Important of Sex in Your Marriage (The number One Secret you have not tried in Making Your Marriage A Happy One).

Emotional   I decided to write about this topic “ The importance of sex in your marriage”, because I know that most couples have neglected the power of sex in sustaining their marriage. A lot of couples have been through series of problems in their marriages because they neglected to solve the problem of boring sex life.

Marriage is a very sacred institution that needs day to day attention. It does not end in planning your wedding very well, or having a wonderful honeymoon. It does not even matter if you just married today or you have been married for a very long time, there is every need for constant planning, nurturing and learning. There’s so much more to discover about marriage, and to make your marriage more successful and happy, you must devote yourself to learning those things that will improve the quality of your marriage.

It is a must do.

The sexual relationship of your marriage is one of those aspects of your marriage you need to know more about.
There is a proof that passion in marriage often reduced after a long time of relationship. Couple usually discover that there is a reduction in their sense of humor, urge for sex as well as libido. This could make marriage fall or become boring if care is not taken.

I have seen so many marriages collapsed because there is no sexual satisfaction. Probably, the man or the woman went outside the marriage to get that satisfaction. And let’s face the fact. If your spouse gets the satisfaction he/ she need outside, then it may be very hard for you to get your spouse back.

The reason that couples are not supposed to go out to get sexual satisfaction, calls for you to try everything to improve the sexual relationship in your marriage.

I have listed some of the way you could improve on it.


3 Steps on How to Improve Sex in Your Marriage.


Improve Communication in Your Marriage:– Communication is always important when it comes to making a marriage work better. Make it a priority to improve communication in your marriage. There are so many thing to talk about with your spouse. Talk about your general marriage and family, talk about your fantasies, about your sex life. Communication will increase the closeness of you and your partner. It will also help to bring intimate relationship between the two of you.

Create the Atmosphere:- This start from sending an emotional text massages to your spouse when she/ her is away. Tell those beautiful things that will make your spouse feel loved. Tell him/her how you love to be alone, just the two of you. This will begin to send good signals to him. When the two of you are together in the house, don’t rush things. Welcome him/her with a worm kisses, hold the hands and gently caress them.

Then when you are on the bed, take some time to do the foreplay. This will create an atmosphere for good sex.

Have Quickies :- Do not have a specific time of having sex. Most couple wait till they are on the bed before they could have sex. No! it doesn’t matter where, how, or when. The best is to have quickies. You can have it before you go out for work in the morning, you can have it in the kitchen, at the sitting room, in the bathroom, in the car anywhere that you feel like.
All these will help to improve your marriage boring sex.




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A Better Way to Keep Score and Keep Your Marriage Happy

I know. That’s contrary to what gurus have been spouting since
the day Adam met Eve. So, before you decide I’m some sort of
nut, let me add that I am no-way-Jose advocating the all too
popular tit-for-tat “two rights make a wrong” justification of
your bad behavior by that of your partner. Nope. That is not a
good idea, not if you want a great relationship.

Having said that, it’s time to ‘fess up. We all keep score. Even
the most destined-for-sainthood soul to ever grace planet Earth,
can’t help but notice if their sweetheart “wins” more often than
not, has stepped on their toes one too many times, or has been
wonderful more often than not.

That’s because we assess a thing’s value and make decisions by
quantifying. To determine if the car you’re considering is worth
the price, which house to buy, whether to get a dog, move to
another state, or stay in a relationship, you weigh the pros and
cons. You calculate the pluses and minuses.

In your relationship, points are being awarded and deducted all
day long. Your sweetie brings you coffee in bed, plus five.
Morning coffee follows a night of wild sex, 30-point bonus. You
have a day of nonstop meetings and your sweetheart has lunch
delivered to your office, 20 points. Lunch includes your
favorite cheesecake, 10-point bonus. Your partner borrows your
car and returns it with an empty tank, minus ten. Stopping for
gas makes you late for a meeting, 20 point penalty. Your sweetie
leaves a wet towel on the bed, minus five. It was on your side,
20-point penalty. It’s the fourth time this week, 50-point

It’s this kind of “scorekeeping” we can’t help but do. True, we
don’t give or deduct actual points, but we give greater
emotional weight to what most affects us. If it were otherwise,
the gift of a sports car would have the same “point value” as a
paperback; infidelity would have the same “point penalty” as
being late for dinner.

Every lost point results in a wound to the relationship. Acts of
love, kindness and support mitigate the damage. It’s the balance
of pluses to minuses that determines the health of our
relationship. Given that, shouldn’t it be your goal to earn as
many and lose as few points as possible? It’s easy if you start
every day by asking yourself how you can make your sweetheart’s
day better. Take a moment to clean the cat box even though her
cat doesn’t give you the time of day. Sew that button on his
shirt even though he knows where the needle and thread are kept
as well as you do. Offer to run an errand, have her car washed,
prepare his favorite meal. And never miss an opportunity to go
for the gold. She doesn’t get her Ph.D. every day. He doesn’t
land a big promotion every day. Make those occasions special.

Stop pretending you don’t keep score. Instead, keep score in a
way that reminds you of the big and little ways in which you
love each other. Do it with Frequent Foreplay Miles, a system
for creating and sustaining what I call Total Intimacy. With
Frequent Foreplay Miles any couple-straight or gay, married or
not-can learn how to nix the tit-for-tat and instead build a
rock-solid relationship.

About the Author: Shela Dean is Relationship Happiness Coach,
speaker, and author of Frequent Foreplay Miles – Your Ticket to
Total Intimacy. Her book and advice have helped many couples in
their journey towards improving intimacy and strengthening
marital bonds.