Read My Personal Happy Marriage Story and Learn from it Too

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Today, I want to share a very important story that will inspire all my readers. I want to share my personal happy marriage story.

 
I decided to write this story with regards to so many questions I get from my readers. I have no reason to doubt that this story will inspire someone to start writing his or her own happy marriage stories or maybe when you would have tried some of the tips I have written down here.

 
It all started in 2014, when I made up my mind to get married. I had long lists of what type of woman I want to marry.

 
1. Tall
2. Fair in complexion
3. Beautiful
4. Quiet
5. Church going type
6. Hard working
7. A good cock
8. Prayerful and so on.

 
The list was actually so long.

 
But let me tell you one thing that will give you the shock of your life now; I was not able to get half of the things in my list, and yet I can prove to you that my spouse is the type of woman every man will want to have.

 
Now this is why I said this: never think you will get up to hundred % of your own list if you are still searching. It takes stepping into the water for the water to divide. You know what I am talking about?

 
In 2005 ( 10 years ago) I met and married my darling wife (cherish). One mistake I made at that time was believing that I know everything there is to know about marriage, but even the fundamentals of marriage were so strange to me.

 
Now this is what happened next.

 
After going down the isle and saying the “I do thing” Life started; yes! life of a married man. It was a new life altogether. Everything changed, more responsibilities added. I was doing the superman. I thought I could make things happened on my own. But things where crumbling very fast. One day I decided to hand everything over to God. I let Him take over from where I stopped, then everything started changing and taking shape again.
Then we learn t what I did not know before, and could not even know had I not handed everything over to God.

 
Here are the things we learned

 
Pay close attention to all am going to share here. Those are where my happy marriage story started.

 
(1) We learned that marriage is a union of two different people who came together bringing two different unfinished businesses:-

 
These unfinished businesses were the things that created so many problems in our marriage at the early stage. We also learned how to work on our maturity, and then slowly, our relationship began to to mature also.

 
(2) There where every need for us to change as life changes:-
When one decides to grow, there is every need to adapt to the different stages of life, and to also know that different stages of life comes with different gifts and challenges to marriage. Until we recognized these, we started making adjustments and then we started growing with each stage we passed.

 
(3) We learned and accepted each other:-

 
We both came to the realization that we have different views to the same opinion. Most of the things that triggers my wives love and joy were not the same things I feel. The things I am sensitive to also were different from my wives. When we found out that we could not change each other, we accepted ourselves the way we are.

 
(4) We learned the importance of saying of saying “ I am sorry”:-

 
One thing is certain in every marriage; there must be quarrels and uproars. However, there is every need to quench the fire immediately even when you are not the course of the problems.

 
All these are the different things I learned and also inculcated in my marriage that gave me the reason to write this my personal happy marriage story.

 
I sincerely believe that someone has been able to learn something from this article.

 

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These are some Happy Marriage Bible Verses to help you Build Your Marriage

index2What are the Lords views on marriage? Are there happy marriage bible verses that one could learn from in the bible? These are the questions I get from my readers every moment.

 

Obviously you can never talk about happiness in any relationship or marriage, without talking about the giver of happiness, which is God.

 

If you are having in mind to marry someday, or you are already married, you must hand everything over to the creator who knows everything and He will teach you what exactly it means to have a happy marriage.

 

This institution called marriage is not and should not be taken for granted. Remember it is a representation of the love Christ Has for the Church; so it must be entered with joy and love just as Jesus did for the church.

 

In this article, we are going to consider so important happy marriage bible verses, to know exactly our Lord’s view on this subject of marriage.

 

Our first happy marriage bible verse is taken from the book of

 

  • Proverbs Chapter 18 verse 22 ( NIV)

He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favour from the Lord. One significant fact about this bible verse is that it reveals to us that God has great interest in the marriage. The same way Jesus was married to the church. God has promised that His favour will follow any man that finds a wife. His reasons for giving you favour is because He wants you to celebrate your love and marriage.

 

  • Proverbs 19 verse 14 (Amplified Version)

Houses and riches are the inheritance from the father’s, but a wise, understanding and prudent wife is from the Lord. The best things of life come from God and can only be from Him. To have a happy marriage, you must have a wise, understanding and prudent wife, which only God can give. So why not ask God now that you are looking to marry, or ask Him today as a married couple to come and take over from where you are now. That could be the best decision you have taking in life.

 

  • Colossian 3 verse 18 ( New American Standard).

