marriage proper and how to sustain your marriage to the end.

Probably, you have missed so many of them due to your tight schedules.

But don’t get worked up about that: here in this article, I have written down 27 important articles I shared in this blog just to help you navigate the storms of your relationship/ marriage.

If you are ready for that, then get yourself a cup of coffee and sit tight as you read them.

Here are they.

1 First step to happy marriage

2 Five steps to enjoy a happy marriage

3, Rules of a happy marriage.

4 After wedding: Five secrets spouse gave me on how to stay happily married even when the love has vanished.

5 My advice to the newly wedded couples.


The above articles will show you exactly what you know; starting from when you’ve made up your mind to get married and you will also learn about all you should do to sustain your marriage /relationship.



Imparting your marriage


6 How to improve your marriage and make it strong,

7, 15 minutes a day just to breath new life into your marriage.

8, 7 Quick wins to get your spouse to talk to you again after a fight.

9, 7 Marriage sweeteners.



How to make your marriage happier and sweeter.


  1. 10 important deadly mistakes you must avoid in your marriage

11 How to build strong intimacy in your marriage.


12 How to effortlessly locate a good marriage counselor.


13 5 important problems you may likely have in marriage and how to avoid them


14 How to keep love and intimacy alive in your marriage.


15 Dealing with issues in your marriage in 5 simple ways.


Take your time to read those articles above and you will understand how to navigate most of the challenges that comes to your relationship.


 Infidelity in marriage/ relationship


Here are most of the posts I wrote that will show you what cause infidelity in marriage.

From survey,  it was found out that most of the couples that cheats are still very much in love with their partner even as they cheat.


This post’s is to show you the causes of infidelity, the damage it can cause in relationships and how to avoid  it, and how to deal with  it.


Here they are:-


16 How infidelity can destroy your marriage /relationship.


17 Fidelity in marriage


18 6 Important ways of dealing with infidelity in your marriage.


     Marriage Destroyers


Most times what we neglect are the things that finally destroy our relationship.


If you want to avoid those problems, then these articles will guide.


19 11 subtle marriage killers we overlooked in our marriages.


20 15 highly neglected threats to our marriages


21 11 ways you are unknowingly hurting your wife and destroying your marriage.\


22 10 Reasons marriage don’t work anymore.


23 10 things you should never say to your husband.


                                       choosing your spouse


Marriage is good, but you must be careful when making a choice. It is true you will not get any man that will be 100% perfect, but you need to know few things you should be looking at when you are in the marriage market and this article will help you.


24 10 types of women you should never date or marry


25, 7 types of men perfect for marriage.


26 What type of husband are you?


27 Proven ways to get a man proposed to you.


Rounding up


What else do you need? I have written everything you need down in this post, just to help you have a good flow in your relationship.


The rest is dependent on you. Go ahead a read the articles and choose whichever one that will work best for you and then work with it.


Remember, to share the post with your friends on Face book, twitter and other social media.

8 seriously smart dating advice you will obviously disregard

dating ideas, getting marriedIt takes time to establish a good relationship and it also takes carefulness to understand if two people are actually compatible with each other, and that’s why dating/courtship is important when you are ready to settle down.


But there are so many dating advice out there,- on the internet, books, CD’s, seminars, all about the roles of a man and a woman during dating.


While some of them works perfectly well, most of them no longer fit the move of how things works in the world today, and have left both men and women in the middle of the sea, when it comes to finding love.


Question is which report will you accept? Which courtship/dating advice should you adopt now?


In this article, I will show you some dating advice’s that sounds smart, which you should totally disregard.


     Here are few reasons you will read this post carefully


  • you will learn what work and what doesn’t work when it comes to dating


  • It will help you streamline your search for that near perfect spouse.



If you are ready for that, then let’s go.


               8 smart dating advice you should disregard.


dating, love1 Every dating must lead to marriage:-  Although this sounds so sweet and true, but it is not true. Every dating doesn’t result to marriage.


It is important to have the full purpose of courtship which is marriage in mind when you are dating, but that doesn’t mean it will result in marriage.


Dating is surely a time to mingle with someone; and a time people know if two of you is fit for each other.


But, if you find out that you are not compatible with each other, your next step is to quit and go your separate ways.


If all things are good, then you are free to go ahead and marry.


You must always be ready to let go of any relationship that didn’t work out.


Don’t see it as a failure, but as a learning process.


getting married, no good guys2 The good guys are all taken:- That’s also a lie. There are lots of nice guys out there, and believe me when I told you that your man is there waiting for you to show up.


Men are like buses, when you miss one, another man will surely appear.


Like I always say, be willing to let go of any that didn’t work out well; keep searching and praying, the man God reserved for you will come to you.


3 Date more than one man:- You have heard that it is good to date more than one man before you chose the right from the crowd.


But, I implore you to ignore that advice. It is counter intuitive to your plans of focusing, and anxiety about whom to chose, and you’ll always be worried about hurting someone else.


My question is this, what would you do, if they find out? You may end losing all.


Just stick to one man and see if it will work out for both of you.


4 You must offer sex to make him marry you:- One thing I know is that sex can’t keep a man who does not wish to be kept.


Sex is not a criterion for marriage.

The point is that any guy that wants a committed relationship with you, may not pressure to have sex as you are dating, especially when he is considering a long time relationship.


Again sex was designed as ‘ a response to love and not a foundation “. It should be used as a seal and cement that holds an already established relationship.


The fact is that the same guy you want to sleep with in other to get married could also be ready to lay another woman out there just to taste the water.


That’s the reason I said sex is not a criteria for marriage.


5 You’ll get to know more about your partner during dating:-  It is possible you can know few things about your would be partner during dating, but not all.


Study conducted in 1997 shows that only couples who have stayed longer could know each other well.


The length of courtship is usually not enough to know him/her that well.


Just seek to know as much as you can, and if you eventually commit to each other, then everything will be clear to you.


6 Disregard last minute date invites: – You got  a massage  from your date on Monday morning asking for a date  in the evening.


With excitement you told your friends in the office about it, and your were bombard with different advises.

Some said it’s good to honor it, and other asked you to play hard to get.


Now, you want to make your date understand that you are the busy type, and that you are mindful of your hubbies and that you prefer to socialize with your friends than any other thing.


Did you know you could be missing out a lot doing that?


Unplanned dates are always unforgettable.


7 Allow him pay for the first date:-Although this was practiced by our parents, but it doesn’t work in our time.


Expecting a Man to Pay on your first date look sounds good, but in our world today it looks presumptuous.


Although most men like to pay on the first date but there is nothing wrong if you can ask him to let you pay: but if he insists, then let him do that,  but offer to pay the next time.


dating, marriage8 Let the guys make the first move: – This sounds so romantic but it  is old fashioned.


Though courting is not dead, but it’s good to see dating with a fresh mind and with open heart.


You have the power to ask that person you’ve been chatting and speaking with online for a date or may be ask your date for a second rendezvous.


Remember, if you don’t ask,  you will not receive. So go ahead and make the first move.




I have done my part by showing you 10 dating advice you should completely disregard.


They sound so sweet, so romantic, and yet they are not worth given a second thought to.


Besides, I always implore my readers to look inside them for a good guidance in everything.


Always remember that the best advice that works perfectly well is the one you give yourself.



7 marriage sweeteners

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