THINGS YOU MUST KNOW ABOUT HAPPINESS IN MARRIAGE AND WHY YOU MUST START FROM THE VERY FIRST DAY TO PLAN FOR THE HAPPINESS YOU WANT TO ENJOY IN YOUR MARRIAGE.

 

Yes, you guessed it. It is that time again…

 

Time for a little tough love… a little “you get the carrot and now you get the stick”…

 

HARSH REALITY IS: There’re 3 things that EVERY great woman wants to know the moment she meets you…

 

It’s simply this:

 

—Are you different?

 

— Do you “get it?”

 

—Is there ANY chance that YOU might be her one-and- only “Mr. Right”?

 

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images12  I really want to bring to your consciousness that happiness in marriage    doesn’t just happen over night; you can not wake up one day to realize that your once unhappy marriage has become a successful one.

 

Of course it doesn’t happen and can never happen like that.
It takes planning, continuous work and nurturing to make a marriage a happy one.

 

Everything about having a successful marriage, starts from the very first moment you made up your mind to get married.

 

To enjoy happiness in your marriage, you must start from making a decision about the type of person you want to get married to in the first place, what complexion, what attitude.

What exactly are the reasons why you want to get married:

 

  • Is it because your friends are getting married?
  • What is your reason for choosing that very person?

 

Probably you think he or she is nice looking.

 

I often suggest to clients to write down 5 reasons about why you want to marry, and how you want your marriage to be.

Those things that you wrote down will always stare you on the face when you want to that a decision that is not right for your marriage. They will make you stand firm during the challenging moments of your marriage.

 

Another important thing to you must do is to know if you are compatible with the very person you want to get married to. Do not move into that marriage because you thought things will change in the future, or you probably think you can change your spouse in the future. There is no need getting married to someone you already know you could not live with.

 

Quit in the beginning when you realized that two of you are not compatible with each other.

 

Always remember that happiness in marriage don’t just happen, but it must be worked out if must happen.

 

When you are sure the person in question is the right person for you, then make plans to work with you spouse to build the marriage. Remember that the success or failure of your marriage depends on the two of you. No one can come from outside to build your marriage for you except the two of you.

 

The next step to take is to decide on your self about your personal commitment in building your marriage to the level you want it to go.

 

Individual commitment is very important when it comes to being happy in marriage. You have this consciousness that you alone could build your marriage. You know you can do this, because you want happiness in your marriage.

 

It is almost every couples dream to have happiness in their marriage, but most of them are not ready to do the primary work; that is why their marriage breaks in the first 2 to 3 years of their marriage.

 

Be ready to do everything you can to keep your marriage happy. Ask for forgiveness when you are wrong. Say sorry when you make mistakes, Say sweet things to your spouse always, never bear any grudge, be quick to forgive and be slow to anger, listen to your spouse whenever there are things to say. And the greatest of them all is to love your spouse even when there is no more reason to love again.

 

Learning to observe these will help you to build a stronger, better, sweeter, healthier and a happier marriage.

 

Talk soon…

 

Your In-House Counselor,

Murphyaik.

 

I don’t want a Divorce (One Important Thing You Must Do If You Want to Avoid Divorce in Your Marriage).

Divorce is the worst thing that could happen to any marriage. I hate divorce with all my heart and I know you do too. What usually comes to my mind when I see couples filing for divorce is this;: Is there nothing that can be done to stop it? Of course there is.
No couple came together to separate the next day. They have plans to live together, have their own children. They have plans for their marriage. However they see thing crumbling at a certain time. Even the greatest couple in this world could divorce if they are not careful to handle issues in their marriages. Are there really things you could do to save your marriage from collapsing? Perhaps you have said it with your mouth that you don’t want a divorce. That is good. It is the beginning of the steps to save your marriage from failing.
This article is not only for those that are having challenges in their homes right now: It is equally important to you even when your marriage is rosy. Consider this as a way to thank God and take a mental snapshot of what you are enjoying right now in your marriage. Some day you may find yourself going through the same, or a person you know may have the same challenge and this may be a very useful tool you may want to have at that point in time.
Check out these points.
Consider yourself first
Take a look at yourself in the mirror. Ask yourself if you are the main curse of the problems in your marriage. Are you the reason why your spouse is filling for the divorce? May be it is because you are not treating your spouse well. You will know better if the fault is from you. Then make a u-turn. Things will start changing if you could only change.
Learn to forgive
If only you could forgive that which your spouse did to you, there may be peace. Most people find it very hart to forgive their spouse. Do not go out or go to bed having any grudge against your spouse.
Remember the first date together
Do you ever consider those good days when you first saw your spouse, how you fall in love, how you could never wait to fall into his loving hands, how you always want to feel the worm touches, the kisses, the hot romances you had together. These thought will make you to say no I don’t want divorce; I want to stay the rest of my life with this person.

Be sincere and ask for sincerity in return.
Sincerity matters in every marriage. Try and be sincere to your spouse at all times and in all things. When you are sure that you are sincere, then ask your spouse for the same in return.
Talk it over with your spouse
Be open to talk to your spouse about the current state of your marriage. Do not pretend there is no problem in the marriage. Communicate your feelings together and solve the problems. You can seek the advice of a good therapist if that would help you sole the issues.

Pray concerning
Praying is always the first solution to every challenge. Take some time to pray for your marriage. Pray for your spouse, pray for your children and for every challenge you notice in your marriage. Remember you don’t want a divorce in your marriage and only God can grant your heart desire.