Wives be subject to your husband, as is fitting in the Lord.

 

In this verse of the scripture, the Lord wants you to be truly and deeply committed to your husband. No matter how things are, you must remember to always love and cherish him.

 

  • Colossian 3 verse 19 ( New American version

Husband love your wife and do not be harsh with her. God gave a command to man to love the wife. Let your go to no other woman but your wife.

 

Love as it is written in the bible, covers multitude of sin. If you chose to marry this one person fro the multitude of people, then you must be committed to loving him/her also. Love is not easily provoked, it keeps no record of wrongs but rejoices with the truth. Couples are expected by God to love on daily basis.

 

  • Proverbs chapter 12 verse 4

An excellent wife is the crown of her husband. To a great extent, every happy and strong marriage takes shape from binding and loving character of a good wife. Ask God to give you a noble wife and you will enjoy your marriage.

 

  • Proverbs chapter 5 verse 18 and 19c

Let your fountain be blessed, and rejoice with the wife of your youth. 19c : and always be enraptured with her love. Every day, you are expected to find a new reason to love your spouse the more. Always remember the first day you met him/ her, let it be captured in your consciousness and pour your love on him or her without stopping.

 

  • Ephesians chapter 4 verse 26

Be angry and do not sin, do not let the sun go down on your wrath. As the day goes by, there must be challenges and fresh troubles that will come your way. Do not carry over the wrath of Monday into Tuesday; allow it to go with Monday. It does not matter what your partner did to you, try and settle it immediately. Be slow to record the evils done, but be swift in mercy. Mathew 5 v 7 says “Blessed are the merciful for they shall obtain mercy.

 

My next bible chapter in the list of happy marriage bible verse is

 

  • Ecclesiastes chapter 9 verse 9

Enjoy life with the woman you love all the days of your fleeting life, which He has given you under the earth, for this is your reward in life and in your will to which you have laboured under the sun.

 

This chapter is all about the joy that will be present in your marriage when you marry the right person. When you are still searching, search carefully so that your days may be long. If you are already married, enjoy your spouse.

 

  • Ephesians chapter5 verse 31

For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two of them shall become one flesh.

 

This opens the mind of couples to see each other as one, having left both families to form a single family. That ties like a bond to both of the partners to be happy and ensure a happy home. They must cultivate a sense of commitment, considering the interest of the other partner first.

 

The last in the list of happy marriage bible verse is

 

Mathew chapter 12 verse 25.

 

And Jesus knew what was in their mind and said to them every kingdom divided against itself is brought to desolation, and every city or house divided against itself shall not stand.

 

This verse of the scripture have always been one of the favorites to the Christians, but we have not so much given thoughts to what it actually means to couples.

 

Couples should think of their marriage and household as a kingdom when they are reading this. Whit this in the couples mind, couples should try and work together as one anything outside this will bring desolation and separation to them.

 

As you sturdy these happy marriage bible verses written down, I pray that God will give you more grace to work with then.

 

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10 important steps you must not fail to take if you want to have a happy marriage family.

happy marriage, happy family, husband and wifeYou have read so many articles on how to have a strong and happy marriage; you have heard from the radio or attended seminars on the same course. Now tell me, how far you have gone in achieving your aim of making your marriage truly happy. If you have not made so much progress, then this list of 10 important steps you must not fail to do to have a happy marriage and family will give you a good step forward into the success you desire.

These steps have been tested and proven to be what couples needs to take their relationship or marriage to another level,

Say a Prayer Together:-

Praying together as a family is number one in my list of 10 things you must not fail to do if you want to have a happy marriage and family. It is written in the Bible that ‘the family that prays together stays together”. If you and your whole family will start praying together from today, happiness and joy will come and be established in your house.

You must Love Your Spouse:-

Every happy marriage comprises of two people who have love for each other, who are also committed to making the best of each other. You must be there always to strengthen your partner when he/she is in need. When love and care is present, peace and love is obvious.

You must no fail to greet your spouse with love first thing in the morning:-

Always choose to greet your spouse with “positive statements” like; it feels good to wake up by your side this morning”. Can you tell the type of atmosphere this could bring that moment?

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You Must not Fail to Send Sweet and Lovely text massages to Your Spouse:-

Technology has made everything possible and fast too. This will help you send lovely and sweet text massages to your spouse while he or she is not closer at that moment. You can send massages like “I can’t wait to see you tonight” or “I miss you.”

You Must not Fail to re-unite by hugging yourselves:-

Normally when couples re-unite after the day’s work, they start with critiques instead of appreciations. You will hear one partner saying to the other“why have you not made dinner?, why have you not cleaned the sitting room and so on. However, if you really want to have a strong and happy marriage family, you must decide to re-unite with hugs and kisses, instead of nagging. At least let the hug last for 20- 30 minutes.

You Must not Fail to Complements Your Partner at the End of Every day:-

In some marriages, couples never feel appreciated, and never show appreciation too. This usually makes the marriage filled with the sense of been taken for granted.

You must choose to end the day by complementing your partner for any little thing he/ she did

You must not fail to manage your conflicts well:-

It is not as if there is no fight among the happiest couples, it is just that they have the ability to manage their conflicts well.

Conflict management is one of the 10 most important things you must not fail to do if you want to have a happy marriage and family.

You must be Selfless:-

Another important thing in my list of 10 steps you must not fail to do to have a happy marriage family is to avoid selflessness. Many marriages are broken today because of this. Some partners think of no other person than him/herself. Learn to live together as one.

You must not fail to be committed to making your marriage work:-

Everything depends absolutely on you and your spouse. If you want to make your marriage a happy one, then after studying these 10 things you must not fail to do if you want a happy marriage and family, then you must look at where you are not getting it right, then you get yourself committed to working with it. It is only the two of you that can do just that.

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How to Have a Happy Marriage with an alcoholic you love

Happy marriage with an alcoholic, husband and wife, divorce, happily marriedGetting married is what everybody wants to do. But no one desires to have an alcoholic as a husband. What if you are already married to one and you are asking if is possible to have a happy marriage with the alcoholic you love? My answer is yes!and I am going to reveal to you the step by step with no step skipped on how you can contain and enjoy every bit of your marriage.

One thing you must understand this; it is not easy when you are married to an alcoholic as a spouse. It is not also very easy when you could no longer hide the shame you feel when you realizes the pain and frustration he is inflicting on your children and to everyone even to himself. It could be very demoralizing.

However, if you are determine to get yourself committed, and then you can find more joy in your marriage and family.

Some steps to help you achieve your aim.

Learn how to communicate with your alcoholic spouse:-

Communication is very vital in every relationship, but communication with an alcoholic addict is not that very easy. It may not be easy for you when you talk harshly to him/ her.

There are two steps I think you must follow if you want to communicate effectively with this alcoholic.

(1). Keep your words simple:- Here is what I mean, If he is that type who will come home drunk and late too and starts argument on how lousy and not supportive you are, and that hurts you so much. Then the next day he wakes up with hangover, that may not be the best time to talk about anything. Never try to do anything when he or she still feels drunk. The best you could do is to wait until he or she feels sober and ready to listen.

Then you may choose some words like“Honey you came home drunk last night and started yelling at me”. The reaction here maybe silence or in defensive mood, never mind. Try and tell him or her how worried you are and how your marriage is been affected by the actions. Tell him or her how you may leave the marriage if that continues. This may course a change in his or her attitude. One thing I know about alcoholics is that they are “sensitive needy people” who finds it hard to stand heartache and loneliness. So when you said you may leave the marriage, it may make him change. Remember the change will be gradual.

The second step is saying the truth:-

You must not hide your feelings. Tell everything as you see it. But avoid listing the similar incidents. Let all your approaches be simple and apt.

Take Care of Yourself:-

Remember it is not an easy task to have a happy marriage with an alcoholic. You will have so many burdens emotionally, physically and mentally. Take time to seek advice from your friends that has passed through the way before you. Eat good, have enough exercises, have rest when necessary .Never stop doing the things that empowers you more.

Make plans to take him/her to a rehabilitation center:-

Always have in mind that you could do anything to save your spouse from this drinking habit and that you could do anything that will give you an opportunity to be happily married with this alcoholic you love.

This is why you will try taking your spouse to the rehabilitation center. It will not be easy convincing him/her to accept that.

Let your spouse know that how much you and your children are suffering for his actions as you are proposing to him. When you say this, allow him/her to meditate on the idea. Do not be harsh. Though it may be a hard way, but it is still a good option if he accepts to go with you.

Finally you must be praying for your spouse that the word of God will take pr-eminence in his or her life. With the word of God working in him, you will see your spouse coming to the realization that his actions are the best for him and his family. That will bring change and room for you to live a simple, strong and happy marriage with this alcoholic spouse you love so much.

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